So I tried to initiate with my wife of 8 years yesterday morning and was denied because our kids woke up and adulting prohibited anything. She said if I got them to bed at a decent time tonight, it was on.
I am not a huge NFL fan and left my in law's house early after our weekly Sunday dinner there. The boys are asleep at 8 and it is on. She comes in and lays on the bed. I start removing her hoodie and she says that the clothes stay on. I tell her no and and keep going. Then she puts her finger in my face and says, "you'll take what you're given."
Knowing this was a shit test, I just went into the bathroom and took my contacts out and went to sleep. As I lay on the bed, she said, "are you really going to be that controlling over sex?"
"If that's the way you want to see it."
I think I fucked up after that because I told her that she had no reason to be that self conscious and if she didn't want to, I was happy to wait until she did. I told her that I wanted to bury my face in her tits and there to be nothing between us. I also said that I wasn't thrilled that when she said yes, she was still saying no. She just repeated that sometimes she like the bra on, which I won't fault her for that.
I am thinking of sending her a text and saying that I rehected her because of the "you'll take what you're getting." comments. Would this be advisable or should I just STFU?
If any of you turn down sex, how do you do it and. What kind shit tests have you gotten?