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Girl says she's seeing someone

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February 26, 2019
70 upvotes

So there was this girl who I partied with like 4 weeks ago and she was super flirty and sexual with me. I sent her a Facebook message saying whats up and promptly asked her for her number and if she wanted to hangout sometime.

She said she was really down to hangout sometime but when I asked for her number she said "ok wait just to let ya know im kind of seeing someone right now".

I'm not sure if she's actually seeing anyone right now since I'm pretty sure wasn't just a few weeks ago considering how many IOIs she was showing me but I'm not sure how to reply to that.

Should I just say yea no worries as though I don't care? Or is it better to put her on the spot a little bit and get her to meet up anyway.

Opinions and Anecdotes are welcome and appreciated.


Post Information
Title Girl says she's seeing someone
Author noobulus54321
Upvotes 70
Comments 80
Date 26 February 2019 08:35 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/219901
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/av47mr/girl_says_shes_seeing_someone/
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[–]MagnumBurrito141 points142 points  (35 children) | Copy

If she's willing to hang out with you alone, she knows what's up. Pretend her seeing someone comment wasn't even said.

[–]Mescalean34 points35 points  (34 children) | Copy

Yes but also let OP know that this could end bad for him if she really is seeing someone. A womans sluttiness has no baring on who her BF is. For example an ex team mate of mine plays for the saints d-line now. He’s dealt with cheaters. No piece of pussy is worth that hospital bill though. All this shows is a weak ego trying to acquire someone else gains. Beta/orbiter behavior in sheeps clothing. If abundance was there he wouldn’t be thinking twice about stacy and move on. Thirsty. He didn’t even ask for her number in person... he waited for the safety of facebook.

Edit: lets the upvotes show. Billy beta and the bitchboi brigade, thanks for exposing your poser asses below 😘

[–]jreed1125 points26 points  (30 children) | Copy

That hospital bill is worth it once you sue. Assault is assault. Anyone who's going around assaulting people because their girlfriends were sluts is stupid by nature, and can easily be fucked longer term in court.

[–]QueenSlapFight18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Most people who throw down for stupid shit have nothing to lose. Are you really going to try to sue someone who has nothing? If you're talking about criminal charges, good luck in a he said/he said case. If you're lucky there will be evidence that supports you. If you're unlucky, you'll both get charged because you can't prove your innocence. You may be innocent, you may even be able to beat the rap; but you won't beat the lawyer bills, and you won't beat the ride. No thanks.

[–]amwfhunter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol, if I was a crazy bf who put my life into the relationship for example, I shoot u, you're dead. I proceed to shoot the gf and myself....ok is it worth it now?

What if the bf has gang connections? I can tell you in my past I've went after people for money in China and it was not pretty. No woman is worth putting yourself at risk. Besides, why would u even want to be that guy when there are plenty of chicks around?

Just my two cents.

[–]Mescalean4 points5 points  (26 children) | Copy

Sounds kinda beta. Considering human nature has existed far longer than than our skewed court system which TRP rips apart when it comes to divorce law. Some of the best epics in history were written because of blood lust over pussy.

You/OP are men. Act like it. Do what you want but as soon as you have the law fight your battles for you, that you as a man should be able to handle on your own, you are no longer better than any THOT.

And no. I do not come from some dirty little trailer park in OK. Grew up in the greater phx area going from town house when little to my family being extremely successful by highschool. Was taught 2 main things.

  1. If you hit someone expect to be hit back. Op should consider learning to fight if he is going to go around fucking strange gash. Bjj and kickboxing always bueno.

  2. NEVER. RAT. This was taught to me by EVERY male role model from dad to uncle to coaches. Tattling. Ratting. Bitch move. Sure the law sides with you. The law also sides with a lot of ridiculous shit. While not a “scraper” I’ve been in my number of squabbles during adult age. Some over drugs. Some over pussy. Some over no apparent reason at a party or bar. I have NEEEEEEVVVVVEEEEERRRRRR had another man take me to court over a fight.

TLDR? Ratting on someone ain’t alpha....

[–]amwfhunter3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Problem is now there are guns involved. If a bullied kid can shoot up a whole school...who knows what a crazed bf can do. I'm with u man. Not worth it. I understand defending oneself if attacked. But whoever is going after another man's chick is asking for trouble.

[–]Mescalean1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

One reason why if a girl says she has a boyfriend to just go for something else. True abundance would be having plates reading instead of wasting mental energy trying to con your way into some girls pussy.

The “take her” mentality also shows a weak ego. “I can take someone elses shit im special” is the root of it pure and simple. “Im superior”. Some people dont take disrespect lightly. So i agree. Not worth it. Was my main point.

[–]thirstybitch138 points9 points  (18 children) | Copy

You sound less like an alpha and more like a member of the sopranos that got left on the cutting room floor. Sueing someone isn't beta or alpha the same way brewing a cup of coffee isn't beta or alpha. Not everything can be redpilled.

[–]Mescalean-1 points0 points  (17 children) | Copy

Ratting for something like fighting is beta as fuck and you know it dude. To sue you would have to go to the police and press charges, file a report. Stop trying to convolute a simple red pill truth.

“yOu SoUnD lIkE tHe SoPrAnOs”

You sound an awful lot like a problem another poster described the other day. Betas trying to justify beta behavior in this sub while trying to act alpha.

Hasn’t the black community been red pilled about women for a while? TRP gives them credit from the reading I have done. They also teach don’t rat. Justify being a pussy however you want dude lol

[–]thirstybitch131 point2 points  (16 children) | Copy

Wow somebody has salty hardon for lawyers. Good luck with whatever you're going through. Wanna cry it out or something?

[–]jreed111 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

He doesn’t realize that accomplished people have the means to use the courts to their utmost disposal because of money and good counsel - access to which would, to me, imply an “alpha” persona. Personally I consider anyone who has to talk about what it means to be alpha automatically excluded from whatever conception of alpha he has in his mind. It’s such high-school crap.

It seems that some people here think that being alpha is being the high-school jock who settles stuff in the parking lot. People are of course free to lionize such behavior as indication of success in society, but the actually successful people will continue to make money and decide who gets what while wannabe internet posters dream on Reddit forum boards.

I’d rather be an Antonin Scalia than a diehard cosplay.

[–]thirstybitch130 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

The day I need to kill a guy with my bare hands, I'll do so. Until then, I'll use my success and wealth to do whatever it's capable of as well. But man, he went pretty hard pretty fast. Maybe a lawyer stuck a finger in his butt when he was young (or recently.)

[–]jreed110 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah I agree with your mindset completely. Something tells me plenty of posters here carry chips on their shoulders when it comes to “high society” institutions like, gasp, courtrooms. Lol.

[–]Mescalean-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Being a weasel isn’t apha buddy.... keep fooling yourself though.

Not only is talking shit to your frat buddy about me and not too me a bitch/beta move in itself but you compare your goal image of yourself to an old judge who has been accused of pedophilia on multiple accounts.

Damn. Great screenshots 👍

[–]jreed110 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You validate your existence by trying to call strangers online betas and alphas. Hint: Real "alphas" -- whatever that term even means -- don't actually think about being "alpha." Your obsession with one-upping people, virtually no less, is quite humorous.

I would also bet that types like Antonin Scalia live far more fruitful lives of much more powerful and fulfilling existences than you or I will ever hope to do. But at least I'm not sweating it. I'm satisfied with where I am and will continue to grow, professionally and otherwise.

I didn't reply to you because I wasn't interested in what you were saying. I was interested in what /u/thirstybitch13 said, instead. But you now have my full attention, and I have no qualms with stating that you are a caricature of everything that you think you are not. Thanks for playing.

[–]Mescalean-1 points0 points  (7 children) | Copy

Cute circle jerk. More bitch made behavior from the “alphas” of reddit (; “gossip circle girls!!!”

Two billy betas orbiting each other beyond adorable.

Law is fine and dandy. A grown man trying to act hard by chasing after someone else partner “OmG lOoK aT mE iM sUCh A pLaYa” and you two simps are bitching about high school behavior? Meanwhile not talking shit to me but to each other about me? Was your fucking father around at all or just a bitch himself?

The upvotes vs downvotes speak for themselves. Your view is the opposite of trp. Keep justifying your meek existence there billy

Edit: note you also completely convolute/twist my view to meet your argument. You argue like a bitch aswell. Did you hashtag stand with her???

[–]thirstybitch131 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Saw the red hat on you a mile away. Gonna go game some women right now so you can stop trying to get your dick hard off of my replies.

[–]Mescalean-1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

Lol hoooookay billy you pretend to have game 🤣

Funny how fast you fake ass betas expose yourselves. “sAw ThE rEd HaT a MiLe AwAy” when did I say I supported trump? Also how would Hillary have made a better POTUS? If your going to virtue signal for goodboy points on hipster central at least back your shit up. Just makes you look like your typical NPC parroting whatever their favorite celebrity says.

Fucking faggot 😭

[–]cakefmateus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't listen to this, stay the fuck out of trouble. No woman, almost no one (maybe your parents, relatives or a real close friend) is worth the legal issues or a hospital bill.

Do you know what? Just stop by /watchpeopledie sub and you'll think twice before getting into trouble. As someone said in the comments here, you never know the other guy, maybe he's a crazy dude with a gun and you'll get killed for pussy.

[–]Garathon0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

You sound like an entitled kid who's parents took care of the legal issues when fighting in a party while high.

[–]Mescalean-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

L2read fuckwit.

There were no legal issues because we were raised not to rat. Justify your bitch behavior with whatever shit talk you wish princess 😘

Edit: youve also never been around high people obviously....

[–]Garathon-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

It's not me bragging about fighting over drugs, winner...

[–]Mescalean0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Like I said reading comprehension. When people deal with drugs like oxy or xanax for instance a small package is easy to steal. This is called getting “jacked”. Usually fights ensue over this not “high people fighting”.

Where did I brag? I specifically said I am far from a “scrapper”? You are just looking for something to bitch about aren’t you? Go change your maxi pad you silly little cunt. The upvote to downvote ratio speaks for itself along with the comments. The betas have ousted themselves hahahahahahaha 🤣

[–]Moldy_Gecko5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Cucking another man has no bearing on abundance. Their is a reason beta bux raise our children.

[–]Mescalean-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hey, i cant argue. Better than the other “ill sue him!” Response for fighting.

So you think billys nature is to get cucked? Like we all have roles to fill?

[–]Moldy_Gecko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, hence the 80/20 rule. Those 80% are typically cucks, while those of us that DGAF keep getting new pussy. Shit, you may have slept with taken girls and they just didn't tell you.

[–]CainPrice43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy

When a girl is "seeing someone", that just means she has another you. Another guy she's kind of partying and hooking up with that maybe she'd like to go somewhere more serious but it hasn't panned out yet, so she's not putting all of her eggs in one basket.

Or maybe it means she has a boyfriend back home.

Or maybe she's just shit-testing you or using this as a defense to keep you from trying to fuck her because if she's not feeling it or you're acting weird, she can back out with "I told you I was seeing someone" any time you screw it up.

Just meet and escalate like normal. Everybody is "seeing" people.

[–]keelo4440 points41 points  (4 children) | Copy

You know how many “Girlfriends” I’ve fucked in my single lifetime? A lot .

“Seeing someone” is the weakest test she could throw at you. Push through to glory my boy.

[–]LoveAtlas9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

i have gotten the "i'm seeing someone" when i tried to set up a date, so it could also mean she has no interest/very low interest

[–]keelo4412 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

Oh no, I’m literally talking about fucking girls with actual boyfriends lol.

“I’m seeing someone” or “I have a boyfriend” don’t amount to much when she’s practically dry humping you while saying it.

Actions over words my friend.

[–]LoveAtlas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

okay my bad, yeah then those words have no meaning at all, yep watch what she does, not what she says. She is basically hamstering right there

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet33 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she's still talking to you, she's DTF.

Don't listen to what women say. Watch what they do.

[–]adam954558 points59 points  (1 child) | Copy

Look at her ACTIONS not her WORDS. Disregard the "I'm seeing someone" comment and proceed to set something up.

[–]AstuteBlackMan7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Girls will say one thing and do the exact opposite. Actions speak louder

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed58 points59 points  (7 children) | Copy

"I have a boyfriend" is THE most common shit test.

Do some research.

[–]-SirJohnFranklin-20 points21 points  (5 children) | Copy

She has someone she sleeps with and is into. Still a shit test.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed53 points54 points  (4 children) | Copy

im kind of seeing someone right now

That's womanese for....

"Unless you have a bigger branch...."

Don't cockblock yourself.

[–]dgillz11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't cockblock yourself.

This is platinum fellas, pure platinum

[–]CalmPassenger 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

What if you have tinypeen? Can you still succeed here?

[–]Moldy_Gecko11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes, because she don't know your peen size until after that ASD is down and she's already crossed the point of no return.

[–]drakehfh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Cool response: I bet mine is more handsome than yours

[–]NeverLace6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you look at what she's doing not what she's saying. I have two questions that might help you out. 1 Did she give you her number? If so then its cool. 2 Have you read the sidebar section about "Shit tests". Pretty important stuff.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Translation: ”Please orbit meeeeeee!”

[–]StellarMemez0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm with you, but the rest think it's just shit test.

OP was a pleb. He partied with this girl a month ago, didn't escalate at all apparently, didn't even get her number. Then he goes to Facebook, and he's had oneitis for her in the meantime.

Guys, it's a shit test if and only if she makes those excuses face to face (ASL, LMR) when you are actually a guy who fucks. If she tells you this via Facebook (LinkedIn for orbiters), it's only a sign that you are doing things horribly wrong.

You guys need to listen to uncle Vas more.

[–]furcryingoutloud4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I'm not the jealous type"

"I don't care"

"I didn't ask"

"That's his problem"

Proceed...

[–]vivid_mind3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Schroedinger boyfriend. Ignore that. If she talks it means she wants the D but is not sure.

[–]Tiway223 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Me too. Let’s set them up so we can run away together.”

[–]soggynugget692 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

People are attracted to chaos and drama as long as they don’t experience it themselves. So what if she’s willing, not worth the consequences IMO, potential guy-guy drama, potential criminal charge, potential lawsuit..

Man... people here want YOU to live their fantasies cause there are no consequences on their part.

Next her. Plenty of other girls out there for you to hook up with without the drama and/or consequences.

[–]Moldy_Gecko6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

If they're seeing someone but down to hangout, they don't care enough about that person nor respect them enough not to hangout with potential new dick. Don't get phased by it. Even if she brings it up while hanging out, it's just shit tests and ASD. plow through it, don't let it bother you. I actually turn it into a game and make sure I take her back home with me. Cucking someone else is personally a good experience to me. I usually have casual conversations about their bf or husbands when we hangout, usually wait til we've smashed to bring them up though.

[–]thewobblywelder0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao. YES!

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

No girl who is committed the person she's with is going to flirt with other men or visit them socially one on one.

This is a beta barricade, designed to scare off low-confidence men.

[–]huey7646 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Thats ok, am not the jealous type”

[–]LucrativeMath1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Cool, so see you Sunday then?”

“What does that have to do with me?”

“Very cool, didn’t ask you if you were seeing anyone”

All acceptable responses to this obvious shit test.

[–]HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The lesson to learn here is to always beat the iron while it's hot. You should've escalated when u were with her 4 weeks ago. By now she's most likely hooked up with 3 other dudes already at parties. You're old news and a dying flame.

Beat the iron while it's hot. You're at the party, she's interested? Escalate to about as much as you can. If u can't escalate past a certain point for whatever reason, set up plans with her for the next day THEN take her number to exchange to confirm the meet up tomorrow.

Beat the iron while it's hot.

[–]2319Skew1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Say "sweet" and ignore it. I've lost count how many times I hear that ASD.

Go with how she acts not what she said.

[–]KillaJewels5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

"Great, I can keep you company while your friend isn't around. What are you doing Thursday?"

[–]SilentMeatball14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’d actually keep the second sentence only. Only acknowledgement of the other guy is “Okay”.

[–]AClive228 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is the correct response. When they say "I have a boyfriend" you say

"So do I, he's in prison right now though."

or

"That's fine, I don't want to be your boyfriend"

[–]Moldy_Gecko8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

I like the I don't want to be your bf bit. It's straightforward and they know what they're getting with you, making it easier.

[–]QueenSlapFight1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah you don't want to beat them over the head with your intentions, but you definitely want to make them clear.

[–]Moldy_Gecko1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's the biggest difference between players and Nice Guys, honesty. NG want to get laid too, but they don't know how to express their intentions.

[–]omega_dawg932 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

girls are always seeing someone. if you wait for a girl to not have some dude in her life, in some capacity, you're delusional.

they always have a guy they're dating, fucking, seeing... being just friends with, fwb, hangout buddies, crush on her, crush on him, randoms, ONS's, etc., etc. it never stops.

as long as she's clean, friendly, and pleasurable to be around, there's ALWAYS a guy out there she's dealing with... and it NEVER stops.

bottom line: her PUSSY will always have dick options. the question is... does she have options for more than just sex? they know that 95% of the men they deal with want pussy, and they date to RULE OUT guys, not rule them in. the other guys are just time whores that give her the most sought-after possession: male attention and validation WITHOUT any sexual obligation or pressure.

don't be that guy.

[–]PimPedOutGeeese1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Girl told me this... Literally after we made out. Twice! LMAO!

Well.. We made plans and she cancelled. Didn't reschedule. Wait a week and I tried to reconvene and I got I'm seeing someone.

I said OK see you around and nexted. Now she's always staring and waiting for me to initiate.

Your going to be waiting a long time sweet cheeks.

[–]Count_Giggles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"good me too. they can bake us cookies while we go out on an adventure."

[–]Lego_My_Alter_Eggo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"and?"

[–]imtheoneimmortal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m seeing too my dog I hope isn’t a problem

[–]AstuteBlackMan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would just ignore it. Seems like she wants you to know shes cheating on someone but if she doesn't care then you dont have to

Just make sure you're careful when you hangout.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A shit test. Always treat it as such. If you believe you are a high value option, proceed as normal. You'll soon learn if you really have no chance, then next

[–]1walawalawa0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read everything you can about "Hypergamy".

Women always keep options open because from a biological perspective it allows them access to the best sperm.

In a modern sexual context it means you don't over-invest and spin plates.

[–]Infla-mood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Say "Me too! Maybe we should set them up."

[–]goblinboglin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

NO PROBLEM.

It doesn't concern you.

You have other options.

You are high value man.

[–]someonesopinion69690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

she was sexual at the time because you were real, now you're just another beta orbiter until you make yourself known in reality

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She said she was really down to hangout sometime but when I asked for her number she said "ok wait just to let ya know im kind of seeing someone right now".

This sounds like she's letting you know to go forward, but telling you she'll be cheating and to behave accordingly.

Should I just say yea no worries as though I don't care?

"I understand, I'm kinda seeing someone too. We'll have to keep this on the down low."

[–]BurnieSlander0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

“I’m kind of seeing someone”

Translated:

“Dudes want to bang me so bring your A game.”

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

from the time she loses her virginity until she's in an old folk's home, there's ALWAYS going to be dudes that want to bang her.

for women, that's a given.

a woman's worry is that he'll hang around after banging her, ie., is she tolerable.

[–]MOSFETBJT-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

"great, he can watch"



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