It's easy to get caught up in the sea of "help I totally don't have oneitis but There's This One Girl..." and "I'm Indian and how do I get white goddess???". I'm here to bring a little fun to asktrp.
Tell us about your current rotation! Who are they, why are you fucking them, and what did you learn? I'll go first with my most recently busted plate.
25, Latina. Body type is "just finished running a marathon", decent fake tits and that South American ass that catches stares in jeans. Small, light, fun to throw around.
Originally met at a friend's party, but just made acquaintances. I later matched with her on an app, oblivious. She opened with hey...you know me! Played it off. Turns out she just moved to my area, and my buddy was going to set us up anyway.
Side note: this is a perfect example of social proof, albeit through blood relatives. Her aunt LOVED me (went to their house for Copa Mundial), and my friendship with the family gave me an immediate in.
So I played it no different than any other girl, just wasn't as caddish given the shared social circle. First date some drinks and making out, second dinner close to her apartment and sweet talk into "meeting her dog" after.
After I get into the sexual part of the relationship with a plate, I always ask them what they're looking for during pillow talk. This is purely an info gathering exercise. In this case, she said nothing specific but was enjoying how things were going and we'll see. Game on.
This one was typical. After 2ish months I had her over on Sunday, cooked, we fucked like animals and fell asleep on each other. She wakes up, we start talking. She hits me with the "are you seeing anyone else" which I immediately give a yes reply to. She freezes. Uh oh.
Now I never lie when I get this question, but sexual strategy is amoral so I don't reveal everything. They can't handle the whole truth. She pressed for details and I said I was seeing a local girl and it had been going on about a month. She pretty much put on her clothes and peaced out immediately. I knew what was coming - either drop me or ultimatum time. She chose drop. Good for her?
Post mortem analysis says she was recently out of a 5yr+ relationship and just doesn't understand dating high value men yet. She is mostly a good girl, low n count, etc. The drawback to that is unrealistic expectations.
I could have logically pointed out she was the one who said no monogamy required, but that wouldn't have done any good. I only confirmed she wasn't mad and didn't feel deceived before she left. This will allow the hamster to possibly spin its way back to me later, but I've got other options for now.
Moral of the story - it ain't logical or predictable when they break. Always have more.