Girl cries after sex, says she's afraid I won't want to see her again

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dellecto
March 5, 2019
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Not a relationship, just met her at a party. 2nd time sex.

What does it mean?


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Title Girl cries after sex, says she's afraid I won't want to see her again
Author dellecto
Upvotes 78
Comments 105
Date 05 March 2019 09:04 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/220777
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/axq7ah/girl_cries_after_sex_says_shes_afraid_i_wont_want/
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[–]chim_city220 points221 points  (2 children) | Copy

She's been ghosted before....

[–]PM_Happy_Puppy_Pics56 points57 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's been ghosted

She really likes you and has been hurt in the past (and also probably has high anxiety.)

[–]markinsinz74 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn. Story time?

[–]Rkingpin173 points174 points  (30 children) | Copy

Give a little comfort since she's putting out

Small red flag, could be sign she's been pumped and dumped many times and is afraid this is another cycle

Don't rush into any commitment keep vetting

[–][deleted] 100 points101 points  (29 children) | Copy

BPD level red flag. Trying to guilt him into love bombing.

[–]jackandjill2255 points56 points  (8 children) | Copy

This is the correct answer. Don't enter her frame watch if she becomes more volatile.

[–]thrwaway1001919 points20 points  (7 children) | Copy

New to trp but can confirm big BPD red flag. My ex did the same thing. She had BPD.

[–]iwviw7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy

Mine too .. did the same thing and had bpd

[–]Imtoosexyformypants7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

Mine three, I found out she farts on walls and shits her pants

[–]Azora0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't they all...

[–]hopscotchking0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Did we date the same girl?

[–]FluidForm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

what

am i missing a joke here?

[–]kendallb1830 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Same thing for me,

[–]literal_ass_hole 1 points [recovered]  (18 children) | Copy

What is bpd?

[–]red_philosopher11 points12 points  (6 children) | Copy

Borderline Personality Disorder

[–]Moldy_Gecko-3 points-2 points  (5 children) | Copy

I thought it was bipolar disorder

[–]BPasFuck0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Severe bi-polar is shitty enough, that you don't want anything to do with it either, friendo.

[–]Moldy_Gecko1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

My first wife was Bi-polar. Yeah, that shit was nuts.

[–]BPasFuck0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

In this post, I'm detecting a certain amount of attitude that Bi-Polar is no big deal. And perhaps medicated, minor cases are not that big of a deal.

But as I'm sure you can attest-- bad cases are fuckin' horrific.

[–]Moldy_Gecko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, especially when they refuse to get medicated or officially diagnosed. Crazy chick even pulled a knife on me while I was holding a baby. But the sex was phenomenal. Bi-polar had me feeling Bi-polar.

[–]maljo240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You are correct. BiPolar people are crazy and relationships with them are very difficult.

[–]Yashugan002 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

learn about this now or suffer the consequences.

[–]kendallb1831 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You poor blissful soul. Let's hope you never find out from experience.

[–]Gh011 1 points [recovered]  (8 children) | Copy

Bi polar disorder

[–]red_philosopher13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's Borderline Personality Disorder, don't confuse it with bipolar disorder. They are VERY different things.

[–]Gh0114 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh shit you’re right, I didn’t confuse the two just confused the acronym, my bad. I removed it

[–]Imtoosexyformypants-5 points-4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Both are however treated with mood stabilizers, so don’t think bpd is any less worse. If anything it has the potential to be really just as horrible.

[–]red_philosopher6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

BPD is insanely more worse than bipolar disorder. I know many bipolars, and they are way more manageable and normal in comparison. I knew a BPD gal who said she could never have a relationship with someone because it'd destroy their lives entirely. She refused to have sex because if the guy caught feelings for her, it would start her BPD train and she'd destroy that man emotionally.

Bipolar can be awful in a lot of ways, but it's nothing in comparison.

[–]Imtoosexyformypants0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There’s a spectrum, is my point and they can both be extremely detrimental at their worse

Your experiences are limited, but I agree bpd can be worse, as I just got out of a relationship with someone on that end.

[–]Fishey31 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I know that they have mood swings or something similar to that. But what actually happens? And how does it effect others in relationships?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Different mood swings entirely. Bipolar have extended periods of depression and elation. Their personality day to day is consistent but the mood slowly switches from down to up.

BPD is a high sociopathic, impulsive, volatile on daily basis. They hide these swings until it boils over in some emotional extreme focused on you.

[–]BPasFuck0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Severe bi-polars can be unbelievably bad in their own way. Especially if they're convinced that their mania is a good thing.

By the time they start to swing back down, they've maxxed out their credit cards, destroyed their friendships, have accused you of stealing/plotting against them/being a nogoodnik, etc.

Psychologically, they may be two different conditions, but in my book, for the average man's purposes, they may as well be the same.

Avoid avoid avoid.

[–]RedSkeller0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They only cry when they want something

[–]throwitdownman29 points30 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do not believe her words, trust her actions.

She’s a person who is insecure, and wants a man to be there with her. In other words, this is how she justifies being on the CC.

I’ve been with a few girls who hit me with this line before when I didn’t want to sleep with them after sex. They felt I was only there for sex (true). It’s a ploy to guilt you to give bf/gf levels of comfort. These girls were easy lays. Funnily enough they were also fucking multiple other people.

These women are broken. Plate material at best, I’d recommend just leaving her entirely. Spin it for as long as you want, and know that her threats are empty. Someone so desperate for a man will easily have another waiting in line as a backup should you pump and dump her.

[–]markinsinz70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So many men(betas n Chad's alike, classic eg:Bradley cooper) marrying up these women. I guess it doesn't matter much anymore. It's hard to find the better options

[–]MisplacedSanityP121 points122 points  (34 children) | Copy

She considers you high value and since she gave herself up so easily, she's worried you'll realize she's just a slut. Just note, she's a slut. Carry on fucking her if you'd like. If anything, it's a good sign.

[–]bikermonk25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thts more red flags than Chinese Republic Day Celebration March at the Tienmenn Square 🇨🇳

[–]iwviw4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

😂

[–]ChesterRickman36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

Trying to lock you down, don't fall for it. Stay alpha.

[–]RuleTheOne12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love how TRP is like a command center of red flag alerts. *WARNING, WARNING* Plate has been pumped and dumped in the past, using manipulative tactics for sympathy*

[–][deleted] 34 points35 points  (5 children) | Copy

Give her 5 minutes, then give her a tissue, give her a warm hug/cuddles for 15 minutes, give her warm happy emotions and at the end tell her to never do this again, that if she wants to talk she must do so reasonably, otherwise you might actually leave. Kiss her forehead. Leave.

[–]babybopp18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy

A plate seriously just did this. She came in knowing I am banging other girls. Played hard to get at first. Then gave it up. Next I saw her she was crying about how things should now change now that she "gave me the pussy" that she expects more. I started laughing. She went on a ramble. She thought I would beg for the pussy, I stood up .. rubbed her cheek and walked out. Next day she cooked steak..

[–]imtheoneimmortal3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

This confuse me but also clarify many things

[–]BlkLeatherCouchActor 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

She knew he was higher value so she tried to raise herself by holding the pussy hostage. He showed he didn’t give a shit (abundance mentality) and she cooked for him so she didn’t lose him since he called her bluff and gladly walked out.

[–]imtheoneimmortal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It’s like playing poker

[–]AstuteBlackMan3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah. you dont want her constantly doing that thinking it's ok.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Proceed.

[–]haxewep2410 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

This means you are in control now, just don't ghost her too much and she will keep being interested

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Manipulation alert*

[–]st-johnson2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Classic manipulation, cry bully

[–]failingtheturingtest4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You have two types of answers in this thread. And they boil down to

  1. How to keep getting sex from a dramatic sheila.

  2. Get rid of the dramatic sheila.

Choice is yours, but note that either way she is going to be dramatic. My adive is that it's not your job to manage her dramas. Have abundance and next. Find sheilas that aren't drama after 2 roots!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

have an upvote for the word sheila, you must be a fellow aussie!

[–]NextForever6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She was traumatized my friend.

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Be respectful and go with your gut; that's all one can advocate with this limited information.

[–]PlantainNationalism4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hmm? What could this mean? I know better than to trust a thot, so she's emotionally manipulating you into a relationship with her. If you like her then play along and cuddle. If not, give her some speech about love without possessiveness or some shit.

[–]idontevenlift370 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She’s catching feelings and is also probably insecure. Comfort her but keep frame.

[–]Fauxregaurd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It means don’t see her again.

[–]blacwidonsfw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

AW

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Possible BPD alert! Vet! Vet!

[–]Hjalmbere0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Red flag. Seems she’s emotionally disturbed. Most women are happy and cuddly after sex. Some might want you to leave if they just see you as a cock, but crying isn’t normal.

Protip: If you’re at her place, ask if you can use the toilet. Snap a pic of her medicine cabinet. Check what the meds are for when you get home. If there were any psychiatric meds it’s a soft next so as not to upset.

[–]TheTastelessBatman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shit test. Ghost her or just keep it as a plate.

[–]flowithego0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Self fulfilling prophecy. Nothing makes me ghost faster than zero self-esteem.

[–]le_king_falcon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Depends on the guy but I'd Ghost. I don't want to deal with emotional bullshit and attention grabs in an LTR nevermind a girl who's only sucked my dick twice.

As others have said you can comfort but the broken emotional behaviour is enough of a red flag this early on to be a non starter on the plating.

[–]TheBunk_TB0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her that your participation depends on her behavior. If she isn't acting right, you don't stick around. (Mention you have options for dealing with non crazy women elsewhere)

[–]2johnnight0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It means girls buy relationships with sex, you fool. They'd prefer not to, but this is the modern hookup market reality.

[–]dgillz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her if you didn't have sex, there is no way in hell you'd see her again.

[–]SwoleyMoleyFrijoley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Keep taking my dick like that and you have nothing to worry about, let's go for round 2"

[–]Incaahhh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It means she's been ghosted before / fearing you will do the same (she literally told you what it meant).

Do you see her as a friend, plate, ltr material?

[–]spartan_samurai0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's a trap...

If you don't run now you will be the one crying in few months time.

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[–]thetriangularbox0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Give a little comfort but don’t go overboard. That will really help you for long term retention

[–]ASAP_IKER-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds like she has BPD. She's crazy bro, that's not normal. I'd stop seeing her.

[–]RPAlternate424 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is hyperbolic.

[–]RoughAssistance-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

LOL.This reminded me of some funny shit. I took this girls virginity in Germany. She worked at a hotel I was staying at and I gamed her for about a week before she let me hit. I had to leave a few days later and she was pretty much broken from the first time so I didn't get to hit but maybe twice. I go back to LA. We keep in touch via email. She says she's going to cut her tour there short and on the way back to Australia she wants to stop in LA for like 5 days to hang out with me. I'm like sure, so she shows up, we go sight seeing, the whole thing, fucking like 5-6x daily. The last day she's there I take her up to the airport Holiday Inn and I have to go back to San Diego on a train, but I wanted one last fuck. I am thinking I'm never gonna see this chick again, I took her V card so I want to take her ass cherry too. So I'm like alright I'm about to violate every orifice this chick has. It ends up taking me forever to actually get it in her ass, she's a trooper. I'm fucking the shit out of her and she's really quiet, I blow my load, and go to kiss her cheek. Her cheeks all wet and salty and I'm like oh fuck, I prob just raped this chick, she didn't say stop, I didn't know she was crying, fuck. I'm like are you OK? whats wrong baby?

She's like "It's just that, I'm going to miss you so much"

LMAO I was like bahahah I'm blowing this chicks ass out like a fuckin' meat sock and she's crying because she's going to miss me. LOL.

I got back on the train and I was fuckin dying laughing the entire ride back to SD.

Anyways though, it wasn't the last time I saw her. I went to Australia a couple of times to visit her and she eventually moved in with me in San Diego. Shit was funny though.

That chick could fuck though, kinda miss her. We broke up after about 5 years but shit was great while it lasted.



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