So, I've been reading all the sidebar material and trying to internalize most of it before even trying to do anything so I don't screw up.
I'm in a 10 year marriage that has become a dead bedroom. We don't "lack intimacy" in that terrible way like she won't touch me, can't stand being touched, no kisses etc. Just sex won't happen because she's always tired or self-conscious about her weight (she is in NO WAY fat, just a flabby belly) or a lot of other bullshit excuses. I keep getting rejected.
I've also read a lot of useful posts on MRP on how to deal with rejection (like a peck on the cheeck, get up and just go do something else or leave the house, not showing any negative emotions.)
When I start applying the techniques to deal with all the shit/comfort tests and stop acting like a beta bitch, should I keep trying to initiate sex or should I just stop while I get my shit together? This part really confuses me.