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When a girl asks if you have an IG, and you don't, but she asks why... What do you say?

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February 3, 2019
68 upvotes

Typically I'd be pretty honest and just say something like "I don't buy into the hype of social media validation", but I feel like that'd be giving too much and opening a can of worms.

What's the proper response that doesn't make you look too aggressively against the social media crap but also look like you're willing to enjoy a good time - the instagram bull crap?


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Title When a girl asks if you have an IG, and you don't, but she asks why... What do you say?
Author supplementtolife
Upvotes 68
Comments 85
Date 03 February 2019 09:57 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/217894
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/amukiw/when_a_girl_asks_if_you_have_an_ig_and_you_dont/
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[–]AnabolLecter112 points113 points  (19 children) | Copy

"Waste of time"

"Instagram is for girls" (always get a laugh with that one; in my language it sounds better).

Honestly, not having IG somewhat boosts your SMV as you become the mysterious guy. They know about everybody, but you? They don't know. This makes her hamster spin like crazy.

Better to not have IG than have a lame or standard profile. Only one should have IG if it can show you're very high value.

[–]Bedtimeshine32 points33 points  (2 children) | Copy

Haha simikar words have left my mouth, multiple times. “Instagram and jewelry are for women.”

[–]ihateyouguys5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

How does it sound in your language... like, what’s the literal translation?

[–]AnabolLecter7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Instagram es para las niñas

[–]mcr00sterdota-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

F

[–]BusterVadge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup, I always tell them I'm too busy for IG. It does double duty.. gets them off of your back and makes your time high value, which makes you a higher value man.

[–]celincelin3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly, not having IG somewhat boosts your SMV as you become the mysterious guy.

The hamster is spinning like crazy indeed.

Stop using Internet, then, even more mysterious.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

not having IG somewhat boosts your SMV

In college rn and I don't think that's true. Then again I had 1000+ followers and didn't do well with girls anyway so maybe you're right

[–]AnabolLecter5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

IG has made more harm than good. By liking women pics you contribute to the massive increase of their egos, and by DM'ing them, even more.

Not having IG doesn't increase your SMV directly, but indirectly, if you play your cards well. Because no one knows who the fuck you are, what you do on your free time, who you're with... Nothing.

I suggest you to delete it, unless you can show off a top tier lifestyle and amazing pics.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah I did delete it, and no I have no top tier lifestyle or amazing pics. Just a decent face and anxiety/depression problems

[–]AnabolLecter2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well done. I think social media can contribute to anxiety and depression because everyone act as if their life is amazing and they're happy all the time (they are not, everyone has problems).

[–]BusterVadge2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had 1000+ followers and didn't do well with girls

IG and your luck with girls have nothing to do with each other.

[–]1redhawkes66 points67 points  (0 children) | Copy

"so you won't stalk me"

[–]Borsao6695 points96 points  (10 children) | Copy

Too many apps too little time. I'm a busy guy.

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten54 points55 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is correct.

My grain of salt: younger women WILL write you off in greater numbers if you can't prove you're not a serial killer. I have a private IG with just enough on there to say "see? Now meet me at xyz place for drinks you doofus"

[–]friendandadvisor9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

younger women WILL write you off in greater numbers if you can't prove you're not a serial killer.

FTFY

[–]dukes19981 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Eh, I was scared of this going into college but it really isn't a big deal. I always just tell them I deleted it because it got super boring or come up with some other story and they usually don't give a shit, and if anything it makes you stand out somewhat from all the fuck boys posting shirtless pics, assuming you're attractive of course.

[–]jaznex3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

good advice.

But when I hear someone telling me that they are busy to do a quick and easy task I'm wondering, what can make you busy at that extent? Or they are just lazy

I think even a quantum mechanics physicist has time to do stuff...

[–]rugged799 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Nah.

Do you want to be the guy doing what everyone else is doing? Or the other guy? And even though Insta is pretty easy if you JUST take a pic and post, accumulated time when putting filters, Photoshop, Facetune, getting the right angle/lighting adds to what is already an insane amount of time people spend on their phone. Usually Insta is a gateway drug. People start with regular pix then start wanting to make them better.

Usually answer with I'm a busy guy, show me how it adds value to my life responses are fine.

[–]jaznex0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I wasn't talking about girls and instagram

[–]rugged790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I must have misread your post. Not sure what you were referring to then.

[–]erthian1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My response is usually “because I’m not a 12 year old girl”. I like yours better.

[–]OutsideTheCage30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes.

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Mhm

[–]imtheoneimmortal17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t answer honestly it’s boring Say something absurd

I don’t get it because girls stalk my stories and come at my house

[–]MisterMarbles198834 points35 points  (5 children) | Copy

"Because I don't want one"

edit: there's a lot of DEERing going on in this thread

[–]MetalstepTNG9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is just about the only Red Pill answer here.

[–]moltenw0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Ironic

"Because I don't want one" is DEERing as well. (Explain)

[–]daymi1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, but it's not seeking validation.

[–]moltenw2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

DEERing has nothing to do with validation.

[–]GGrub812 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Many girls will attempt to convince you to make an account after you say you don't have one.

Very obvious shit test.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm busy living my life, not taking selfies of it.

[–]dukes19980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I always mention how when I'm out with my friends and fucked up I never stop to take pictures because i'm always too focused on what i'm doing.

[–]mrpoopistan25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because I'm not 14.

I rarely hear about Instagram from women who want to fuck me. I get it far more from guys who want to network.

For the most part, though, I project a rather tough vibe. My guess is that not being all over social media is very on brand for me.

[–]manimani188 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Tell her I'm actually a redditor😎😎😎

[–]Moldy_Gecko7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's definitely the Alpha move, lol.

[–]Unboundaries28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I'd rather use MySpace."

[–]2SirKolbath16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

I typically give a seven second stare, like the question is so retarded I can’t think of a way to dumb down the answer for a total idiot, and then reply, “Because I don’t want one.”

[–]Granite_Pill10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

The proper response will depend on the chick you're talking to. Truthfully, I've been blown off for not having any social media before, but I have abundance mentality so I don't care. It hasn't been an issue, really. I go about it two ways:

  1. I will proudly state that I don't watch TV, don't play video games, don't have a facebook, don't have an instagram, "none of that social media bullshit."

  2. Act confused as to why I would need one and then question them about instagram or other social media. Like why do I need one? What's the point of it? Have them explain to you how it works and what it is like you've never heard of it, or you have heard of it, you've never used it. Get them to show you their instagram.

Most people can't persuasively justify it. Then point out all the people in the bar/room/event/space that are on their phones and not actively engaged in the moment. You don't have to do this in such a way as to sound militantly against social media. You're just basically hinting that you're life is too busy for that and you don't require validation on social media.

If you do go the "I don't have time for that, it's a waste of time" route, then you need to say you still have plenty of other ways to waste your time. And you can spin that how you want. Make it sexual, make it mysterious, or make it playful. Get her hamster wheel spinning.

Either she's going to like you or she isn't. And if she doesn't, who cares?

[–]Moldy_Gecko2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That last part could always just be 'cuz I'd rather be doing something else', the implication being her.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I just say it's stupid and leave it as that lol

[–]gbnz874 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing wrong with being against the "social media crap". If anyone asks me why I don't have FB/Twitter/IG/Snap I just ask them "why do you have it?" or "why do I need it"

If they genuinely want to know I give them reasons why and if they can't accept that than its a good way to filter out terrible people.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Because I'm a man."

[–]Lightways4347 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tell them you like your privacy

[–]DatingTank2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What's the proper reaponse?. Your opinion, that is the only proper response. Don't supplicate.

[–]40YrManAwoken2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why would i?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jusy say "don't feel like it" and move in the conversation.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just say it’s for children.

[–]flatox1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Don't need confirmation from other people, that my life is awesome..'

[–]glenfiddichlaker311 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My job and career choice encourages a minimal social media presence

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

don't got time for it, basically what borsao says

[–]YesVeryKewl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Too many girls stalk me

[–]Couer_De_Lion0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I just say I don't fuck with social media etc (cause I don't) but I know that, especially when I'm slumped/drunk, it can turn into a trpesque rant so I tend to avoid the subject.

Issue I find is I fit the bill for social media fiend (rap stan, dress streetwear, talk black) so it advanced the issue even more

[–]Eirineftis0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I just say that I don't care for / use social media. Never had anyone push me for more than that.

[–]downvotesanimals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't bother.

[–]Casd120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why not?

[–]goblinboglin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just say what you think.

It's a waste of time, dopamine addiction.

You don't have to go into depth about it, just say you prefer real life or facebook.

[–]xddm26530 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"The fuck for?"

[–]alaskanarcher0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What's an Instagram? Is that like MySpace?

[–]laserdicks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"What's Instagram?"

[–]ChemicalGiraffe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why do I need it?

[–]Don_Draper270 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"My IG modeling page got taken down"

[–]someonesopinion6969-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had to post this response on reddit to give you this answer.

think for yourself man, it aint rocket science.



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