How are you the prize when you are the one approaching?

Rkingpin · 2019-02-02T12:38:16+00:00

You're going about your daily activities and being the successful man you are, and you've come across an attractive girl.

Now you want to see if she qualifies as someone who's worth some of your time.

There's your frame

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2019-02-02T12:08:54+00:00

“You probably couldn’t tell by looking at him now, but your daddy used to be a real charmer; and that night in the ladies’ room of the Rustler Steakhouse, he chose me.”

-Mama, Talledega Nights

SirKolbath · 2019-02-02T11:43:34+00:00

“I am a missionary, spreading the perfection of God’s most awesome creation with the occasional random slut I see walking down the street. She is lucky that I have taken time from my day to grace her with my presence.”

And eventually I’m going to show her where the missionary position got its name.

TheFredP1ll · 2019-02-02T11:40:06+00:00

Wrong mindset. You live a badass life, and do what you want. If you want to talk to a girl cause you find her sexy, then you do it. She can either see your value and decide to tag along for the ride, or if she doesn't - well, that's her loss, no hard feelings.

KeffirLime · 2019-02-02T13:04:57+00:00

You're not competing with her to be the prize, you're competing with other men.

When you know you've won that battle it's more converting what's voluntarily offering itself up to you rather than labouring to win over her affections.

redhawkes · 2019-02-02T13:38:17+00:00

You haven't understand a thing.

Being the prize:

The attitude dictates that you don’t care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin’. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude.

This is what is called Outcome Indepence. You don't need her.

Another thing, you need to apply push/pull. I almost always tease/qualify chicks when I approach. This is the dynamic you want. Im naturally like that. This also puts her pussy off the pedestal, and she sees that. Hypergamy triggered.

Last thing, you actually need to be the prize. At first, you act like you are, but you do what the prize does and thinks/mindset. After a while, you'll internalize the mindset and it'll became a second nature. It won't work if you're some neckbeard, repeating the mantra.

Lift hard, apply the sidebar, work on your mission and approach everywhere.

chazthundergut · 2019-02-02T18:12:52+00:00

How else can she have the pleasure of experiencing me if I dont approach her?

It would be unkind to deny her that opportunity

thrwy75479 · 2019-02-02T14:11:05+00:00

There are 2 reasons to approach: 1) make her aware of your presence, and 2) show her you're a sexual guy.

In some cases, all the guy has to do, is be there. She sees him, she's wet, and she wants to go. This could be because of how he looks, or it could be because of his status, e.g., he's a known celebrity.

In other—perhaps more common—cases, the guy has to have at least a brief conversation to subtly impress upon her that he's into her.

Think about how much is missing when she hasn't even heard you talk. Your voice, your tonality, your facial expressions, and whether these are aligned with your look, and how you act. Congruency.

Remember, you're the leader, but she has to decide whether to follow you or not. She needs something to go on to make the decision.

You basically present yourself, and alleviate any reservations she may have with plausible deniability, and logistics. Once she's primed, you then lead her to close.

rugged79 · 2019-02-02T18:12:07+00:00

If she didn't have a vagina, would you approach her? Which begs the question... how much is vagina worth, really?

Most women don't have half the success men do. Yet they qualify themselves as equal based solely on the fact they have one. Now, if you don't have anything, then yeah she might be the prize. That's why a lot of RP just starting out have so many questions. It's because when most of them come here, they're looking to get Insta bitches and they broke and overweight.

If you believe you're an interesting man of good character, and honestly work hard at self-improvement and your job, why would she be the prize?

hot_soup19 · 2019-02-03T00:59:44+00:00

Girl approach is when they stand within 10 feet of you hoping you will talk to them, or when they contact you out of the blue for no reason but don't have anything to say.

BACONisKEWLEST · 2019-02-02T16:06:24+00:00

You are choosing. You are the lion picking out the gazelle.

omega_dawg93 · 2019-02-02T17:24:31+00:00

"i'm the prize," is the same thing as rollo says: "make YOURSELF your mental point of origin."

iow, your life is about you, you pursue your goals & passions, you strive to be the best man you can be... and you're confident about it, unapologetic, and generally do not give a fuck about much.

if she wants to join YOUR journey, she'll find her place, know her place, and stay in her place. the shit tests that follow from her will be her attempts to break your focus and/or frame and make HERSELF your mental point of origin, ie., you're here to serve my female wants & needs, ie, "you should cater to my wants and needs bc... vagina."

as we all know, emotions cause female wants & desires to change like TV channels; so that's why you don't do that.

as for the approach, it may take a while, but being outcome independent is all you need to master. a cute redhead was on my radar last night. i got (respectfully) shot down, but that's cool... i did what i wanted and didn't give zero fucks afterwards. my smile and walking away "un-butthurt" (lol) shocked her more than the approach.

Musicgoon · 2019-02-02T18:40:04+00:00

When the king sits at his dinner banquet, does he fret over what he wants to have from the selection that evening? Does he want seconds? Variety?

Making a selection doesn't make you less of a man. Making a selection makes you decisive.

meikyo_shisui · 2019-02-02T13:31:45+00:00

It does appear a contradiction at first, surely if you are the prize then they should be approaching, right?

However. Men have to do the cold approaching regardless of value, which changes the situation. A bona fide 10/10 male could bump into a 7 who's highly interested in him, and objectively be the prize beyond doubt - doesn't matter, she's not gonna be asking for his number, he has to do it. So it doesn't count as non-prize behaviour since it's a requirement. Very occasionally you might find the situation reversed, usually with alcohol involved, but I'd say only by women with significantly lower SMV so who cares about that.

peaceful_strong_man · 2019-02-02T12:09:57+00:00

This is the first post in a long time that actually is correctly put into this subreddit. Most stuff her is boasting and dear diary

SenorSwole · 2019-02-02T23:17:48+00:00

Her being hot deserves the attention of an approach, at least for most of us here. She’s worth a little bit of time, because there’s potential reward from it.

In terms of mentality, you’re graciously giving her your attention. Think Brad Pitt greeting guests entering his party. You’re giving her the chance to experience you.

Resolution437 · 2019-02-03T01:26:27+00:00

I had a party yesterday where i thought this girl was ignoring me the whole time. I was about to give into my approach anxiety yet again. Then I see her and her friend do a familiar looking ironic dance move a high school friend used to do. In that brief moment、 familiarity drowned out the fear. I realise I need to move now or else I'll feel awkward again 、real soon. I approach sideways、tap her shoulders、 lean in and ask "hey are you guys originally from hometown?? I recognize those moves."

To my surprise she immediately replies that she wasnt、 but she does live somewhat close. We had a long conversation going from there and we exchanged contacts.

No hero story of how banged the same night、 sorry. But the point is、she actually appeared happy 、 even relieved I went up and talked to her. She seemed genuinely excited to meet me... despite my inner voice saying "DONT DO IT. SHE IS PURPOSELY NOT LOOKING AT YOU BECAUSE SHE DOESNT WANT YOU BOTHERING HER SHE IS NOT INTERESTED".

That motherfucker. Been listening to that voice for years、and it turns out he was talking out of his ass all this time. That night it really hit me that my fearful、 doubtful inner voice doesn't know any better than i do.

Now how does his connect to acting the prize? In retrospect、that girl was really excited to meet me. But had I ignored her all night、 none of that good shit would have happened.

But that smile you can give people just by introducing yourself there is real. And to be able to make people experience that is fucking valuable、 the difference between boring night and fun night. But it's all dependent on you making a move. Ergo、if you dont move、 no smile from the girl. And that's why you are the prize.

ps. Was wearing a tailored suit and am in shape. Also helps when it comes to feeling like the prize.

[deleted] · 2019-02-02T15:06:46+00:00

Not this again..

Title	How are you the prize when you are the one approaching?
Author	Atheist_Utopia
Upvotes	31
Comments	23
Date	February 2, 2019 11:37 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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