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Kicked a girl out after she disrespected me, did I handle it right?

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February 15, 2019

Had a girl over tonight that I was planning on turning into a plate. The first time we hung out she was on her period. Today was the second time. So we start talking and we’re in my bed. She jokingly calls me a hoe, I laugh, and change the subject. Then she starts talking about how she’s too much of a woman for me and how she’s not like other girls and that I love being around her because she’s different and that her being different attracts me to her.

Basically she was putting herself on a pedestal making it seem like she’s so great and I should be lucky to be around her. I felt disrespected because who the hell is this girl to say this to me? I told her I won’t tolerate disrespect under my own roof and told her to leave. I told her straight up, I don’t like women with an ego and that she can’t come back to my place anymore. She said she used to be insecure so she deserves to feel like that.

She’s now trying to frame the situation saying that I’m mad she wouldn’t have sex with me and how I’m acting like a child lol.

I have no intention of having this chick back over or even talking to her anymore. Did I handle this right? Thoughts, opinions, advice?

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Title Kicked a girl out after she disrespected me, did I handle it right?
Author oldsoulkt
Upvotes 115
Comments 87
Date 15 February 2019 06:52 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]TRP VanguardWhisper253 points254 points  (15 children) | Copy

There is a time to pass a shit test, and a time to reject a girl for rudeness.

A shit test is supposed to help her decide how attractive you are to her. It crosses the line when it makes her unattractive to you.

Where exactly that happens is up to you.

Remember that rejecting a girl is no big deal... there are more.

[–]oldsoulkt 1 points [recovered]  (13 children) | Copy

I know it was a basic shit test but honestly this girl was annoying. Her breath smelled, she was drunk, cocky for no reason. I just needed an excuse to kick her out. I was no longer having fun. And she became instantly unattractive to me.

[–]thesquarerootof150 points51 points  (1 child) | Copy

Her breath smelled, she was drunk, cocky for no reason

Well, you might want to mention that in future posts. We all would have done the same.

Women can be over-confident about their looks. A lot of girls out there think they look better than they actually do. How many times have you heard of a short fat girl saying "where is my 6 feet tall handsome man ?" when they clearly are not very attractive ?

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women these days seem to believe that they are all 9s. Blame instagram, tinder, snapchat and the simps

[–]LongDongLondonDon38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy

Based on this, I would have done the same thing as you.

[–]beachbbqlover11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

The lack of understanding of oneself has always been humorous to me.

You find her ego and posturing unattractive and didn't realize it until she crossed the line and forced you to consciously reject her while you worked out why in your own head.

She claimed to be emotionally vulnerable and masking it, and perhaps that added a subconscious deception cue which was another negative. She obviously didn't trust you and was right not to.

Now, what aspects of posturing is it that you don't like? Your first response to this will be an likely incorrect rationalization unless you've already considered this. Then there should be a subconscious feeling, followed by a more correct framework around that feeling.

My guess is that it's related to it being masculine rank-seeking behavior, and she's likely doing it because she hasn't had anyone she could be proud of and care for so she's trying to find her pride in a way that's unacceptable to you.

I'll even go so far as to say it's unacceptable to you because you want to fill that role for someone.

[–]mrBatata4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit op just got a free psychology session

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was no longer having fun.

This, right here, is your affirmative green light. You did well, nigga.

[–]cafeitalia14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lol. You didn't realize her breath smelled bad and she was drunk before you let her into the bed? Or your ego got hurt because she said xyz while in bed and not giving you any pussy? Your fault that you didn't kick her out when you realized her mouth stinks and she is drunk, your fault that your ego got hurt.

From look of things she could have been a great fuck, massive submission, anything demanded she would oblige, to the right guy and that guy was not you.

Don't let your ego hurt. If a woman tries to make fun of you etc, make fun of her, elevate and turn it around. She tells you you have too dark hair, tell her she has such a blond hair that in the sun she must be invisible whatever. If you let your ego be offended and you get affected you automatically lose.

[–]FalconWrite7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

you didn't kick her out when you realized her mouth stinks and she is drunk

It sounds like that’s exactly what he did but he just hung in there a little longer because, like you said, she could have been a potentially great fuck on the other side of her mountainous ego. But everybody’s got a personal bullshit tolerance threshold for pussy.

And you’d be surprised how stealthily people’s odors can sneak up on you when you transition from outside to inside. Like after girls have been dancing and sweating all night, you bring em back to your spot and suddenly realize their feet are rank. A minor sour smell coming from somebody’s body or mouth can slowly escalate and become significantly worse over the course of just an hour without intervention. That’s how festering bacteria works. Honestly we give bitches way too many passes

[–]zaze122 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]OutsideTheCage32 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know it was a basic shit test but honestly this girl was annoying. Her breath smelled, she was drunk, cocky for no reason. I just needed an excuse to kick her out. I was no longer having fun. And she became instantly unattractive to me.

This is a bit different than the body of the original story... but if you're basically not into a chick, you don't really need a reason. You don't need the "disrespect" issue. If you're not into her, don't invite her over, and if you already have, just say you're not feeling it tonight and she should go. Be polite, but firm.

[–]Synacku3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It appears you've done exactly the right thing. There's no time for those that you're not attracted to. Unless you really need something.

[–]MishtaBiggles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she was cocky and hyping her self up thats usually one of the easiest girls to take down. 99% of the time they have flaws that they try to overcompensate for. Real businesswomen who are the best in their field are extremely passive on their accomplishments.

The second she got cocky, I would have brought up her breath. Subtly mentioning her breath is the easiest way to send a womans mind spiraling. Ive done it to women even when they had a mouthfull of mints. If she was drinking and thought you less of her she wouldnt of came over. She was shit testing you. You can easily overcome that. This girl wouldve probably been an easy fuck. The loud mouths usually are

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you did the right thing. But you yourself seem a bit unsure of it. I wouldn't overthink it or second-guess it. You didn't like how she was behaving, so you had her leave, and now she's butthurt and trying to spin damage control. Pretty soon, she'll move onto some new drama and forget all about you.

[–]yumyumgivemesome8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

This makes sense. The girl was acting that way because she really liked OP and that's her stupid way of trying to qualify herself for him. He basically had her in his hands if he could maintain frame. But, like you said, if it becomes unattractive enough for OP, then there's absolutely no reason he should feel compelled to prolong the interaction.

[–]kmf01 1 points [recovered]  (6 children) | Copy

People will tell you you should have agreed and amplified. Maybe yes, maybe no. In the end of the day, do you think you made the right choice kicking her? You said yes, but then again you made this thread, so something is making you insecure

Girls are addition to our life not a goal. If you no longer had fun with this chick then you made the right move and dont overthink it. Even if these were probably shit tests i can totally agree with you and after longer time of such a stupid talk i would probably also lose interest. Go and find other girls with whose you enjoy spending time with

[–]oldsoulkt 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

Most definitely will. I’ve reached a point in my life where most women are boring or say nothing of value. Crazy thing is I woke up this morning to a text from her apologizing for her actions last night. I ignored it and will continue to go about my day.

[–]Popeman7912 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yes it depends on where you're at regarding patience and how much you're willing to accept. At this point I have zero tolerance for entitled princesses, so at the first display of overinflated ego she's either sorry, or she's out. I would have done the same as you.

Others point that this was ASD and you could have defused it, sure. But with real abundance you don't need to fuck them all. Entitled bitch didn't deserve your dick or your time.

[–]Moldy_Gecko3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's if we are to believe he isn't leaving out details or about his own insecurities. If he's 100% honest with us, he's in the right, but as some others have said, just by making this post, he definitely has some insecurity about it.

[–]Popeman790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Completely agree.

[–]JohnGaltAWALT2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Echoing similar sentiments here brother. The more I read of the sidebar, the more I own my shit, the less and less patience I have in dealing with or interacting with women. Its almost like a one strike policy has been implemented in my mind, but the threshold for the "strike zone" is as big as my SMV is high. Focus on my mission, lift like a man possessed, SMV climbs and that strike zone just grows and grows...

"What is the endgame of all of this?" is my main focus in my quiet time. I read, meditate, and speak with my father--I want to be a father myself and have a family, but I have serious doubts about finding a good woman that is wife/mother material. Any thoughts are welcome.

[–]Popeman792 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I had the same one-strike policy. I would even warn them beforehand: "don't lie to me. I have experience, I'll know. And don't test me either. I have no tolerance for this.."

I would always hope that this one would be good, would be trustworthy. But most of them always ended up lying on trying to manipulate me, it was sad honestly.

I do think this policy is good, but it has to come from a place of stoicism, whereas I was kinda pissed off. It's not good like that, you end up being disappointed and the rage accumulates..

Regarding choosing a woman, my favourite criteria is to imagine what kind of separated mother she will be. Like, worst case scenario, you split up and she has your kid, with no possibility of coming back. How will she treat you when there is nothing else to expect from you? Will she be fair? Imagining the worst tells you everything you need to know about your potential partner.

I'm a dad and it's amazing, I'm with you on that. I want more kids, hopefully with my current LTR.

Good luck man.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev63 points64 points  (4 children) | Copy

how she’s not like other girls

You stop her right there and point out:

"I'm not like other girls."

-99% of Girls.

[–]Moldy_Gecko6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Right? When she says, "I'm not like other girls", you reply with some shit like, "That's what all the other girls say too".

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I’d say exactly what I wrote, complete with hand gestures. It’s funny and would completely disrupt her hamster.

You might also say, ”Not like other girls? What, you have TWO vaginas instead of one?”

[–]Moldy_Gecko0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm not sure which part you wrote that you would say... 99%?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Everything after the “:”

[–]GregTRP56 points57 points  (2 children) | Copy

A subtle neg works wonders here. If she used to struggle with self confidence then she'll crack again.

[–]oldsoulkt 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Normally when a woman says she’s not like others I agree and amplify. But this chick, I have no clue. It was so off putting. I could feel the disrespect in her words. She tried to boast herself by putting me down and that tells me a lot about her character. No point in fucking a girl or a plate you’re not having fun with, that’s just my opinion. So she got the boot

[–]GregTRP8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

And there's nothing wrong with that. It's not our obligation to lay everyoone that wants to fuck us.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K1819 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

A barrel of insecurity. People who feel the need to talk such a big game to sell themselves, are covering something.

It all depends on what you want. Now, I wouldn't have kicked her out. She gets to feel like she won. I would have teased the fuck out of her.

'I have the feeling if I didn't say something, you would talk about yourself forever'

'You know what's cheap? This' *use your hand to mimic talking*

It's all a big fitness test. She's in your bed, on the second 'date', she's screaming for validation and attention. She's exactly like every other girl.

Really, what you say doesn't matter, as much as the attitude you hold. You shoulda gotten over your 'feelings' and showed her she's no different at all.

EDIT: I do get what most are saying, though. If you're not into it and have abundance mentality, no problem with completely disqualifying her.

I would have been tempted to fuck her, then disqualify her. That whole 'look at me' act just screams no fun.

[–]1redhawkes113 points114 points  (9 children) | Copy

Epic ASD fail.

You're in your bed and instead of escalating, you're talking.

then she starts talking about how she’s too much of a woman for me and how she’s not like other girls...

Here's where her ASD kicked in. Her qualifying to yourself is a good thing tho.

blablabla im no like other gurlzz.. "yea you're worst" add shit eating grin and keep escalating.

I felt disrespected because who the hell is this girl to say this to me?

Butthurt bitch. Instead of teasing her, you took her bullshit seriously. She was in your fucking bed. It's your ego that separated your from her pussy, nothing else.

Next time remember to watch her actions, not her words.

[–]riche_god18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

I agree. This was a strong shit test, and I think it was a way for her to not seem like a hoe (sorry don’t know the terms). I would have teased her and amplified and made her prove it. Could have have turned it into sexual tension with all types of innuendo.

Nonetheless, all good learn and move forward.

[–]BloodSurgery5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

I agree. This was a strong shit test, and I think it was a way for her to not seem like a hoe (sorry don’t know the terms).

Hoe, whore, T H O T, bitch, someone who fucks around. Those are some usable terms.

[–]1tino1250 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol not the term he was looking for. Probably LMR or ASD.

[–]Yonski313 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy


Lighten up OP don’t take life too seriously

[–]lerossignol7718 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid perspective

[–]DrizzlyShrimp365 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best answer here

[–]redpill770 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

That's what I was thinking at first. He mentioned in a comment that she was unattractive in other ways, and he really just wanted her gone. He should have included that in the post, because it changes the whole situation from a 'failed shit test,' to 'this girl is not worth my time.'

[–]1redhawkes1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I felt disrespected because who the hell is this girl to say this to me?

That's how the rationalization hamster works. He got her in bed, but then after he got butthurt, he got epiphany that her breath stinks, yea. The whole post is projection. Live and learn.

If some hoe acts like entitled cunt, she's done in the first 5 mins, let alone bringing her home.

If you wanna achieve shit, you need to stop lying to yourself and kill the ego, especially when you learn. I've been there.

[–]Moldy_Gecko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think he just changed it to that and not put it in the initial post as a way to try and "qualify" himself here. Nobody wants to be told they failed a shit test. I'm sorry, but if she was in his bed, he was into her, at least enough to bang her. It was a failed shit test.

[–]FlyingSexistPig45 points46 points  (0 children) | Copy

You rejected her.

You have shaken her to her core, because women do NOT deal with rejection. They simply don't.

She's spent countless hours talking with her girlfriends about how much she deserves respect and blah blah blah. But the fact is, the moment you rejected her, none of those hours mattered any more. So now she's going to come at you with everything she's got.

She was trying to create a world with her words. She was trying to frame her existence with those words. The only problem was that you were the only customer, and you weren't buying.

Yes, you could have handled it differently, and maybe gotten your dick wet. But is that really all you wanted? "Don't stick your dick in crazy." And she's crazy.

[–]0io-15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

In any relationship you want to keep asking yourself:

"Am I enjoying this? Is this a good use of my time? Is this making me happy?"

If the answer is YES, you just ignore and laugh off any stupid shit she says "Blah blah blah, whine whine whine." When she gets bored with that have more sex or do something fun. This is where you pass shit-tests.

If the answer is NO, then you did the right thing. Pull the plug. Go do something with someone else. Next!

[–]AshyBoneVR421 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then she starts talking about how she’s too much of a woman for me and how she’s not like other girls

She wanted you to fuck her and she has a low self esteem.

because she’s different and that her being different attracts me to her.

Yep. Low self esteem.

I felt disrespected because who the hell is this girl to say this to me?

You a prideful ass dude ma dude. She's a female. She's used to guys throwing themselves at her. Let her say whatever she wanted to say, fuck her, then go about your business. You would have been shocked to see how submissive she would have became if you fucked her after talked all that good shit.

She said she used to be insecure so she deserves to feel like that.




She's still insecure and doesn't know how to act around people. She thinks being cocky=confidence. She would have been an easy fuck.

Overall, you overreacted. She's an insecure girl who doesn't know how to act around other people. Especially dudes. I'd guess she just started acting this way within the last few years. You seem to be the one with the ego in this situation. You should have just laughed it off and told her it's gonna be hard for her to talk all that shit with your dick in her mouth, then just proceed from there.

[–]2comment8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

how she’s not like other girls

"Me neither."

Now if you handled it correctly, that's up to you. She sounds like she would have been an easy lay, but little value beyond that.

[–]mrpthrowa7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

standard shit tests really...

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

She puts herself on a pedestal because she is still insecure

[–]CharlesChadworth11 points12 points  (5 children) | Copy

Should have deflected the shit tests, gone balls deep and kick her out after sex. That way you get what you wanted and she feels like a hoe after. Win win.

[–]pointster_VSK-3 points-2 points  (4 children) | Copy

And here comes his metoo case after

[–]CharlesChadworth1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Fuckkkk nooo brahhhhh. Use the voice record app on your phone, face it down and record for 10 hours plus. Capture her moans of your dick deep in her ass. Use her name frequently and slip in a date and time here and there and bam! You just fucked up a slut.

Court dismisses it, easy as, just send it to a Tv station to prove your innocence lol...

[–]pointster_VSK2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Now you’re recording without consent.

Sending it to a TV station..that can be used against use and called out as defamation

[–]CharlesChadworth-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Would take defamation over a false rape charge any day.

Btw if you enter my home and I have any recording devices, be it a camera or sound recorder I'm within my rights to use it. No different to having a security system installed. No consent required.

[–]pointster_VSK-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

True that

[–]richarddbuckley45 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re an autist 😂 every girl says “I’m not like other girls” “you know I never fuck first time” or they try to point out ways you like them. Just make a joke out of it or go along with it. she was just being playful. You showed your frame was weak and now she’ll never fuck you. when girls are mean to you they’re almost ready to fuck. Should’ve just played it off.

[–]trpppp1232 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You sound like you got offended to easily.. sounds like a mere shit test and you failed.

[–]KillaJewels2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That was a classic shit test. Shit test does not equal disrespect. Because y'all were in bed and she hadn't given it up yet, I'd call that an LMR shit test. You failed because you reacted instead of laughing it off or putting her in her place without ego/emotions overcoming you.

I'd say this one's a dealbreaker. She gone man. Move on.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think you might have found a female you, and she really seems to push your buttons lol

[–]xx-Rain_Maker-xx5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

The answers on this thread are really bad. This shit test is relatively easy to pass. When a girl starts bragging about herself I just tell her " a king that must say he is the king, is not true king" They usually understand the message and shut the fuck up.

[–]imtheoneimmortal8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whats disqualify here with an Agree and Amplify?

Dude you should chill and take things less personally

You wasn’t funny with her and she was not disrespecting you, how it is when she qualify herself?

[–]Lambdal71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If a decent girl says this, no big deal. It’s playful.

If there are already 10 other annoying things about her, it’s the nail in the coffin.

[–]MagnumBurrito1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're in bed with her (that's a big tell she's hardcore into you) and she's talking herself up, qualifying herself to you.. also teasing you.

She wanted some banter before getting physical.

I don't think you handled it right.

[–]throwawaybpdnpd1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would have done exactly the same...

The game isn’t just about fucking random bitches, it’s about fucking the ones who turn you on the most; this one is a total turn off

[–]Moldy_Gecko1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm with /u/redhawkes on this. She's already in your bed, you should be fucking, not talking. And she was trying to qualify herself to you. You failed. But, if you genuinely weren't into a girl that for some reason you've already brought into bed, then sure, you did it right. Then again, I'd probably still hit it, then just no contact. To be fair, this just sounds like too much TRP machismo, too little actual TRP practice. Good that you're trying, but remember, you're just a dude, she's just a chick. Neither of you are shit when it comes down to it. You're just two people trying to bang. Have confidence, but don't exert too much fake confidence that you get in your own way.

[–]unlimiteddogs3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I just read this sub when I’m bored and nearly all of the responses here make you all seem like dudes who don’t really know how to talk to girls.

She said what she said, you caught feelings like a little bitch, and then she called you a child because you acted like one.

[–]GolfinEagle2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. Better to stick to reading the sidebar material and not engage with the people here much, outside of the endorsed guys. So much cringe and bad advice.

[–]FinancialElephant1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The way she acts reminds me of an alpha widow. Like she was banged out by a narcissistic Machiavellian dude that she fell for and he left her and now she is trying to use his tactics (poorly) to try to hurt random men. Its wierd as hell but some wahmen do this. She's not very good at it though because she exposed her cards to you. I think in this case you trusted your instincts and made the right call. If you still want to plate her you probably have a better chance now than you did before it happened.

I could be wrong, she could just be emotionally unstable or autistic or something, but if I'd have to bet on it I'd say theres baggage/history here.

[–]SeasonedRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you felt disrespected and uncomfortable with what she was saying, you handled it just fine. It sounds like you had a sense this girl was bad news. Someone like her has the potential to make your life miserable, and cutting ties with her early was a good move.

[–]1tino1251 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Holy crap, epic shit test fail man.

Kicking her out is a massive overreaction and makes you look easily butthurt. I don't even see any actual disrespect in the story just you getting offended over, what, a girl talking herself up a little?

When she's saying she's not like other girls you laugh and say "yeah, you're much worse". Or she says you love her because shes different you say "yeah, I've got your engagement ring somewhere around here" or "yeah, I always did have a thing for weirdos" while grinning.

This is basic stuff dude.

[–]furoshus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've used all your suggestions almost word for word to success in the past. Haha

[–]zaze120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why don't just bang her and disappear in tunnel of light in a PatrickSwayze's style? I wasn't with you so I don't know how things went,but instead of creating drama you could just do your thing and never contact her again. Who cares about the shit a girl put on in your bed,maybe she was just nervous. Not to justify her,just to say that you and what you want are the focus and what a random hoe say worth nothing,especially in your bed.

[–]Incaahhh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I understand the principle but you mightve taken it too far. Who gives a shit what she has to say? Maybe she's just bs'ing since you guys are just talking (on your bed). If you really had a problem with what she said you couldve agreed and amplify or just ignore it then prove her wrong later on.

[–]1XXXMersenne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She was probably trying to avoid the awkwardness of silence if you weren't moving things forward. She probably isn't very funny and so had to use self-aggrandizement to compensate.

Why let it affect your emotional state? Ground it within yourself. Self-amuse while she's saying all this shit and trumpet your freedom from outcome via comeback jiu-jizzu:

talking about how she’s too much of a woman for me

  • "Yeah, you've gotta cut the carbs man..."

and how she’s not like other girls

  • "No shit, we're about to have sex & I'm still not hard"

  • "Other girls would be sucking me off right now, yet you're still yapping like I'm your therapist"


Uncaring, self-amused (aka 'asshole') Responses like this are negative. GOOD, because evoke emotional responses in the girl which trigger her submissive and overtly approval seeking behaviours.

The Cardinal Rule of Relationships: In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.

Although you displayed this by chucking her out; it's the second time you're seeing her, so there is a desire on your part to make it work.


You should have rubbed that pussy, threw a chewing gum in her mouth, kissed her and fucked hard.

Almost impossible to play the 'You're getting lucky mister' card after receiving an unrelenting pounding.

[–]captain_COONdog0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Should have just teased her relentlessly, neg that ego to death, then dick her hole and THEN kick her out.

[–]johnhello0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Research shit tests

[–]Velebit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are you non white?

You should have just not given any fucks about it or even teased her about her being smelly of alchocol and coping by boosting herself.

Also wtf are you talking so much. If you are in bed just stare at her eyes and have a grin for every stupid lmr she does.

She tested your composure and you cracked.

[–]Iceklimber0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She’s now trying to frame the situation saying that I’m mad she wouldn’t have sex with me

If she rejected sex with you then that is the true event, not reframing.

Did I handle this right?

You seeked a plate and you were denied it. Dropping her is the correct choice. The only wrong detail was explaining yourself. As per first quote it seems you were having a conversation afterwards. Talking it out is what women crave but not in your interest.

[–]Totsean0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I am lucky to be around you, why don't you show me how lucky I am by fucking me brain dead?

Why are you over complicating things, just do the deed and let her think whatever she thinks, your aim is to get laid. She can think she is the princess if she wants. Just get what you need out of it, plus you're not supposed to get invested in plates anyway.

[–]throwitdownman0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Is always DARE never DEER no longer required reading?

[–]Michael_Uchiha60 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I always thought it was DEAR? So I shouldn't Drop Everything And Read?

[–]boom_bostic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you could have handled it much better. With that being said, the way you handled could still easily workout in your favor if you continue playing your cards right.

We could talk about how you could have handled it but the main thing is how you handled yourself going forward. You just let this woman know that you have standards, you expect your woman to uphold these standards or there will be repercussions. If you keep voicing what you want from your woman, if she is really into you, she’ll try to become what you want. Basically, you’re training her to be the best she can be. She likes the challenge...don’t be afraid to give her a challenge.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You were a total dipshit. She was making a sales pitch for you to fuck her silly. You, however, went right to the silly part.

[–]Michael_Uchiha60 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like she was just messing with you and trying to qualify herself. Some kind of ASD/shit test. Even if it was slightly disrespectful, I highly doubt she actually meant to disrespect you. You lost frame here friend.

You also talk in other replies about how she had other issues (like bad breath and etc.). But if those things weren't enough to keep her off your bed in the first place, I think you're just hamstering for additional justifications for what you did (after the fact).

Have some higher standards about the kind of girls who make it into your bed. And unless there's law or potential violence involved, don't take the shit most women say too seriously.

[–]alleyteris0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

,I believe you did the right thing.

There is a fine line between shittsesting and being disrespectfull. If you translated that as her trying to be a bitch then you did well.

IMO her ASD kicked in when she said that she was in her period, women get to fuck in her period if they like you .

She sounds like she wasnt attracted 100% to you so you better soft next her and move on to the next one until she calls

[–]Narcissist4560 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She’s an annoying cunt. Good choice kicking her out.

[–]goblinboglin-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did well brother, I am afraid that me myself couldn't be so blunt yet seeing through her shit in that situation.

Just ignore her, she is hurt, her ego is hurt and she is trying to frame you.

You know what the real deal is.

[–]Hyper_Sonik-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

You are clueless. Read into anti slut defense. Lol you royally fucked up.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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