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Porn has ruined my life. This is the rock bottom. I can't tell this to anyone. I can't post this anywhere else. Please help guys.

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February 9, 2019

20M here. I discovered porn when i was 14-15. I first started with normal porn. Then i went to those milf/stepmom categories. Then i stopped liking normal porn. I only preferred milf one. Then when i discovered japanese porn, i couldn't get the same high from the milf one. I moved to harsher and harsher. I now cannot enjoy simple porn. I only watch those japanese, gangbangs and stuffs.

Recently for the past 6 months, i discovered cuckold porn . I didn't used to like it when i first discovered porn. Since these porn were rough and the girls in it were hot af, i started watching more and more. And for the past 3-4 months, i have been fantasizing about cuckold stuffs .

The thing is i wasn't like this before and i don't want to becone one. Please help guys. I would post this elsewhere but they would just say to embrace it and its natural. But i know this is not natural. I just have this life and i don't want to live as one.

People in Nofap told me to do a 90 days no PMO. Need suggestions here too.

How to get rid of these cuckold fantasies?

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Title Porn has ruined my life. This is the rock bottom. I can't tell this to anyone. I can't post this anywhere else. Please help guys.
Author RM_Slays
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Date 09 February 2019 01:37 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]Rkingpin263 points264 points  (16 children) | Copy

People in Nofap told me to do a 90 days no PMO. Need suggestions here too.

They've already given you the right answer

Replace the porn with healthy habits like gym. Get to work

[–]imtheoneimmortal61 points62 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or being always busy helps You watch porn or tv when you are boring “I don’t know what to do, let’s watch Netflix porn or others”

Schedule your day with routine

[–]jackandjill229 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

For once Nofap was right. Who would've guessed.

[–]Trphello2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's gonna be fucking hard. Get to work.

[–][deleted] 51 points52 points  (10 children) | Copy

I am somewhat knowledgeable about addiction psychiatry because I deal with a lot of addicts on a regular basis in my practice. Although most of the addicts I treat are hooked on cigarettes, opiates, alcohol, benzos and high carb foods, all addictions have a lot in common.

I doubt that the no fap method will work for you. Masturbation is a normal activity if done in moderation, which I would define as once a day on average (assuming you don’t have a regular sexual partner). You need to decouple masturbation/sex/orgasm from porn. Neurons that fire together wire together.

Your brain has been conditioned to associate masturbation and orgasm with porn instead of normal sex and your own mental spank bank. In an ideal world, you would have an actual woman you could fuck and would only jerk off occasionally when sex isn’t available (maybe she’s on her period, sick, at work etc.). But if you’re not at that point, you have to work with what you’ve got right now.

Trying to stop masturbation and porn simultaneously is essentially trying to quit two addictions at once, which can be very difficult for a lot of people. Online porn is the devil because there is an endless supply of content available instantly....massive dopamine hits at pretty much zero cost. It’s every bit as addictive as a lot of narcotics.

With that said, here is my concrete advice:

  1. Download the Freedom app. It’s pretty cheap. This allows you to block certain websites for a specified amount of time. You can use it on your computer and your phone. I have an iPhone/Mac but I think it’s available on Android/PC.

  2. I wouldn’t try to quit cold turkey. It’s best to taper down instead of going into psychological withdrawals, which will lead to binge consumption. The key is to increase the average time between porn use. For example, if you are using daily, cut it down to once every 3 days then once a week, once every two weeks etc. You have to find a schedule that works for you. The goal is to taper down to zero over time.

  3. Accept that there may be setbacks. You might have to try many times before you succeed. If we’re playing the odds, you will likely relapse multiple times. But if you do, accept it and jump back on the horse.

  4. Replace porn with something else. Ideally, find yourself a real sex partner. I understand that this is easier said than done for many. In that case, replace it by relying on your mental spank bank. Think about girls that you encounter in the real world. Jerk off but avoid jerking off to porn.

  5. Keep yourself busy. Fill up your time with productive activities so that you minimize the amount of time you have to watch porn. It’s amazing how the urges fade when you are occupied with other things.

Recommended reading: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg.

I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to PM me if I can help.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy

Also man can i get rid of these fantasies? How long might it take for me to get back at how i was? The initial years that i discovered masturbation were just me imagining myself with my school girls. I was completely normal till 1 year ago.

[–]the-cat-killa9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

The more you cut back on masterbation the better you'll get. Your hunger will grow and all of a sudden you'll be looking at girls you wouldn't have noticed before.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

u/DwightWolftail is correct. You have to consider yourself an addict and you should strive to be an addict who doesn’t engage in the destructive behavior.

You have to weaken the neurological pathways that produce these fantasies. In order to do that you should stop reinforcing the fantasies by avoiding porn. As much as possible, do not think about them when masturbating. If you go a long time without fapping, you will find it much easier to do that because you will be naturally horny.

Basically, cut out porn. Increase the time as much as possible between masturbation sessions and masturbate to healthy fantasies. Ideally, find yourself a real girl to have sex with.

[–]DwightWolftail8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Those fantasies are never going to leave. No porn for you anymore. Ever. You have become an addict. However, if you stop for long enough, the fantasies are going to fade enough so that you feel normal again. But they are now in your hard drive and the pleasure pathways are there. The best you can do is not ever again think about this and stop porn. I have gone one and a half year in a flatline during recovery. Worst I've ever read about. So pm me if you feel like your situation is shitty and you feel depressed.

[–]Lambdal70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s not correct. Fantasies come and go, 3 years and it’s all different.

[–]ggggggggee1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am a porn addict. I relapse on average every 3.5 months. Listen to this guy. Get a good male therapist. It is a deeper issue. ATM, just work on yourself and your issues. Don't worry about results. Go to a sex addicts anonymous meeting.

[–]jackandjill225 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

RP saving lives out here.

[–]Trick_Ant 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Then whats wrong with me if I fap maybe twice or three times a week max and I never have girls around. Porn doesn't do it for me unless it's something wildly different.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My guess is that you have conditioned your brain to only get off on novelty. Imagine you only ever eat extremely sugary, high fat or high sodium meals. It would be very hard for you to enjoy bland but healthier food.

If you wean off porn for a long enough time, your brain will eventually rewire itself. You may go through a period where you will not have your usual sex drive but it should eventually come back.

[–]Thinkingard41 points42 points  (3 children) | Copy

Just your brain seeking novelty. You can reset it by doing the nofap thing. The advice that is hardest to follow is often the most helpful if executed.

[–]mrpoopistan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'll second this.

It feels a bit like how some drug users just keeping pushing for a bigger rush. Taking Oxycontin becomes crushing pills. Crushing pills gives way to shooting up heroin. Pretty soon you're inhaling some janky fentanyl-laced shit just to get that hit.

[–]epushepepu 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

What if you watch porn while fucking?

[–]Thinkingard1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't see a problem with that, it's the downward spiral of needing harder and harder stuff to get your fix that's the problem. When regular "vanilla" sex is no longer desirable and you need your kink satisfied.

[–]Vikingcel133 points134 points  (8 children) | Copy

That's how I got into trannies.

I ain't no gay and you ain't no cuck, yet. You better stop now, else it gets gayer and cuckier.

It's been scientifically proven that you can condition people into getting aroused by anything.

No porn. Get some irl experiences. Jack off only when you're so horny that you could beat it off fantasizing about some butterfaced cashier you saw earlier

[–]iwviw22 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy

I honestly think this is how p diddy got into banging dudes. He just got weirder and weirder till bam his dick is in a dudes mouth

[–]mrpoopistan6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where did I miss that?!

I've been ignoring him for a while, so . . . wow.

Then again, this is a guy who used to tell people to call him "Puff" and "Daddy". I mean, fuck, there's verb in there and a direct object.

[–]neoda112 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

god the tranny part is so true. like i look back it now.. when i was a younger and was like i remember looking for that shit.

[–]jackandjill222 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cashier lol

[–]Iceklimber0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

It's been scientifically proven that you can condition people into getting aroused by anything.

Citation needed

We do know of "prison gay" where men suck each other's dicks while imprisoned. That behaviour does not occur prior to or post incarceration.

[–]rpsheepdog94 points95 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bro being a cuck and shit is not normal, BP to the max

Not saying you're a cuck, but I am saying it's not normal, alpha or beta or whatever.

I'll be honest man, after learning game and really internalizing RP things about 5 years ago, my porn usage has gone down like 95%. I didn't do no fap or anything like that. Just learned game, started talking to girls, took care of myself, things definitely impoved.

having real world interaction with a girl, shit if you are that low, just going on a date and kissing a girl will help you get past that kind of stuff, and will be much more rewarding that jerking your dick into oblivion.

Important warning: Oneitis will also ruin a man

[–]Musicgoon8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Once your game is on point and you have plates you won't bother with porn. The only porn I look at now is home made porn of me banging my plates.

No fap and lift.

[–]haughtyhay79 points80 points  (4 children) | Copy

You get rid of them by not watching porn. I disagree with NoFap. It’ll only make it exponentially more difficult to quit porn if you cut out masturbation too.

Set a schedule to jerk off. It’ll help you control impulsive horniness, which will help you stop the porn that comes with it. Deleting Instagram would be ideal too, so much ass and titties on there nowadays. One bikini pic and you’ll jump to pornhub.

If I were you, I would start off by jerking off every day, only after going to the gym. But with no porn. That means no videos, pictures or anything. Only your imagination.

After a week or two, bump it up to every other day. Then every three days. So on and so forth. Hopefully by this time you’ve realized you can’t jerk off forever, and are actively pursuing actual real-life women.

[–]BluePillEltonJohn18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

the only objective answer I’ve seen, give this a shot op

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the best answer I’ve ever seen to one of these types of questions.

[–]DiosJ 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

But i feel like if i only use my imagination i put my plate on a pedestal when i always think about my sex with her.

[–]haughtyhay0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You’re forgetting the bigger picture. The goal here is to make sex the only way you splooge. It sounds to me like you only have one plate. And it’s likely that you feel dependent on her because she’s your only option. Get more plates.

[–]Matthias_Foley3511 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop grasping the dick and grasp some weights in the gym.

[–]goblinboglin19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

Don't even join the Nofap community.

It's bunch of circlejerks posting memes wanting to get laid but having problems.

Brother, come to r / Semenretention

We all have been there

Definitely stop the porn and stop spilling your seed for some time until you restart your brain

After that you can gauge your ejaculation frequency (with a girl!)

[–]travhall195 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

this guy gets it

[–]Wakawakaheihei7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

As others said, cut it gradually and start implementing jerking off using your imagination and lube (to imitate the pussy, because otherwise you'll probably won't like it when you do it the first time, it can even go limp because your dick isn't comfortable using anything than your death grip).

When you stop it, you may even be in a flat phase, where women don't interest you, but that's because you're getting through dopamine withdrawal, you may think something is wrong with you but that's normal, just try to get through this phase and only jerk off to what's on your mind - feel it in front of you, paint the picture etc. But never to porn.

When you're with a woman, stop thinking about your fucking fantasies and focus on her body, trust me, just enjoy her and take the time.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do some research on who controls the porn industry and understand that they are trying to psyhologically destroy you. You are engaged in a war and you need to know the enemy innorder to win.

[–]dtyler867 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Our whole generation has this problem. What started for me as tits in a playboy at 10 graduated to freaky ass bondage porn by 16 and on and on to weirder, almost creepier porn habits.

You’ll grow out of it. In my thirties, not into most of any of that stuff anymore. Just date/sleep with girls that are equally kinky, maybe role playing or something? 20 is still so young and you have so much growing to do, don’t overthink it. You have a lot of time to figure out what you’re into; there’s no right or wrong as long as it between consenting adults.

[–]subrosa2153 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This might sound like a troll but I swear it isnt. Visit

Basically the root cause of cuckold fantasy is the eroticization of deep unconscious psychological pain of feeling inadequate. So healing those underlying feelings will cause the addiction to fall away. I'm sure you could find similar causes with the milf porn. Really any addiction is done to ease emotional pain. So the question isnt why the addiction but why the pain. A lot of suggestions on here will be to just "hit the gym bro" but you're not dealing with the root of the problem there. Therapy. Emdr. Mindfulness. Gaining the ability to sit with your pain and be aware and self compassionate will cut off the pull to act out addiction. All the best to you brother on your journey through healing!

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (5 children) | Copy

Cuck videos are great, I love imagining I'm fucking someone elses woman while they watch.

[–]red_matrix4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

All porn trains you to be a cuck - you’re getting off watching someone else fuck your dream girl.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I get off imagining I'm fucking that girl but I totally understand where you are coming from.

I just like watching people have sex.

[–]Jcbthaname0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I think it depends on how you look at it. If you have the sex drive of a freight train (raises hand), sometimes it helps to rub one out every now and again.

[–]red_matrix3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree rubbing one out is usually required (but don’t use porn), it’s worth looking into semen retention techniques. Porn is over stimulating, and watching it over and over and over requires your brain over time (this is exactly how advertising works), and then eventually you can’t get it up with your girl. Be careful with porn, I just avoid it.

[–]theherosmyth5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think one of the pernicious effects of porn is not just the constant dopamine hits, time wasted etc. But also the fact that you’re essentially training yourself to be a spectator, which goes hand in hand with cuckoldry. I suspect this has something to do with the steady rise in popularity of that genre, although there are other conspiracies out there about it that are beside the scope of this discussion.

As for advice, I think you’ve gotten some solid advice already.

[–]livefreeofdie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop following NSFW subs too.

We don't know your extent of Porn use.

If you are addicted. Get help.

Go for a therapist.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop using Gilette.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're a fucking addict.

Stop putting that shit in you and start building healthy habits. The withdrawal will suck, but you led yourself here. Now you have to lead yourself out.

Stop being a faggot bitch and do what needs to be done. Go lift.

[–]RedPillAlphaBigCock2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

First of; its all good bro, happens to the best of us.

Watch this video below: TLDR: You need a hobbie , something you enjoy more than porn, - start MMA ultimate frisbee salsa ANYTHING

Also go much less porn - try to reduce faping to once a week, do a few days zero porn - 1 day normal porn and 1 day fap - or what ever works for you


[–]SSolus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not going to be easy to change your habits. If you were looking for a quick and easy solution, I can be the first to tell you it doesnt exist. If you want to change your ways youve got to want to change.

Prove it to yourself with the challenge. Ive done it myself, its tough but its doable. Start with 1 week as your target. Take it day by day, you can get through it. Feel free to PM me if you need any info/got more questions

[–]oooKenshiooo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is porn videos titled alpha hypnosis. That might do it.

[–]Prysefighter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The whole "I need x and y in my porn"to get off thing comes from watching too much. You go a few days without masturbation and you'll get off to anything. Also the whole cuckold fantasy plays into a perversion where in your heart of hearta you feel you cannot find or satisfy a woman. When you realize you can one day, a good deal of that perversion will ebb away.

Start forcing yourself to go a few days without jacking off. Start to focus on self development. Do something every day that will make tomorrow you love yourself a little more. Encourage yourself with the thoughts in your head. Let woman naturally flow to you off the life you're building for yourself. Cuckoldry is a perversion and perversion comes with unhealthy relationships with yourself and with women.

[–]iwishiwasgayandcute1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fap your urges away. Masturbation without porn isn't nearly as unhealthy as porn. The second thing is, look out for the colidge effect. When I had my first gf, every time after I had sex with her, I wouldn't find her sexy for the next few days. But if I fapped to porn, I would find some girls hot after 30mins. The colidge effect exhaust your sexually.

[–]boy_named_su1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop watching porn and go to Sex Addicts Anonymous

[–]AVWA1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop watching filth. All of it.
Now, no one else will tell you this but here's an actual way that you can get rid of the mental thirst; grow one of your thumbnails into a strong point, then whenever you have a thought that you do not want stab you pointy thumbnail into the root of your other thumbnail, focus on the pain. The pain will condition your psyche to expect pain from those thoughts and not pleasure, like you've trained it to.

Sounds pretty WTF, right? well, that things you like are that, very WTF, you need to come at them with something strong.

Good luck.

[–]yeolderazzledazzle1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My advice which is totally 100% opposite of the standard is to seek out whatever the porn is in real life. For me, anal porn was the bee's knees until I got into it in real life. Now it isn't so fetishized.

So stop porn and put all the sexual frustration into finding it in real life. The blinders will come off real quick. "I want it, but I shouldn't" is a self-sabotage cycle. Want those cherries? Eat those fucking cherries until you pop. Zorba the Greek would go do cuckold shit until they were sick of it. You'll be cured, or your money back.

[–]2johnnight1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cut your internet connection.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear2221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Porn has ruined my life... please help guys

Stop fucking watching porn.

“But it’s not that simple”

No it IS that fucking simple.

Install a god damn site blocker extension and just stop. Jerk off in shower or not at all.

[–]travhall190 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

so niggas in nofap told you the right answer and that wasn’t good enough for you cause its difficult. get on nofap nigga. i’m on nofap day 140-something. it works

[–]JesterBLB0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hey bro, Day 156 of NoFap here. Took me around 5 years to get this streak. Previous highest was 60 days back in 2015. So you can believe me when i say that i was addicted to porn and masturbation. Started reading a lot of personal development books from 2016. But the one that finally clicked was Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. I starter reading it around March 2018. It's a book that uses Cognitive Behavior Therapy to help overcome depression which I suffered from too. But the book can be used by anyone regardless. Lots of red pill nuggets in that. The entire book through different examples and scenarios, he tries to explain that your external events aren't an issue but your take on them is. It's a long read (around 350-400 pages) but worth it. In September last year, i quit porn and jerking off and have stayed off it till now. This book is what helped me do it. It helps you understand how you hamster yourself day in and out and what you can do instead. This book shits on the whole modern "feels before reals" status quo and teaches you patience and resilience. I not only quit porn but also started working out and have lost more than 30lbs as of this week. First time in my life I've stuck to a workout routine (never even played outside as a kid). I also eat clean and get more outta my comfort zone. My life is building up slowly.

Look the other things like exercise and staying busy ofcourse help but if its an addiction, you will find it hard to even start with the positive habits. What helped me was getting to the root first. So, get the book. Life saver for me and will be for you too. Feeling Good by Dr David Burns.

[–]livear0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You need to get a girlfriend.

[–]lbrownlbandit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Try and only tap when your horny, not when yout hard (two different things). And when you are horny breath heavy (from your core) when wanking yourself. That'll do two things, you'll last longer and get to enjoy the orgasm more and it'll tire you out so you wont need to keep going. Then relax for a bit and go do something. Now make sure you do all with with no porn, just try and seduce yourself, if you need to start by just looking at a nude pic then transition out of it.

This I find works better than no fap and isn't drastic enough for it to be hard to commit and allows you to pick up hobbies you can replace your time with.

[–]Mr_Badass0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Raising seratonin levels blocks sexual addiction. The medical route is to take Zoloft, but the natural route is to do intense cardio, mediate, and find ways to have inner peace.

[–]Kpwn880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You want help?

Stop being a faggot and grow some balls. You already know it's unhealthy and you have a problem. There is nothing strangers on the internet can do for you.

Unfuck yourself.

[–]ziadxk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well you have to do as they said, not 90 days only but forever is your goal because this whole habit is wrong and that number depeneds on how addicted you are..... (including masturbation because it will lead you to watch porn again during the beginning)

I used to watch Hentai (because real porn still disgusts me) and when my crush left me with another BF, I watched it daily and got really addicted to it. It was the solution to every bad feeling and couldn't get enough of it. Then after 2 weeks I got really tired and felt like I can't move when I wake up so I stopped everything at all....

Between 40 - 120 days it was hell for me, I can't play video games I feel anxious very fast and despite that now I'm +160 days, my body doesn't function 100% and anxiety is still here but a little bit. But it's really worth it to stop that for your mental, sexual and social health.

NoFap is really great read and write your feelings, an awesome community !

Good Luck with your journey !

[–]Gr33d3ater0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol this can’t be real.

[–]TheTruth2210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

what cuckold fantasies do u have? is it like on blacked where the white guy introduce his white gf to a ethnic male or are u into cum eating?

[–]cuztrp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Woah I gotta say you went distances there. I don't think the problem lays with the kind of porn you're watching or with your cuckold fantasies. The problem is the way you perceive porn.

See, you should have the mindset of porn being the outlet, a last resort of some sort that you only shelter yourself in when everything else fails.

Porn should be a tool used carefully to release all of that libido or else it can cause you to do some hurtful things like raping someone or being too aggressive with girls (more on this later).

My point is, porn should not become your reality. You're making porn your reality. What you're seeing in there has surpassed the fact of a few human beings are banging and you're using it as a stimulation to reach an orgasm-like state, the closest thing to real life sex. You're actually immersing yourself in porn so much that you're actually believing you're the one doing these things. That's an unhealthy way of thinking and the first step to recover from it is to become consciously aware that it exists.

Your reality should revolve around striving to have actual real sex with girls. That's the goal. If you can't reach it at the moment because your SMV sucks, new to game... Whatever, it is no problem. You can watch porn to kinda make it better. To make it easier, but don't let it distract you from your real goal: real-life fried-smelling pussy.

If you just stop watching porn like that, your body will not react well. First of all, it needs a lot of determination and a strong fiery desire to actually do it which I don't think you possess. So better take it slow and try working on your mindet.

The libido that you have you can start channeling in doing other things such as hobbies, getting busier with stuff and so on. Try finding healthier things to do and you'll see how much it'll help you overcoming this dilemma.

From my personal experience, I also started watching regular porn and moving from one porn star to another. Never binge watched. All I do is open up the window in incognito mode, watch, fap and close as soon as I cum. When do I do that? When there are no real pussy prospects going on in my life or when I'm absolutely fucking stressed about something going in my life. But that's ultimately the real function of porn in my opinion: releasing that stress/libido. And I don't think it's a problem. I'm not wasting time, money or efforts. A few clicks, a few seconds, and my mind is clear again. Easy.

Good luck.

[–]NeuroMnemonic70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I love quesadillas. I've been eating them for years. One day, I made one for a snack, my stomach started to hurt, got bloated... and got the shits for about an hour. I went to the doctor and told her the story. She said "you might be lactose intolerant " and I said... but I've been eating dairy all my life, in moderate amounts. She said "well, your body can and will change as you get older, you'll have new allergies, new aches, new foods your body can't process". My point is this, saying that you didn't used to be "like this" doesn't mean shit. People change. You like what you like because you like it, porn doesn't force you to like cuckold porn, you personally like it. You just don't want to admit to yourself that that's the case. I was seeing a therapist a while back, and out of the many things we discussed, I asked her "am I addicted to porn and sex?" she asked "does it stop you from living your life?" "Do you stay in to look at porn instead of doing other things you could be doing, all the time?" "Do you find yourself paying for escorts, going to strip clubs, having sex with just about anyone just to get off?".... I said, no. I don't do any of that. She said "congratulations you're a human male with a high sex drive. You're fine".

[–]mindplaybyneo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You gotta ask yourself if you are actually horny or, depressed and bored. No FAP is a good community

[–]mrpoopistan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How to get rid of these cuckold fantasies?

Signs up a Fetlife account. Ends up discovering blood play and consensual non-consent.

Finally starts murdering women who remind him of his mom. Circle back to mommy porn is complete.

Achievement unlocked. You've gone to supermax. I think I'm joking, but there is definitely a pattern of escalation and exploration that occurs with people, so . . . to future investigators reading this, my bad. Shoulda reported Reddit Cuckold MILF Strangler when i had the chance, and I didn't.

Don't you kinda need a girlfriend to pull off a cuckold fantasy? A lot of guys would consider that progress. Sure, she's fuckin another dude, but isn't that kind of the validation of the fantasy?

So, I'm gonna say the next step is to get a girlfriend.

Heck, with a little luck, that just might solve the problem.

[–]rockyp320 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Stupyyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get to midget porn its the promise land.

[–]3chazthundergut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

  1. Stop watching porn

  2. Lift

  3. Get to work

[–]mental_models0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

take responsibility.

Nothing ruined your life. You don't need a thing or a path to 'save' it...

you just suck and are weak...

Porn didn't ruin your life. Nofap is not going to save you.

If you were the world's most valuable thinker or coder or pharmaceutical developer, or weapons of mass destruction creator... and you had billions of dollars, you'd have this EXACT SAME problem, only it would be via fetishized prostitutes rather than your weird porn searches... And you'd be just as weak of a person. You just don't hear 'having too much freaky sex' being criticized or see a ton of ASKTRP topics about it, or 'Nofuck' clubs popping up - because it's about fear and shame, and most of you losers think you would trade Fap for Fuck in heartbeat...

Why is masturbation and fetish porn 'taboo', but we almost never hear serious discussion about stop having tons of fetishized sex that's totally jading your interest in normal sex?? = Because this garbage is marketed to losers.

"Oh man... after lots of sex I go through a refactory period of several hours and I feel less 'alpha' ..."

DUH! that's also when I take a nap on some tittyz and eat some good food, go to the gym, and back at it the next day, in addition to giving my career, goals, and hobbies all I've got...

raise your game up for real. Learn some virtues, like the cardinal ones to start. Be a stronger person.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take the hardest road. You already know what road that is bud - 90 days cold turkey. I'd even recommend getting off social media and reddit in general till NoFap feels effortless. But trust me, some days your dick will feel non-existent and other days you'll feel like you can fuck any object in sight. Make sure you're prepared for those days or you'll just falter like most people.

[–]Iceklimber0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I wasn't [into cuckold fetish] before

Some people have exposure to fetishes shape their preferences.

I always wonder if this is what truly happened or these desires had always layed dormant within.

'Gay conversion therapy' probably does not work so not sure if 'Cuckold conversion therapy' would. Be cognisant of cuckoldry downsides (Financial ruin, denial of genetic legacy, STDs, emotional abuse etc.)

[–]neo_star0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Even watching normal pornography is equal to cuckold. The reason I'm telling this is because, you are actually entertaining the idea of a random dude having sex with a girl that you are attracted to. Pornography trains you to become a BP lethargic bitch who like to peep and jerk off to the idea of random people having sex.

I too was no different from you. Started at 14 and couldnt even go through a day without jerking off. Yes, over the years my porn tastes changed from normal to disgusting! Life was a wreck and I didn't care because at the end of the day I had Pornography to keep me happy and at comfort.

Then I discovered nofap and saw how this whole thing works. I didn't do a 90 day challenge. Instead I totally abandoned that shit for life. It's been over a year since I've started. It hasn't been easy though, I relapsed a few times. But ultimately I'm happy with my lifestyle and myself.

[–]maljo240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stay busy. Start some new hobbies. Join the hiking club. Learn pottery making. Take up skydiving. If you sit at home in front of your computer with nothing to do, you'll look at porn. In other words, 'get a life'.

[–]passepar2t-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't think it's porn that cause you to be into cuckoldry, man. I've watched a *lot* of porn and rubbed out sextillions of sperm to all kinds of crazy categories, but cuckold porn still grosses me out. Maybe you just discovered something about yourself. That said, maybe try to watch less porn.

[–]OracleofFl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There is something called sexual addiction...there are therapists that specialize in this.

[–]NeedRealityShock0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

well quit porn, duh

[–]OhYouWentFullRtrd-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop being a fucking pussy and turn off the porn

[–]Velebit-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Rofl. I found a vibrating massage device when I was 6 and had my first orgasm then. I showed it to my buddies and we all had a go. I started watching porn when a girl aged 11 introduced us to her dads old collection she found. Now I have seen almost every category of porn that is not illegal stuff or scat and I have 0 problem with getting turned on by looking at random womans clevage in a bus.

You are just fucked up. It is not porn.

I am fairly certain your testosterone is low. Check it. Another issue might be that you have a kink for doing 'bad' stuff. Banging your mom or letting other people bang your girlfriend is just another generic bad thing. Also the real deal in doing bad things are getting assfucked by a massive muscular guy and being his little princess. Would you like to be a princess?

You silly man.

[–]rockyp320 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

U need no fap

[–]bestsparkyalive-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are you trolling again on a different account dude ??

[–]Internet-Troll-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man my girl are into really harsh porn as well I don't know what to do, nothing I can do is even remotely close to what porn do.

I feel like porn just ruin sex for every one, now people have unreal expectations

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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