I'm married w/ a young child. I have been beta bux my whole marriage. My wife is a SAHM, I have a 6 figure salary, and am an overweight BB trying to claw out of the depths of the second level of hell and into RP. Gym changes are starting to be noticable as I started the gym prior to RP.
The hardest part of RP to swallow was the fact that I have to accept the fact that my marriage is nuked and going forward I'm working on myself. For some reason I imagined my wife wouldn't react in that manner, however it's been the total opposite.
Sex has been maybe two times a month. When we do have sex it is beyond starfish horrible. Sex is always one position because she claims all the others hurt. I read SGM and attempted some dominance which failed miserably with her in the bathroom for 20 minutes claiming how bad it hurt. This would make sense if I had a 12 inch cock, which isn't the case. I've been sending lots of kino, kisses here and there and still have a dead bedroom. I try to push through LMR and still get the hard no. When told no, I roll over and go to sleep.
My largest problem in my life from what I can tell has been the implied covert contracts that I have littered throughout my social relationships. I have eliminated the covert contracts and my decisions are now FIRM. My wife has said multiple times that "she hates the new me and doesn't know if she can live life like this.". Utilizing RP, I've fogged by saying "I understand, but please don't threaten divorce. If I'm going to divorce you, you'll know because the lawyer will serve you with papers." To which she will respond, "What you don't love me?". I then A&A by "Of course I love you, who else would ?" and smack her ass.
The other common argument is that I have taken all the power out of her life since she's a SAHM and she needs to get a job so she can get credit, bills in her own name, etc, etc, etc. I chalk it up to a woman's equivalent of dread since she's saying she needs a job so she can get an apartment, car, cell phone etc. My common response is "That sounds great and I'd support it 100%". There is never any other action take and that normally stops the argument. To be honest, I haven't taken power from her. Rather I've set clear boundaries and when the she-bitch rears it's ugly head I just A&A, AM, Fog, or leave the damn room. This sends her hamster into maximum overdrive.
However, the threat of divorce seems to be her go-to these days. Just today during my lunch, I met her and my son. I sit in the car and notice my son has markers to which I say "Do you know he has markers?". She gets snipy and comes back w/ an unacceptable tone "If he has markers then YOU take care of it!". I told her that's an unacceptable way to talk to me and she continues the yelling so I informed her I'm getting back in my car and heading back to work.
On the way back to work she calls and says she's done w/ the marriage. I Agree saying "Okay - Let me know when you're moving out" She then goes on to say I don't love her and that I disrespect her. I told her I loved her but would never force someone who hates me to live with me. Conversation is ended with her crying uncontrollably.
Fast-forward a few hours and she calls me at work. Asks me if I want her to make me dinner before she leaves tonight to go out w/ her friends (they planned a night out earlier in the week). I said sure that sounds great, I'll be home at X:XX time.
After typing this I realize I fucked up with the marker situation. I should have just taken the markers from my son initially and never said a damn word. I am continuing the gym lifting heavy weights, rarely break frame, and have eliminated covert contracts and set clear boundaries. I have no fucking clue what to make of all of this. I feel like I live in 2 alternate realities and am constantly being switched back and forth between the two.