All,

I’m wondering what the TRP perspective on this behavior is.

The other day, I stopped by a girl’s place to inspect a piece of furniture I wanted to buy. We were friendly, and then halfway through, her friends showed up to her apt. She introduced me, they said hi, and we discussed the furniture for a second, but in the split second that they began interaction with me, it took no time for the one I was interacting with to switch her attention to the girl selling the furniture - almost as if to purposely move the attention from the newcomer to her own familiar circle.

Now, I’ve noticed this pattern amongst TONS of women introduced to newcomers to a social situation. They find the absolute quickest path to switch the attention from the newcomer to their familiar girls. Then do their best to keep their attention away from the newcomer. Curiously - Ive experienced this happen with both women who are and are not attracted to me (ie later in the social situation I’ll end up making out with/taking home one of the girls, or I’ll end the fraternizing empty handed).

Personally, find this very rude behavior, but I’m the kind of person to immediately engage a newcomer to a social situation to make them feel more comfortable. I’ve also noticed that men act that way much more frequently.

Is this a matter of shyness? Maybe female tendency to groom their social circles? Any thoughts on why women behave like this, and how to penetrate the barrier set up by these women?