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Haven't had sex in eleven years

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February 18, 2019

I'm 28, 6'2, well-built, good face

but I've got a shit-tier job, no car, no debt fortunately, and I'm moderately autistic. I have mommies giving me looks at work all the time, I flirt a little bit but nothing has come of it yet because I have to work a damn cash register and keep lines going. I went monk-mode after breaking up with my first and only gf, read Schopenhauer, started doing nofap etc. I've since had many opportunities to have sex but turned them all down, at first because I still wanted innocent submissive wifey, later because I thought women were too expensive and troublesome to be worth the risk (MGTOW).

I don't have a "smartphone", so I can't take any pictures of myself for dating apps. I would probably find success with them since I have a chad-tier face, but nope. There are bars kinda close to where I live, but again I don't have a car so taking a bitch home is more difficult than it should be. Haven't been to any parties in years, stopped hanging out with that group. Basically I'm tired of my life being a sexless wasteland and I want to get laid, but feel like there's nothing I can do.

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Title Haven't had sex in eleven years
Author explicit_implication
Upvotes 82
Comments 134
Date 18 February 2019 12:41 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]third3y3guy115 points116 points  (1 child) | Copy

Convicted criminal losers who take the bus get laid. You can do it brother, no excuses.

[–]kenspiracy6639 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am all of those things and can attest.

[–]YTBoomin44 points45 points  (7 children) | Copy

Stop focusing on the sex, sex is a byproduct of lifestyle improvement. Focus on bettering yourself and the sex will come naturally.

[–]WayneNolting11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is legit advice ^

[–]hopscotchking2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Straight facts.

[–]meme_poacher1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

How? I always see advice like this but it never makes sense to me, am I just supposed to ignore my sex drive.

[–]YTBoomin3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I know it seems counterintuitive but it works trust me, use the energy towards bettering yourself and you’ll attract women rather than just merely getting lucky. You can chase women if you want but that’s only a temporary solution (also a sure fire way to develop oneitis). It takes time but working on yourself is always the better option man, gotta plant the seeds to reap the fruit. Work on your game, finances, and mental health, sooner than later people will look at you like you’re the prize and respect you as such. Chasing pussy is just like the rat rase, only way to win is to not play and make your own lane.

[–]resnine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Put more succinctly, build it and they will come.

[–]Yagametrics0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hey Meme Poacher, it means A. you have to start carving out a space in your mind in which will B. hoist you just high enough to see your potential. Even for a glimpse. Then you will C. sink back down, as ALL do.

A. What this means is to do less or stop what you know leaves you in a hole the next day. Most likely, that even isn’t the level at which you see it. It will feel more like the thing you, “told yourself you wouldn’t do a week ago.” But at this point you forgot.

Go back to basics. No matter where you’re at. Whether it’s brushing your teeth, remembering to charge your phone for tomorrow, keeping a clean room streak. Make it for the day, make it one thing For. The. Day. Don’t do it for the week, month, year, hype. And don’t do anymore. It’s a play by play, not a restless string of pushing nonsense. Don’t rest on your laurels

B. ut don’t you cheat yourself by forgetting to tip your hat to the profoundness of what you just accomplished. You took one step away from your own mental cliff and divorced yourself, even if it was for a moment, from a pit you once called your comfort & home.

C. You will fall and get familiar with the feeling of being a loser and not having. But don’t forget what you saw. You will also recognize you didn’t fall in the same place. Your butt is just a hair farther along than it was a day ago, week ago, month ago. If you do this enough, you will understand that although life is cyclical, it also matures. So will you if you aim at an arm’s length, lose the cynicism and understand how important it was for you to hit that target, and in time your body and mind will seperate itself from that which used to beat itself up. THEN the girls come, and don’t stop, and you remember when being a loser was actually a nice and simple life sigh ; )

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He is thinking cart before the horse. Build yourself up first, and they will come.

[–][deleted] 284 points285 points  (17 children) | Copy

No disrespect, but I took a screenshot of this post to motivate myself to keep improving, keep working on my game, keep approaching, because if I ever start spelling out all the non-problems and blue pill thoughts I had to use as excuses, it would end up sounding exactly as whiny and irrational as this, which I don't want. Thanks.

[–]ReformSociety23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

This was so pleasing to read. Like scratching a juicy itch.

[–]revosfts14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dropped the hammer on OP.

[–]Capital_Recognition39 points40 points  (1 child) | Copy

Absolute best reply possible. Got damn... he killed him and the game.

[–]3chazthundergut18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Men like him are why short fat men like me can get laid

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Brutal honesty. Just what OP needs.

[–]resnine13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

Started from the bottom now we here..

[–]zxcvb78092 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Started from the bottom now we in limbo

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

preach good sir!

[–]apoc20508 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy


[–]passportpowell22 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy


[–]Tjommas5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]damaged_goods4201 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Jesus fuck man

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

*Insert Jesus Christ Kid Gif here*

[–]WayneNolting72 points73 points  (9 children) | Copy

Fuck these guys. This is asktrp for Christ sake, as in, people come here for help. I have a good friend who is autistic and he fucking slays pussy. Don't worry, you don't need money to get chicks, in fact it actually kind of hurts. If you're actually interested in changing your life, shoot me a PM. My cousin and grandmother are both autistic. I understand the situation better than most of the assholes here. I'll at least try my best to point you in the right direction.

[–]resnine4 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy

I'd say it's a few factors that's hurting him for sure. Like his ability to socialize, being semi-employed, being a cashier, no car, living with parents. The logistics of this would be quite difficult. How do you help someone like this cause his situation is shit. What kind of women are going to put up with that?

[–]WayneNolting15 points16 points  (7 children) | Copy

He's going to have to change a lot of that. Nothing less. But at least offer the dude some legit advice, even if it's the typical "Are you lifting, bro? Are you reading, bro? Are you spinning plates, bro?" bullshit. I mean, c'mon. I mean, if people are going to be a dick to this guy, at least offer some constructive criticism while doing so.

[–]resnine5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

It's people like this that make me think we need a RP big brother program. These guys need to be shown not told. Like maybe similar to those RSD guys that force the guy to talk to women and show them the ropes. But not just with women but all of life. He needs a lesson on LIFE not just game.

[–]WayneNolting1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, I don't know. I guess something about growing up with my cousin with autism, and meeting the autistic guy I mentioned who's competing in strongman competitions and banging 5 chicks a week makes me think even this guy could kill it if he sets his mind to it. I'd have to see the guy I guess, and some people truly are hopeless, but for some reason I think this dude could kill it if he got the right advice and people around him.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I recall about a week or so ago someone was creating a groupchat/skype thing for people on here to sort of work on each others problems. I don't know what became of it. If I find i'll post for OP.

[–]WayneNolting2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cool. Reddit is not a particularly great medium for this niche.

[–]Moldy_Gecko1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Exactly right an, people first find Asktrp to improve, why the hate on people here? This sub is for tough love, not just a place to be a dick to people that need help.

[–]WayneNolting0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

And tough love is needed, I assure you. Anyone I've been somewhat soft on when it comes to RP has become a bigger pussy. All of the people that have been mentoring me haven't cut me a single inch, and I'm better for it.

[–]Moldy_Gecko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, that's why I said this is for tough love. But just talking shit about a post or not posting any advice or whatever doesn't help anyone. I am and was the same way... nothing but tough love when I joined TRP.

[–]vocalistsXD12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

Wtf do u mean that u don't have phone? Android phones are like 100 bucks

[–]ahackercalled4chan6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

i bought one as a backup phone at Target for $55... dude just wants to whine. he hasn't had his wake-up call yet.

[–]resnine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go to the Dollar Store, can get one for $30

[–]Casd1219 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

but feel like there's nothing I can do.

  1. I see your comment history, stop browsing braincels, and stop browsing MGTOW and browse other subs instead. I know it seems retarded, but those influence the way you think and act to a point where it decreases the chance of getting your dick wet. Its like smoking cigarettes, it feels good reading it, but it eventually kills you.

  2. Get a phone, they're not even expensive anymore like 300 bucks. Download tinder and fuck around.

  3. Get a proper job.

  4. You only have 60 years left on this earth, let it sink in.

  5. Get proper clothes, lift, be outgoing towards everyone, find a hairstyle that suits you.

  6. Stop browsing those two subs, cant emphasis this enough.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Noticed the Braincels and MGTOW in his history too. It lures you in because it is comforting to know you aren't alone. Thing is, it keeps you stuck in that same frame of mind, never wanting to leave. OP needs a RP big bro of some sort. Someone to show him the ropes. Idk where his father is, but he shouldn't be putting up with his son still living with him at 28, working a cashier job and not getting his dick wet. The frustration this guy must be feeling must be maddening. Life doesn't have to be this hard OP, you are the author of your own life. As cliché as that sounds it's true.

[–]3chazthundergut10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's all Male hamstering.

You're a pussy. Pussies dont get pussy.

Grab your nuts and go for it man. It's not as scary as you think

[–]0io-4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop turning down opportunities when they present themselves. You can certainly get laid without paying for it as a relatively tall, in-shape guy with a decent face.

[–]resnine10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

incel semi-employed cash register worker? stay off Braincels that place is toxic, defeatist, and self-loathing garbage.

[–]Terdmuffin9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop being so self sabotaging

[–]PlanKash17 points18 points  (12 children) | Copy

chad tier face and cant go to a bar and hook up some drunk hb8?

[–]icecoldwhoknows 1 points [recovered]  (11 children) | Copy


[–]the13thmonk4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy

hb8s don't hookup based solely on a dude with just a decent face *usually*

[–]resnine3 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy

True. It's absurd to think face/height alone is going to get you laid you have to have some sort of social-skills...

[–]the13thmonk1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

no no, it will DEFINITELY get you laid. Even lacking social skills. Just not with an HB8. HB4's, HB5's, HB6's definitely.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

At autism levels? I mean not being able to hold a girls hand, can't hold eye contact, barely utters any words... c'mon

[–]the13thmonk2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

there are levels of autism. what you're talking about is more severe than what OPS case sounds like, considering he works as a cashier, and had a past relationship

[–]Lord_Fluffykins6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes. Some might even go so far as to call it a spectrum.

[–]the13thmonk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]resnine0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Ofc, the level he is at is preventing him in some way obviously.

[–]the13thmonk0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

well, ya, otherwise he'd be going for the higher tier women.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If OP is reading, you need to start gaming women you aren't interested in to at least gain experience. Then start working your way up. A group of bros would do wonders for your social skills and confidence too.

[–]Big_Red_suppository32 points33 points  (5 children) | Copy

Translation is you're blaming your problems on other people but have absolutely no self reflection. You are a classic mgtow incel 👌

[–]swimminginblue1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Look at his post history. It’s the saddest thing I have ever seen

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Eh i've seen worse

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's cuz he don't have a phone dooe

[–]trpboy123-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you even know what's mgtow and incel?

[–]hrm08940 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol don't bother, "redpillers" think they're the same. The people here are so pussy hungry they hate MGTOWs because the idea that a valuable man doesn't want pussy in a rigged system is absurd to them.

[–]Nergaal3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because of MGTOW you are unwilling to take the risk of gaming lower-tier women. Without practicing on them, you can't realistically expect to have the skill to woo a woman that you think is worthwhile.

[–]ZeppKfw3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Chad Tier Face

Rationalizes everything so he doesn't have to work to get a girl

Whines about not getting laid

Lmao I love this. You keep doing you man.

[–]swimminginblue2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao look at his post history there’s one where he’s like “ I can get laid anytime I want” and then the rest is complaining about women and just straight weird shit

[–]theherosmyth2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

A lot of people here don’t like Jordan Peterson, but in dealing with these situations, I think he provides a perfectly laudable framework to work yourself out of the pit you find yourself in. I know you want to get laid but you need to do some work on yourself.

The basic breakdown is that first, you have to be honest with yourself, so you can use your inner compass to navigate towards a better place. Now on the surface you seem pretty honest about your situation, but addictions hijack your compass, to where instead of giving a clear read of the best direction you can go, it keeps sending you back into your addictive behaviors to make you feel better. And by addictions I don’t just mean cocaine or gaming or porn or whatever. In your case you seem to be addicted to your state of learned helplessness.

“I can’t go on tinder because I don’t have a smartphone”

“I can’t buy a car because I have a crappy job”

“I can’t go out because I stopped hanging out with those people”

“I can’t pull women because I don’t have a car”

“I feel like there is nothing I can do”

This is why he places so much emphasis on being able to pay attention, and speak the truth. It allows you to see and articulate exactly the metaphysical place you find yourself. Only if you’re clear on where you truly are, can you make steps to move out of there.

His next advice is to clean your room, or to turn chaotic potential into habitable order. Now people mock him for this advice. “I’m still a loser, but at least my carpet is vacuumed.” But a lot of people are too stupid to realize what he means when he says that. It’s about fixing small things in your direct vicinity, that you can and would fix, to use that new found order as a platform to make the next improvement. Each time you fix something, you’re in a new metaphysical place. You face a new landscape of potential. You pick a new thing to fix, preferably the thing that gives you the most leverage. Keep repeating this little process to work yourself out of your current state.

For you it would probably be things like recognizing and correcting yourself when you think “I can’t do this, because xyz”, getting your spending in order relative to your income so you can save some money, going to the gym, quit browsing subreddits that are toxic for your mind, start approaching a girl a day (your job isn’t the only place you can meet women you know), read, etc.

His book “12 rules for life” is probably a good place to start.

[–]resnine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

In your case you seem to be addicted to your state of learned helplessness.

This is indeed his addiction. And it becomes a feedback loop as he visits threads like Braincels and MGTOW where giving up in life is basically the mantra. TRP is about pulling yourself up, brushing yourself off, and getting back in the race. Instead of going to the sidelines of the race, kissing your bruises, and feeling bad about yourself alongside the other sea of losers. You must decide to get stronger and fight harder.

The longer you wait to get in, the harder the race will be. Cause it is easier to keep up than to catch up. The longer OP waits for life to just happen for him the harder things will be. Mindful hard work will get you far, know yourself, find your purpose and work like hell to make your vision of an ideal life a reality.

12 Rules for Life is an amazing book that has so much timeless wisdom. I recommend it to all who have given up, it truly puts into context situations like these, although it can be masturbatory at times. OP can download/torrent 12 Rules for Life and listen to the audiobook with one of his days off. I think it should become recommended reading around here because it goes over AF/BB and many other ills that newbies suffer from without inherantly realizing it yet.

[–]bonerpotpie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Very well said. This is the long form of the "Excuse generating bitch" comment below.

OP, stop blaming others and listen to this wise poster.

[–]trpboy1235 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

What I would in this situation is change my mindset. That's more than enough.

There was a post long back, by this guy about his plate. His plate(HB8) also used to fuck a Chad like guy who apparently was a janitor. The Chad would text her time and this girl would run to the place like a bitch and get fucked clean his place cook food and what not.

So start learning game. I recommend you read the natural by Richard la Ruina. I honestly don't know about autism. But try to get education from somewhere. Community college? Well game and looks are enough to get you laid. Also read the side bar. Maybe like right now

[–]hopscotchking5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Eleven years is a long time. Very ugly people with shit jobs still get laid. It seems like you’re making excuses.

[–]resnine-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

What very ugly ppl with shit-tier jobs are getting laid... to non-land whales / unfuckables?

[–]hopscotchking0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I know this might come as a shock to you, but women tend to care less about looks than men do.

I’m no Brad Pitt and I don’t bring in six figures, but I still manage to bed good-looking women. It’s not that uncommon. Maybe you just have a shit personality.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Alright if you are some expert what makes for a good personality? Cause everyone here constantly touts Lift and Game.

[–]hopscotchking0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You sound bitter, man. Work on that. A positive attitude goes a long way. Lifting and “game” is fine but I would also point out that women can smell desperation from a mile away. Don’t seem needy. Make your time seem more valuable than hers. Don’t text her back right away. Disable “read” receipts on your text messages. Nobody needs to know when you’ve read their messages anyway. Honestly, women fall into my lap (no pun intended) when I’m really not trying that hard.

Find a hobby, take a workshop, go for a run, start drinking more water, stop masturbating, learn a musical instrument or a foreign language. Basically- work on yourself. Women like to see men taking care of themselves who have an actual interest in cool shit. Women hate tryhards.

One of the most frequent compliments I get from women is that I’m very easy-going and easy to talk to. Build rapport with women and their pussy will be soaking wet. Unless she’s a complete whore (in which case you shouldn’t be going after her anyway), she’ll want to get comfortable around you first before putting your dick down her throat.

Life is about getting tons of pussy, just don’t make it seem that way. You’ll come across as skeezy.

[–]UnbreakableFrame2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

You need to find a mission and pursue it with every sliver of energy you can muster. It's not too late, but you are way behind the curve.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

From the getting laid part or his job?

[–]masterpiece000 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Societal expectations and measures of success and human self worth - basically his social media score is not high, therefore not a real human bean.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

social media score? More like real life score. He has the physical part down (unless he is lying/delusional) but the other parts are in shambles for his age, job is lowest possible tier, no transportation, lives with parents. He is basically invisible to women. I imagine with such shit-tier work that his clothes and style must not be decent either.

[–]masterpiece000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yep and these are all illusionary attributes society has made up BUT oh so important to RP means for getting the so important moist wet hole in life.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think it comes down to traits that women want to past on to their children. You can have chad-tier face, height, and body, frame/bone-structure and that fulfils the physical requirements, but then there is the social requirement of being personable/well-socialized, dominant, assertive, cocky, funny, arrogant... and then the big long-term traits of hard-working (not lazy), driven, goal-oriented, grit, successful. Amorphously women have a physical list of requirements as well as a social list of requirements a man must meet.

[–]1XXXMersenne2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

but feel like there's nothing I can do.

Give me a break man! Look at what site you're on: you can read the sidebar and watch high quality pickup content on YouTube.

Just say you're having trouble and need some advice/sources for how to start. Sob story unnecessary!

[–]h0ndaboy6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You wanna get laid? Get a prostitute

Wanna be a man that people respect and want to be with? Go where the money is and learn what it takes to be that man. The sidebar has everything you need.

[–]Merica9111 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get into a trade asap. Take loans out to pay for it. Yolo

[–]Drive_Thru_Sushi1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

In a way dude, these guys are right you’re self-victimizing, you’re laying out every problem you know you have, use them as excuses if they are legitimate problems; then you’re stuck with your thumb up your ass being “durrh I can’t get fuck, help asktrp”.

I know because I am exactly like you except with a car, I know how it feels for you to know that your attractive as fuck while everyone agrees, yet your dick is as dry as the Sahara. The other day I told my own problems to a MAN. Someone that told me that I need to stop acting like a victim and man tf up. I need to hear this shit told to me, to my face, in the fucking eye for Christ sake. Maybe you need the same.

I suggest you do the same, do something, anything, what’s the worst that could happen?

[–]huey7641 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get a used Iphone on Craigslist nigga wtf they cost like $150

[–]Herdsengineers1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

So at 28, working a cashier job, no car, etc.. No disrespect intended but start working on a better career. If college and academics aren't your thing, that's fine. Employers are screaming for skilled trades these days. Electricians, mechanics, HVAC, plumbing, etc. Heck, the guys that just replaced the windows in my house were obviously not highly educated, but they were well trained and new their trade and work very well.

Many employers are now taking guys off the street and training them in skilled trades because that's the only way they can get the work done. IBEW (International Brotherhood of Electrical Workers, a union) even has a program that if accepted, they train you to be an electrician, find you your initial jobs, etc. You work part time, go to their training part time. Basically on-the-job training, no student loans, and you get paid, get bennies, etc.

Other options are IT certifications, etc. If I had to graduate and figure out what to do with my life today instead of 20 years ago, I wouldn't go to college like I did. The loans and debt built up just aren't worth the pay you get today. I'd find a skilled trade, learn it, get a master certification, and then learn the business side so I could eventually strike out on my own.

Having said all that - once you are building yourself and investing in yourself, your growth, and a better future, what will happen is women will gravitate to you more naturally. Most women don't create value on their own. They need to latch onto a guy. The good ones will support him and help him as he does it. The bad ones use him up, discard, and move on to the next one. Just focus on building yourself for now, women will come, at that time then start learning how to handle and screen them.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

He could easily get certs for IT. OP needs to take the few hundred bucks he gets a week and all the money he'll be getting from his tax returns and invest into himself with IT certs. From what I've been told getting the Security+, Network+, and Microsoft certs are easy, then it's CySA+, BGP, ITIL, PMP, Scrum, AWS, cloud essentials, ISACA, CompTIA which are a little challenging. I hear the A+ cert is really what is hard to people. These skills are in-demand and aren't going anywhere. OP would be wise to get started now while he is still young. Spend six months to a year to harness these IT and programming skills and he'll be doing great, a new man. You can easily be making upwards from $100,000 starting off. Sure beats the $10/hr or whatever he makes currently.

[–]CaiusBard0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Absolutely agree with the IT certs. I got laid off from a highly specialized, lucrative job in a dying industry. With nowhere to turn, I spent a few hundred bucks getting Network+ and Security* certs. Took about 5 months and then got a job almost immediately in IT that paid decent. Worked there for a year, then got a job which now pays $80k. I also continued getting more carts as well to increase my value.

Completely turned my life around in a short time. I have another friend with a similar story. OP, fee free to pm me if interested in more

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

$80k, is that in a top-tier city or near one? Seems like you should be making a little bit more, but I haven't verified with and But $80k is still damn good. Are you getting good bennies?

[–]CaiusBard0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yes to the benefits. I’m a bit higher than average in my city, and much higher for my experience. I basically just started year two of my IT career.

BUT I negotiated a higher salary upfront due to the high demand in my area (take that wage gap feminists!)

I think the IT certifications are one of the best kept secrets out there. OP could literally go from where he is now to $60k in two years easily by just paying a few hundred bucks to get a couple of certs

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Any advice on negotiating a higher salary? articles/YouTube videos, general advice?

Even though $60k which I think is lower end for IT work it would get OP out of his parents basement, a car, and a girl(s) into his life (not settling for some dried up old milfs).

What are all the certs you have? just for a idea here

[–]CaiusBard0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't have any groundbreaking advice. Experience has taught me the only way to legitimately have a shot at getting a raise, is if the boss knows you will walk out the door. If the threat to leave isn't there, I don't see why they would give in and my experience has also been the case. Doing the "right thing" doesn't make the company money, they can always just use the default "Oh we don't have the money right now. Sorry" card. That happened to me twice, when I went in and justified my case, but had no intention on quitting.

Both times I got either a raise or higher salary, was when my employer new that I would quit or not take the job offer. And you have to actually be ready to walk away if that's the case, which is why you should always have an offer in hand before negotiating. I actually watched a Jordan Peterson YouTube recently on salary negotiation and he essentially said the same thing.

It's the same 'abundance mentality' that goes with dating. Much less chance of a girl treating a guy like a doormat if they know he'll dump her and leave the relationship.

Check your PMs on the certs.

[–]hrm08941 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you don't have your finances straight why the fuck would you want sex? You should be focusing on yourself before any woman.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

To play devils advocate he's still a man so he has needs. His need for pussy is stronger than his want for money. But he must understand that first he has got to get his shit together cause no woman wants a bum.

[–]Kpwn881 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haven't had sex in eleven years

Go fuck yourself.

[–]Kommanderdude 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Lmao! 28, well built, 6’2 and chad tier face. .... pretty sure this is a bad troll attempt or op doesn’t look like he thinks he looks.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Delusional. Likely doesn't have enough experience to tell what he really looks like and assumes he is chad-tier.

[–]theredfinance1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pay for a hooker -> You will realise sex isn't such a big deal -> You will realise you need a mission -> You improve and start focusing on YOU and YOUR mission -> Girls will come

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

Excuse generating bitch.

[–]resnine7 points8 points  (7 children) | Copy

Cmon, certainly this man at least deserves a genuine reply?

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

He decided to disengage with society, but wants pussy.

You have to interact with pussy possessors if you want pussy.

It really is that simple.

Everything else he wrote is "poor me".

Fucking excuses and ego protection. Sidebar, motherfucker.

[–]resnine5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

Alright, but that isn't going to help him it's just going to push him further away from trp knowledge. He'll just jump back onto Braincels. To be fair he is moderately autistic so he's obviously dealing with multiple problems so maybe doesn't have the full capacity to understand trp. Not everyone is made the same.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can't help those who won't accept help.

[–]HurricaneHugues-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

And who fucking cares? If hes too weak to get the message, then he never stood a chance in the first place. There is no hand holding here. Manhood is forged, not caressed into being.

[–]resnine4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Well I don't think he should be caressed either, but shitting on him when he is already down is going to push him further down the hole. He isn't less important than me or you, just has a different set of variables. The guy is dealing with some difficult things I couldn't imagine. I think there are some deeper problems than just "he's weak", that idea is too easy to assume here. The core problem hasn't been fully addressed. After all, he's just asking for help that's a start.

[–]HurricaneHugues-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Didn't read

[–]resnine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sure that happens a lot

[–]11-Eleven-110 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Join a union job and get an apprenticeship. My little brother is 20 years old and worked his ass of at his new union job starting at 13 dollars an hour and two weeks later was at 18 an hour after signing on as an apprentice. It 2 years he'll being making over 30.

[–]masterpiece000 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

And in 5 years he'll hate the job, so what?

[–]11-Eleven-110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So work is work and it will get him out of moms house and money to spend on a gym membership and mountain biking or whatever gets him off. Its better than being a fucking cashier at 28. Jobs aren't supposed to be fun.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

IT is a much better route imo. More prestige/status too, less getting your hands dirty not that there is anything wrong with that.

[–]RadioForMen 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

On the phone point, I got pissed off breaking a $600 Samsung. So I went to the ATT store and bought a $90 pay as you go smartphone, and put my regular att sim into it.

The camera is nowhere near as good as my Samsung s8, but otherwise it's fine. Bought a $6 case off eBay, and now I don't think about my phone at all.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The real question here should be his finances, where is all his cashier money going towards? That is at least a few hundred a week.

[–]TheStumblingWolf0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You're spending resources giving them the reasons they shouldn't date you. If criminals can do it, so can you. Don't disqualify yourself, let them do that.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It is called Self-sabotage / Male-hamstering. RP rule, don't give them a reason not to fuck you.

[–]PM_Happy_Puppy_Pics0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

where do you live? If it is near me, I will visit you and help you get girls. Sometimes, you need a guy to go with to show you the ropes, the tiny nuances, the little things, that make all the difference.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This guy needs a group of bros to keep him in check. He has most likely gone down the spiral of loserdom bc his parents and buddies allowed it and didn't want the best for him. When you are around toxic/negative ppl your life spirals downwards into a feedback loop. That's what happens when ppl around you don't want what is best for you, of course take personal responsibility first and foremost, that is number 1. But who you surround yourself with is it vital to sustained growth, maturity, happiness, well-being, and prosperity.

[–]flatox0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

All i hear is bullshit. None of this is actual problems. Buy a smartphone. Take a cab. Go to a fucking party, you dont need a specific group.

Grab a firm hold of your crotch mate, are they still there?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I worked a supermarket job for years whilst living with my parents and still regularly got laid. You're making excuses

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What helped you could help OP

[–]swimminginblue0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Everyone just go look at his post history and you’ll see why some people just can’t be helped.

[–]FlipflopETHtop0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Oh lawd.. screams incel

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well the title alone already basically confirmed that..

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bottom-line OP you aren't taking life serious.

[–]ambidexia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You sound like the dudes mom lmfao

[–]ChemicalGiraffe-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You might as well kys

I don' i don'

Too many excuses yet you are not trying. How do you turn down opportunities then go and claim you want exactly the same you turned down because you aren't getting it?

[–]ArchsofArch-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to first have a place where you can get them. Seriously look for validation, all people get laid.

[–]onepill_twopill-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Neither have I in 24 years. Voluntarily though

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why the hell not....

[–]swimminginblue0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The fuck WHY

[–]onepill_twopill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Catholic, no sex before marriage

[–]kayfab-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

now imagine me at 46, dude when i was your age i had sex like crazy i had the best of both world, the 40y old and the 20 something y old...... get out there man..... now i pay for sex.... cause at my age where do you want me to go to meet women my age.....

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