How to get a Girlfriend in the Modern Age of Social Media

Just to clarify, I'm saying that getting that first date can be a difficutl task when the girl is always being notified on social media.

I respect that follow up and the thoughtfull reply.

I think neither me or OP are talking about pick up tehniques. Sarge pick up is not really what you do after you get 2 plates.

What OP was talking was more lifestyle design. Something that sounds a bit alien unless you passed that stage of scarcity.

What I complemented was more about mindset - trying to bridge the gap between the PUA that has a clear short term goal and the plate spinning lifestyle of a red pill man that integrated pick up into his life and is focusing on other things and has the women part just as a component of his life.

Nowadays people don't even bother registering names on their phone, so sending a text every 4 days to set up a date is going to be difficult. [/EDIT]

I think texting is just a umbrella term for short form text comunication. Most people do instagram nowadays, but it varies. As for setting up the date - again this is a misunderstanding between the short term pick up artist and the lifestyle approach. Fundamentally you should not have time or interest to insist and have a texting session with a girl. (unless she is making the effort and trying to make it interesting - in which case you imediatlly reward with a: I'm done with work, come at my place and bring a good wine and <insert call back to something you talked about.>).

But IMO if you don't have a 'seal of value' of any kind, you don't get to be picked if you are not good looking.

Again that misunderstanding. You have value for being a man. Honestly - most women suck at entertaining themselfs and are so bored. Most women do not have access to Chad because they aren't sultry HB8+. It's just about minset - and there everything else branches out - the aloofness, the intensity and the fun slip and slide to sexy time.

You know alreayd that :

When women say they want kind and gentle they are talking about the hawt guy. Similarly when inexperienced men with scarcity talk about women being picky, they aren't talking about the 7 that doesn't put herself toghether and has less than $200 / month make up budget. You are talking about the dominant, sexually agressive top girl in an enviroment where she is the prize and can find another guy to entertain her just by turning her head. Yes man, definetly - you must be Hot Guy +8 for her to notice you among her orbiters. Yes man, you need to be the group leader of a mixed group for her to invest the initial 2 minutes. BUT: most women aren't there and EVEN those women, will be open to give you 2 minutes if you meet her while she is waiting for her friends or if you meet her in a professional enviroment where you are the one calling the shots and crushing it.

But it isolate you. You start to lose empathy and just live in your own selfish/assholey bubble and people will notice.

I disagree that is actually empathy and I will argue more in my next paragraph. I want to argue that the bubble is your frame - everyone has it. Whether you are a blue boy that thinks he can turn the girl chatting and laughing at your memes and the feminist that think that if he saves enough damsells one will inevitably slip and fall on his dick. Similarly with super front brain heavy MGTOWs or Incels - your frame is your own and it's built because self image is important to us as humans, it provides a reference for who we are and helps us engage with new situations. My question is - is it enough? Are those values yours or societies? Do you have them ebcause you see them work, or because the alternative is scary as shit. Think about it - does your framework actually make you happy, or have you just accepted and built upon years of pain and loneliness. No shade, I was a doomer too. And still have those lonely nights between christmas and nye.

It works, maybe can help one get laid, but you will not build meaningful relationships whether with males or females.

Until you make a woman come that woman can not be honest with you. Emotionally she is afraid to open up and be vulnerable. Only after her body is "conquered" lead by her insticts - and all the shit testing that comes from them - can she truly let her guard down, stop with the manipulation and the image projection. That being said - is anything other than fuckery - actual empathy? Are you relating to the slut? the chick that dreamt of sucking off a horse - or the little girl that learned from a early age to put on a play pretend of high status, high expectations and the one that needs to be wooed and won over. Women love arseholes because they are the only ones that they actually get to meet. They are the only ones that make her feel like a woman, not a caracter in a simulation of their life. And thruth be told - men are similar - at least blue pill men. They act as men. That's not emphaty, that's a role they learned to play. Being emphatetic to a woman that is trowing away her life on activism and gender studies is a bitch slap. If you genuinely care for her as a human, you will threat her as a drug addict. But that's not the "empaty" that is expected of us. <there is no feminist fuckable feminist that is, that didn't admit her beliefs are bullshit - they just use it because they don't have power and control over their life>

I considere myself an incel, but I don't use it as an excuse. I encourage people to adapt and increase SMV accordingly.

That's nice, but that sounds to my ears: I consider myself dead. Man, unless a horse stomped on your head when you were a kid - you are not too ugly for a girl. And even if you do get ripped at the gym and you will change how you think of yourself and how others think of themselfs. Trust me, there's some ugly motherfuckers in the gym - a busted face seems to just give the muscles street cred.