I stumbled across briffaults law, which states that every condition of the association with a male in a relationship is determined by her.
We say, we should be the captain in the relationship, she is the first boatsman. I see a slight dis conception here.
As far as I interpret it and bring both together is, she at any point can say (as you can) I am getting off that boat when she doesn't see any remedy anymore to associate with you (including all the subcontext of BL like past invested equity from your side, doesn't mean shit today etc.), but you basically steer it, give it direction. So in other words, she determines the starting point and you determine where and how the ship is going. Am I right in this corse assumption? I hope maybe some seasoned sailors can chime in here, as I (as one can see from my last posts) have stumbled upon some roadblocks hahaha.