TheRedArchive needs help
With 700,000+ posts and 16,000,000+ comments archived, and new Red Pill content being added every week, keeping TheRedArchive alive and discoverable to everyone is starting to become very costly. As a 20-year-old student who just moved out and is living independently for the first time, keeping TheRedArchive alive is beginning to cost me much more than I thought.

Therefore, if you appreciate the website, have gained a lot of knowledge and insight from it, and want to show your appreciation, you can do so by donating any amount that you want via the options below. The money will be used on the expensive monthly host bill and any future maintenance of the website.
Thank you, and I wish you all a successful 2021 and a good luck with achieving your goals and dreams!

Best, /u/dream-hunter

My brother's own wife tried to cheat with me

Reddit View
March 4, 2019

Hey reddit I am currently without any hope in the dating game. I have just lost all motivation to even game anymore. I've had best friend's girlfriends try to cheat with me in the past but the last straw that broke the camel's back was my sister in law. I was at a family party and she was a bit drunk and being overtly sexual with me. She tried kissing me and she grabbed my dick, both my nieces (her daughters) were present at this party. This wasn't the first time but the thirst she had was unreal. The thing is this is my goddamn brother and they have 2 kids! I love my family soooo much, the past two years have been major growth periods for me I started going out a lot more and saying yes to the moment. Are women so loose with morals that they will cheat with any guy that has better game? I tried telling him but he refuses to even believe his own wife would do something like that so it ended up in a confrontational argument.

I just feel like shit about it. I know NAWALT but its pretty goddamn hard to believe it right now. How can I hope to find a girl that reciprocates love and expect her to not do this to another guy with better game? I guess I've been seeing so much success in dating I didn't stop to consider the ones close to me are the same primitive animals just like me.

EDIT: thanks for the support guys, I'm not interested in women atm I have to worry about my money. Lets hustle and get that skrilla boys this is our time our short short time to get what we want.

Post Information
Title My brother's own wife tried to cheat with me
Author Im_pretty_dirty
Upvotes 172
Comments 76
Date 04 March 2019 04:14 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Original Link
Similar Posts

Red Pill terms found in post:

[–]mrpthrowa259 points260 points  (11 children) | Copy

So your whore-in-law grabbed your dick while drunk and you're about to have a mental breakdown?

Keep your distance from her. Your brother will wake up one day.

You are YOU, own it. Set your mission and go.

[–]Im_pretty_dirty[S] 54 points55 points  (8 children) | Copy

It's different when you spectate and see people posting about this but I didn't think it would happen to me due to being naive? It leaves a bitter taste. Lol when you put it like that its more rational and a bit comedic.

[–]mrpthrowa63 points64 points  (7 children) | Copy

Be thankful you've swallowed the pill this way...

Others have had to lose everything to be here... their house, kids, money, half their assets, lifetime alimony, and in many cases thrown in jail...

You had it light if all you had to endure is a crotch grab

[–]Im_pretty_dirty[S] 12 points13 points  (5 children) | Copy

I've just always been optimistic that my family members (brothers and sisters) would be happy and find happiness. I have had it light, I would hate to be a guy invested in his wife for 30 years paying child support just to be shit on. I feel like I can't even help the ones I love let alone myself.

[–]mrpthrowa16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

You help yourself first, and possibly last, before you help anyone you love. It's a cruel world.. we live to pass our genes... and ours alone.

[–]Herculius2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A strong man is in control of himself and is effective at getting the things he wants for himself.

A stronger man leads a family and brings good things to family and friends.

Working on yourself is all well and good and might be the only thing within reach for many people. But it shouldn't be the end goal if you are capable of leadership.

[–]rus93840 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

our genes... and ours alone.

And close relatives have many of our genes. Like 99.9% at least. I find Dawkins' idea of selfish gene a good one.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've just always been optimistic that my family members (brothers and sisters) would be happy and find happiness.

The reality for almost all families is that there are winners and losers, golden-childs, and runts/scapegoats.

But, this kind of Self-Serving Bias ("my family is amazing, special, and strong") is pretty harmless, as it prevents you from being concerned about things you don't really control. That is, family dynamics.

[–]BlackFire68-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women are women, the word “family” don’t mean shit.

[–]baeslick5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, TRP saved my life, I come from a really bad history of domestic abuse and learned recently even my parents' marriage is built on sand, you will find the right girl OP, just know your value and don't settle for crotch-grabbing whoooores

[–]koldkillah838 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

She may say you grabbed her if you piss her off. I’d definitely keep her away. I think AWALT is true, but does not mean they will. Apparently with her she will.

Chances are she’s already cheated on your brother

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Mental breakdown. Lol

[–]light-----------dark39 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

great news - you’re not married. even better news - you’re not married to your brother’s wife.

use this experience to reflect on next time you somehow think it makes sense to get married.

don’t get married.

pursue your mission.

be your best self.

[–]xNinja3664 points65 points  (2 children) | Copy

Hows it hard to believe you just witnessed AWALT at its finest first hand.

"Shes never yours, it's just your turn"

Makes sure you tell your bro that, that's family and if she was willing to fuck you shes willing to fuck some other guy.

Edit: saw the part where you told him already. Your brother going to have to wake up the hard way like I had to go through....heartbreak

[–]Im_pretty_dirty[S] 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

That is exactly it, he's too deep in scarcity and is so invested in her he refused to believe it when I told him. I know TRP theory on paper but I never expected what it felt like in the real world. I'm still holding onto the belief that I will find a loyal partner whom I love very much and can create a solid bond with.

I'm still seeking for financial opportunity and this has been my main concern for the past few months. I just have to withdraw from them for a bit.

Thank you for your advice.

[–]SuperCrazy070 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you’re so invested in finding the girl who won’t cheat that you’re going to fuck things up.

[–]MrAgamemnon64 points65 points  (1 child) | Copy

Are women so loose with morals that they will cheat with any guy that has better game?

It doesn't even come down to game man.

It comes down to tingles and "the moment". Every single woman is susceptible to tingles at any time.... "Oops, it just happened"

[–]Mecha_Hobbit6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy


Tingles & the Wall

[–][deleted] 53 points54 points  (1 child) | Copy

I know nawalt

That’s where you’re wrong bucko, AWALT

[–]ChesterRickman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

AWALT, always

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev91 points92 points  (3 children) | Copy

Stop being a pussy.

Never be alone with her ever again. No Hamster ever accepted responsibility. If anything weird goes down, like she starts feeling guilty or some shit, all of a sudden it’s going to be you who made a pass at her. And it’s likely that your brother is a simp who will believe it.

[–]Im_pretty_dirty[S] 23 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy

You are absolutely right, My goals have been financial and I'm trying to figure out my goals to be more clear and concise. I was taken aback but I need to stay on my path.

[–]Mecha_Hobbit6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

100% ghost her. Don't even reference her/ name in family conversation. Now your financial future & emotional health are at stake. You're already suffering. I'm glad you took TRP prior to all this.

[–]rockyp320 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ur not being a pussy that’s a tough thing to take in and deal with. But after all it’s not your wife so don’t be too upset

[–]HurricaneHugues21 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy

" I tried telling him but he refuses to even believe his own wife would do something like that so it ended up in a confrontational argument. "

You have to record it. Never tell a non RP man that his girl is no good, without any hard proof. The signs may be there but they will still give the bitch the "benefit of the doubt" to protect their egos. They need hard documented evidence to believe anything u say.

[–]reversec10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah he s gonna whiteknight his own whore wife

[–]beginner_2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

And hard documented evidence means multiple videos (because phots can easily be manipulated...) or even need to see it for themselves to believe it.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Videos or audio recordings. As long as you can document the wife flirting, but also talking remorselessly about cheating on the guy. Ask the girl "What about (Bf/husband name)?" and "What would you do if he found out you're a little slut?" and "Why don't you respect him?"

When dudes hear these types of answers, they go from 0 to 100 real quick

[–]GAndGMethod30 points31 points  (5 children) | Copy

Just accept women are not loyal. That's all you need to do.

Your story is not even that crazy or shocking. its pretty routine female behavior.

She knows there will be no consequences, her man will ALWAYS believe her, sometimes even with hard proof.

She fucks you she knows you wont tell and destroy your family, you turn her down she knows he wont believe you.

she has nothing to lose, so why wouldn't she test the waters? It makes logical sense truthfully.

[–]Im_pretty_dirty[S] 8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

I just feel disrespected on his behalf I thought we evolved past the reptilian brain, why not just have time apart out of RESPECT before you slut it up. You're right though growing up a Christian kind of has my whole belief systems out of whack.

[–]Moldy_Gecko10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

TRP only works cuz we haven't evolved past the reptilian brain, lol. Almost all of what TRP teaches is how to connect that reptilian brain to the reality of our world.

[–]GAndGMethod13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

dude calm down, your blowing this way out of proportion, its just sex.

You have a long way to go.

Thats not your brothers wife, its simply just his turn and its almost over.

[–]jackandjill221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]vivid_mind0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She also can say he made her do it, forced to do it...

[–]donkeydodo10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

NAWALT? No, AWALT; every woman has in her nature to do the stuff your brother’s wife did. It’s just that a minority of women have a better moral than to act out their nature completely

[–]bittr_n_swt6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

That sucks. I agree, don’t ever be alone with her. Your bro might even take her side and you’ve lost him like that.

[–]Popeman797 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

It has happened to me (best friend's wife has flirted with me for a long time).

Girls have this plausible deniability that allows them to flirt while looking innocent. "Hey I was just having fun talking to you! You're crazy to think I would flirt with you" Meanwhile she will be in your space all the time, touching you when she gets the chance, pulling her hair, giggling, etc. You know what's up. But if you call her up on it, she will deny it and make you look like a fool. So don't address it unless you have undeniable evidence. If she crosses the line and straight up tells you that you're hot or that she wants you, then you can address it with her (but my guess is it won't happen).

So what do you do? You withdraw attention. When she starts flirting, don't act mad but just disengage. If she's 'drunk' and starts leaning on you and touching you (classic move), you just don't stay there, you take her by the hand and put her in the arms of a female friend or her boyfriend, saying 'Here now you take care of her'.

Thing is, even if you don't flirt back, if she sees she can get to you, or get you excited in any way, or get you insecure about what you should do, that's enough validation for her to continue. It's a power trip for her, even if she can't get you. Address it like if she was a 12-years old flirting with you: you wouldn't even entertain the idea, you would disengage without any further tought.

[–]ainihon4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

People see what they wanna see man.

For me. Everyone’s guilty until proven innocent that’s how I see things now.

[–]TheStumblingWolf4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing in life is permanent. It's a hard pill to swallow for stoics and Red Pillers alike but such is the nature of the universe. Enjoy what you have, and that you know things other people don't.

[–]Dinomiteblast3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Also, id cut contact a bit with your brother, if he asks why, just answer that you dont want her to come on to you again. That you dont want to be responsible for a break up because she cant keep her hands where they should be.

A setting where she is as well? Make sure you are never alone.

[–]vreshbaby0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Happy cake day

[–]Mecha_Hobbit4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep your distance. When she finds out you talked, she will try to destroy you and everyone in your family. She needs to save face & punish the wrong thinkers.

I'm betting you probably know this, but it still needs to be said.

[–]AeternusDoleo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

EWALT - and that's usually a very bitter tasting red pill to swallow. Best prepare for your brother to come to you for support in the future. If the monkeybranching starts, it does not stop. Only a matter of time...

[–]mgtow19802 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude AWALT. You’re either gonna learn it the easy way or the hard way. It’s your choice man.

[–]beginner_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

How can I hope to find a girl that loves me so much and expect her to not do this to another guy with better game?

You can't. that's one of the core points of TRP.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Contract-killers run cheap in Mehico..../s

[–]Bone_Coat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

next time the same happens, record the whole thing, sound, video or by WhatsApp recording and then put your phone in your pocket, this way you will have evidence, then ghost that bitch

[–]omega_dawg931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

you lost me at, "...hope to find a girl that reciprocates true love."

OP, you're not quite there yet. start with reading rollo's essay, "burden of performance."

the love you get from women comes with a price... it will never be true (unconditional) love. never. romantic love flows from men to women... not the other way around.

afa your sister-in-law, use the voice recording function on your phone when she's around you... and play it back to him.

your brother needs to know what he's dealing with before he comes home to Chad, Tyrone, or Felipe pounding her out.

[–]BookyMcBooks1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everyone needs to learn the hard way at some point.

[–]huey7641 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Remember, shes not his’, its just his turn

[–]red_matrix0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It’s guaranteed she’s done this before and this won’t be the last time. I don’t know how you can tell your brother, he should know but at the same time you have no proof. You could start by dropping red pill truth’s here and there and maybe he will eventually wake up. He probably already knows something is up.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well, at least women are after you and you're in demand. Yes, it's depressing that the supposed partners of the men in your social circle have no morals, but this isn't a new thing, it has been going on since the dawn of humanity. So, go out there and find some women of your own. If these women are making passes at you, you maybe spending too much time near them.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I tried telling him but he refuses to even believe his own wife would do something like that so it ended up in a confrontational argument.

The important thing is you've planted a seed of doubt. He seems blind right now but he'll be less likely to ignore any future sketchy behaviors. That said, brace for impact since many women like this will try to turn the tables and say you were creeping on her.

[–]Slut_Slayer90000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly there are women that cheat and there are women that don't cheat, and its honestly pretty easy to tell. Because the ones that don't cheat make it obvious, and the ones that don't are willing to cheat.

I was out at a bar this weekend, I made out with 3 women in a group (all of them were together) and all of them had husbands. And they were out on a girls night and guess what they made it clear they had husbands in between dancing with me and kissing me.

Girls that put themselves in those situation do so because they want to cheat. This is what they do, they get drunk then just go to town, they hamster it like this: if I get wasted then that means I'm not accountable for my actions and I won't "remember" what happened so it didn't really happen, and I definitely didn't consent to anything "actively" because I'm drunk! It just happened! So they think they have plausible deniability with their actions.

And its even worse if their friends are active cheaters. The girl I made out with twice, has a husband who bought her fake tits has a "vault" and our makeout session was going in all of their "vaults" to never be spoken about again. Now imagine thats yours wife? How fucked up would that be?

[–]8380atgmaildotcom0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are women so loose with morals that they will cheat with any guy that has better game

That is their morals.

[–]AnyDoughnut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"reciprocates true love"

Knock that idea straight out of your head. Women are opportunistic lovers. There is no such thing as true love.

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are women so loose with morals that they will cheat with any guy that has better game?

AWALT. Sort of. Some won't go as far as cheat but ALL of them will think about it, and have fantasies about it. It's biology and inescapable.

[–]shredzro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I feel this spiritually OP. I’ve never had a problem being the “side nigguh,” to a girl I wanted. But I have also witnessed a few faithful women (literally barely any), so I keep hold to that thought. You’re right NAWALT but not every gun is loaded. You still treat a gun like it is.

Best of luck. Learn from your brothers mistake.

[–]zxcvb78090 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Disclaimer not socially acceptable:

Story 1) In high school I was in a situation where my best friends GF wanted to fuck me. I told him he got mad at me. Didn't believe me. I showed him texts he thought I made it up. Eventually he came around.

Story 2) I made out with a good friend of mines GF in their bed when I was 19. He went to work. She was sending choosing signals I engaged. We would have fucked but she didn't want to because we didn't know when we would be back from work.

Story 3) I fucked a friend of mines wife when I was 21. They wanted a 3 way one time I engaged. She wanted to keep fucking on the side I engaged. I fucked the walls out of her. Me and him aren't friends anymore and I regret that.

Story 4) My friend liked a girl and I did not fuck her because I knew from prior experience that it is a shitty feeling. She wanted to fuck me and I could have fucked her easily multiple times. (He is married now and she is single and still wants to fuck so I am going to see her and fuck her in a few months.)

I have learned that women aren't worth a good friendship. I have also learned that men that don't understand that women are community property aren't really worth friending.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are women so loose with morals that they will cheat with any guy that has better game?

Humans aren't moral beings. Morality is not any different than the social mask and persona that we wear most of the time to avoid interpersonal conflicts. What you call morals amounts to conflict avoidance mechanisms like guilt, shame, and empathic reading.

What AWALT means is that everyone has the potential for behavior that is deceitful, destructive, conniving, cruel, profoundly selfish, and profoundly irresponsible, especially if they're not worried about the consequences of it.

So, yes, all women will feel tempted, some of them will indulge if they believe they can get away with it.

The issue with your sister in law is she probably has some mental condition that causes a reduced appreciation for consequences.

Also note that most people are perfectly willing to remain in a relationship with someone they despise if they get money and security out of it. So I think. really, she detests your brother and is trying to cause passive-agressive drama. Remember that women are cowards and don't want to feel directly responsible for a breakup because that would make them look bad.

[–]Flannellord0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Im fairly new to this sub, what is NAWALT ?

[–]justlurking4200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I had sex with my brother's girlfriend and he doesn't believe it even though I dont have a history of lying. Now she is pregnant and about to have his baby lol

[–]Casd120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Is she hot?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Be thankful you have a brother and do the right thing. I'd kill to have a sibling, you have no idea how much it blows to be an only child. Do not ever risk your relationship with ur brother for a girl

[–]Hellse0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You won't, but let's go down the hypothetical road.

Let's say you do meet a woman whom you think might be one of these super-rare loyal ones. How do you know if she's a cheater in advance, you know... right up until the point where you catch her cheating? The most assured you can be that she's not is that you trust her. Which is interesting, because you'd think your brother trusts her. He did, after all, refuse to believe his own brother's warning. So what assurance is that trust worth, exactly? Nothing.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Avoid her from now on. The next time she's drunk, and you reject her, she'll blame you for rape or attempted rape.

Maybe if you hadn't told your brother, but, you did, so...

[–]CahiersDuVidya0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are women so loose with morals that they will cheat with any guy that has better game?

No but its disturbingly prevalent. Though honestly, your brother is likely getting lazy in gaming his wife and that's the only reason this is happening. Just getting married and having kids doesn't mean your girl will magically be faithful. You have to ALWAYS be the man to her.

I tried telling him but he refuses to even believe his own wife would do something like that so it ended up in a confrontational argument.

You did what you should have.

[–]BluBlac590 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You love your family sooo much. That's pretty soft and needy. I'll bet he doesn't believe it because like you be loves her sooo much that he's afraid to treat her like a slut and bang the hell out of her. Having a few drinks lowered her inhibitions and she's needy. It's one of the reasons some women drink, to give themselves permission. He's probably one of these guys that is always attentive to her "needs" and screws her by the numbers makes sure she comes first then he comes. Never gets a sloppy blowjob or jerks his load off on her. She's bored and needs to fuck. You need to learn from this and quit this I love them sooo much stuff. You sound like an old woman. Get away from them and quit being such a needy pussy. My bet is she will say it was you that hit on her thus forcing you out of your brothers life. Consider it a lesson learned, kinda sucks doesn't it ?

[–]Velebit1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are you from a rednecky background?

[–]ass-my-eat-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shoulda fucked her

[–]zeldij23-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy

" Are women so loose with morals that they will cheat with any guy that has better game?"

Nope, it's just that you're brother's wife is a bitch. Don't put all women in the same basket...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure what's with the downvotes, AWALT is not a blanket statement

[–]rektum_expander-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Tell him.

[–]i_forget_my_userids0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not your problem.

[–]Rhyat250-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ik you this a rant but try to avoid using "goddam" please

[–]Stallmanman-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol i love the incel fanfics in this subreddit

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2021. All rights reserved.

created by /u/dream-hunter