I have a strong history of being a yes man, this includes work. Im recovering slowly from that.
My boss lets call him Ben, he calls me into a meeting following small talk the following conversation takes place.
Ben: hey foxshitnasty we are a 24/7 operation as you know and we need someone to take care of things and be on call.
Me: i agree i can put a roster together and look at payments for the team etc.
Ben: the others arent really competent, i want you to be available to answer the phone and solve any issues. There is an extra $1k per year for you.
Me: just me?
Me: $1k isn't much to be on call all the time every day of the year
Ben: that's all I can offer
Me: it's not really worth it for me so No, but im happy to discuss a bigger roster with the others involved and a structured and agreed pay i can get them up to speed and we can make it work.
Ben: here is the thing, I already told the management team you would do it.
Me: You should have checked with me first this isnt reasonable. No i cannot.
Ben: (try's various tactics, whats best for the business etc)
Me: No - it needs to be more money i cant do that, happy to discuss further (broken record)
The meeting ends, and the stonewalling starts for a period of two weeks. Its pretty good and quiet so i get my head down and get jobs finished.
One of my staff approaches me, he is nervous lets call him Bob. He asks me if im leaving? No im not leaving why do you say that. Well Ben asked me if i can run the place without you, Bob is mid level skilled but not confident. He expresses that he isnt ready for me to leave and will leave if he is asked to do what i do. I say im not leaving at the moment. (odd i say nothing to boss STFU) few weeks pass.
Bob approaches me tonight, "hey is it ok to be off tomorrow morning?". He wasnt on leave and didnt have any left so i ask whats up? Well Ben has invited me to play golf tomorrow but i dont have any more leave he said it dosent matter and not worry about booking time off. This is the first i am aware of it.
Now typically i cant be doing with this shit, boss being a cunt just get another job (logic). I am however priced out of the market, in order to get a job even close im looking at a 4 hour a day commute. I have been looking since xmas.
My boss is my boss the company pays money so i do what he says but what does the recovering nice guy do? STFU and over look this or escalate to HR and no doubt my life will be more difficult. Can i challenge my boss, its unprofessional in my opinion and disrespectful behavior (lacking actual evidence)... again bosses can make our lives difficult if they want to.
Summary: boss stonewalls me when i say no, boss takes my staff to play golf and gives them time off paid. is it likely that one of you cunts is my boss. If so fuck off, also advice please.