I have been married for 9 years and with my wife since I am 19 I am now 31. Our marriage has been ok but I knew something was wrong when our sex life started slowing down. When we were younger it was good and the best was 6 times in one night. We have two kids together a 7 year old son and a 4 year old daughter.
My wife wants me to wear a condom so she doesn't have to deal with my cum leaking from her vagina. She has an iud and gave me herpes when we first started dating. So I am not worried about getting her pregnant or getting a std. As far as I know we are both monogamous.
This has been an ongoing issue and I told I am her husband and it's normal to do this. She keeps bringing it up during sex and I know she is disinterested in me a lot when we do have sex. Last night I told her I can find someone else to have sex with. She said "if that's what you want to do go do it." I have screwed that up by going nuclear. I deserve a partner that
I have been working on improving myself by lifting 3 days a week, eating healthy, working on improving my finances and being a better father. I have read NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP and am currently reading WISNIFG.
I have been seeing some improvement and it is a slow process and I have a long way to go. I feel as a husband I should be able to finish in her vagina. I am looking for some input on this.
**Update: My wife is pregnant with a copper IUD. She was extremely argumentative over the weekend. I did my best and stayed calm and listened did my best to fog, agree and amplify and so on. She said I was very hard to argue with. I still need to work on keeping my mouth shut. In the past I would yell back at her now I keep calm.
She cursed the name the authors of the books I am reading. Said something about Oprah and that women are not cum dumpsters. Broke her glasses and much more. I bought he a pregnancy test because her period is 5 days late and it was positive.
I told her to go to the clinic and it is confirmed. We are waiting for an ultra sound later today and then I will see what our options are. I am doing my best to stay clam and work through this.