Background

My Girlfriend and I had been on one date but I had declined a second as I could tell we weren't in a place for a relationship and we were both about to travel, I for business and she for an international sporting competition for a month. We kept in touch, and saw each other casually for dinner and coffee over a month or so as we had very good chemistry on the first date and she was fascinated by me - I have a high profile in my career.

Before I departed, however, she asked again to date exclusivity; even though she knew it was too early, she wanted to keep in touch and get to know me better and she felt that I would snatched up by another woman - I did reveal I was seeing a few women (plates) previously but had slowly removed them as I found I liked this woman. I agreed to exclusivity because I valued her pursuing me.

During this trip, we kept in touch via messaging, and I got to know her further. She did, however, violate this commitment by a drunken one night stand - I noted on the first date and the 1+ year following she never consumed alcohol except for NYE where she was totally incoherent after two wines as she's very lean athlete and insanely thin. This doesn't excuse the act but it is rather pertinent.

Upon returning we built a strong relationship over the next + 1 year. In her confession she stated she had realized that this was indeed cheating given her word and it was unfair to me knowing I would not tolerate infidelity, I deserve to know the truth and that she was so very sorry (she was sobbing uncontrollably). She also wrote a letter, she burdened me with the truth because she felt I needed to make an informed choice who I spent my life with. She said that everything since we returned, when we actually went on second date onwards was real.

She revealed she met me in a time where she was in a bad place (she had felt depression after an injury that almost ended her career as an athlete and some devastating personal news about her only sibling), and was making poor life choices like withdrawing from her family who was very close. There were a lot of green flags, she didn't use social media, I was the 3rd man she slept with (which was rather evident in her inexperience), her family has strong values, they were very close to me and invited me to family ski trips and weekly board game night that I attended, in fact, her father stressed to confess when she confided his advice as he felt I was a good man, and I know she had rebuffed very directly the advances of other men during the relationship when she had returned. She wrote in the letter that during our relationship I guided her to appreciate what matters, brought her through a tough time and expressed gratitude for helping her become a better person.

I do feel however I made the right choice at least in ending the relationship immediately, at least for now as I need time to process this news.

I will concede it was an early exclusivity due to the travel and the relationship was fluid just prior to this but I know I deserve the best and need time to discern what is best for myself.

What from here would others suggest is wise?

I am trying to be a wise man, perhaps I should keep her only as a distant friend, and sometime in the distant future date someone with a blank canvas. I do like this woman so the weak part of me wants to consider a future.

I have been working out, eating well, meditating and praying at Church, along with getting advice from close friends and family as I discern what is best.

Pardon my English, I'm Argentine natively.