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How to get LTR/Wife to dress better?

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February 23, 2019
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I dress well, take care of my appearance, get IOIs etc. Typically I tell her to wear something "sexy" or "not so casual". She complies without a problem. However, if it were up to her she would hang out in damaged jeans, t-shirts, and Vans, all day, everyday. How have you guys lead your women into dressing the role?

UPDATE: Went out to grab dinner last night, I wore a blazer a crisp white button down. She had on the usual sporty comfortable wear. Looked cute, but its predictable and casual. She was hamstering. Had dinner came home, blew her back out. This morning, blew her back out again, the she tells me, OVERTLY that she needs to start dressing for success and wearing nicer/not so casual clothing overall.


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Title How to get LTR/Wife to dress better?
Author strngExtent
Upvotes 9
Comments 16
Date 23 February 2019 08:19 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/219592
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/att7uy/how_to_get_ltrwife_to_dress_better/
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[–]rizzyfromthe915 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dress even better until she looks "embarrassed/stupid" dressing under you so much

[–]strngExtent[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Continue to unfuck myself and change bad habits."

[–]dipping_toes8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

"Why when I did X, she didn't do Y." Covert contract.

You don't get other people to do anything. Fix you.

"I you don't like how she is but I keep her around." Oneitis.

Again, fix you, keep tightening the 1000 ft rope.

Is she your dress up doll or a real human being that provides value to you? If her value is in looking nice, maybe you worry too much about what other people think.

[–]jcrptaRed Beret7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

The covert contract is a huge dichotomy in RP ideas. We teach "unfuck yourself and she will follow", while in the same breath teaching "don't go around expecting specific behaviour then getting upset when you don't get it".

There is a way to resolve it: you radically change your mindset. Put any thought of what she is doing out of your mind. Think only of un-fucking yourself.

She is free to join you in this un-fucking exercise; she is free not to. And it is vital you internalise this.

[–]strngExtent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a good observation and suggestion. I hadn't considered any of these points. In true RP fashion it comes back to working on myself.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

My last wife dressed better when I started telling her what I liked.

I started shopping with her.

“That dress is too long.”

“Those jeans don’t flatter your ass.”

“The A-line style top no longer flatters your new figure.”

One day I noticed I had a hand in almost every piece of her wardrobe.

“Do you like this outfit, Matrix?”

“Of course baby, I picked it out.”

Of course, she took her hot new look and left beta, pre-RP me for a better man.

Now I’m RP and she wants me back.

Too fucking late, you disloyal bitch.

I no longer subscribe to monogamy or care about loyalty.

Fuck me, and we can hang out.

Fuck me over, and you’re out.

But I digress.

The CAPTAIN is an oft-used metaphor around here.

Lead by example.

And sometimes, the crew needs to be instructed in what to do to make the ship run well and keep the Captain satisfied with the crew’s performance.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I hope to get to your level of communicative anger one day.

I have so much work to do.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s ironic; I was such a ‘nice guy’ for well over 50 years, but the last few years have, quite simply, just fucking pissed me off.

I hope to meet you at the 21 Convention this October in Florida.

[–]Reach180Red Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hang out? Like around the house?

I got tired of my wife "hanging out" in baggy pj pants and giant t shirts, so I took her out to buy leggings & form fitting tops. Just as comfy, not so sloppy.

As far as outside the house, give her a reason to dress nicer. Lead the way.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yin to yang.

Dress masculine to a T. Refuse yourself the luxury of sitting around in nasty clothing. Watch as it turns with no words spoken

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take her shopping to Everything but Water and help her pick out her swim suit for her to wear to Mexico.

Oh wait. Wrong OP.

Same faggot level though.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Before RP, at one stage, my wife started wearing low cut jeans. You know the ones where the underwear/ass crack shows when you bend over.

Like a fag I complained to her a few times her underwear is sticking out or that it wasn't appropriate. Imagine how often you bend over with toddlers.

You guessed it, she just blew me off and blamed the jeans/style/soceity/the universe.

So one day she is bending over in public and I just pull her g-string up her ass in front of her folks. Off course she was very pissed off at me.

Afterwards I just told her my wife doesn't dress like that. She stopped.

Fucking amazing what happens when you open your mouth and tell them what you think.

Edit: The g-string pull was a passive aggressive attempt to shame her in front of her folks.

The golden moment was when I told her my expectations of her.

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife likes to look feminine. Because I'm masculine.

She has many cool old school retro looking dresses she loves to wear, and loves when I tell her which one to wear.

Lead.

Sure, it's a pain when you have to make all the decisions.

But you are getting to make all the decisions. That's your job.

"My wife will look like my wife."

You can't bitch about having to be the captain and want the captain's responsibilities in the same breath.

Are you Captain? There's where your focus needs to be. Everything else is housekeeping. Horse before the cart. Fix the big problem (that's you) first.

[–]SiegreicherMarsch2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Spend more time in places where people are dressing to your level. If she wants to come along, she'll need to up her game. Her jeans, t-shirt, and vans combo seems pretty posh if the other girl in line at Subway is wearing pajama pants and old slippers.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thousand foot rope. Give it some time and keep following the MAP.

[–]Imaginary_Historian-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

There are women out there who look great in most anything. I have a plate who even looks hot in a Snuggie. Unless she is looking dumpy with clothes about 4 sizes too big then I think the problem isn't the clothes.



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