Need help dealing with my fear of women

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March 6, 2019
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This fear started due to pornography

I used to be into pretty normal stuff but it started escalating and I reached femdom porn

now this had an effect on my psyche as it made believe every woman was into femdom

I am afraid that any woman that shows interest in me wants to take advantage of me and make me her sub,I should mention that I am autistic and feel that would make me a big target to these people

A couple weeks ago a female friend told me that I had a cute butt and my knees literally started shaking


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Title Need help dealing with my fear of women
Author normie_man
Upvotes 67
Comments 81
Date 06 March 2019 11:56 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/220991
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/axy0ta/need_help_dealing_with_my_fear_of_women/
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[–]someonesopinion6969142 points143 points  (24 children) | Copy

Stop fucking watching femdom porn.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (21 children) | Copy

Trying closest I ever got was 7 day no Fap

[–]AlfredKinsey24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

STOP TRYING AND DO IT

STOP WATCHING PORN

[–]VigilantSmartbomb14 points15 points  (14 children) | Copy

You have to learn to moderate if you don’t want to cold turkey it. You have to see the benefits of not watching porn to continue not, you gotta make it apparent to yourself why you’re watching porn and all that

Edit: it’s good to explore your sexuality,, in moderation

Edit: Lol really any super specific porn lmao we’re all freaks, I’m not gonna say my niche but my sister who’s a decade older is addicted to crying Asian porn, and her ex boyfriend I found out was in to farting porn lol. Likely the girls you’re going for are largely the same amount of freak 😂

Nothing to feel different about we’re all humans and wanna rub our pelvises :)

[–]fds_125 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

We're not freaks, porn made us like this. Seriously, OP don't cut on it, remove it from your life! There is nothing good about masturbating to a 2D moving image on a screen. Our brain isn't ready for the super stimuli porn is, you get addicted easily and believe me when I say this, IT WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. If you are going to do it, keep it as natural as possible. Just masturbate to your imagination.

[–]babybopp4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy

One of the easiest way to get over fear of women is working retail... Or sales.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy

I don't have the same experience and I've worked in retail. What gives?

[–]babybopp2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

Getting over the fear of women.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

I can talk to older women just fine because there is no pressure. And I can talk to very ugly fat women too for the same reason. As well, I can talk to average looking women who engage me and WANT to talk to me. It's the average ones that don't want to talk or engage and it seems like I have to force a conversation out of them. And of course the ones that are uppity and know they look "good" and don't want to talk that get me. I can't open them because they seem distant and closed-off. You can just read it in their face and body language.

[–]babybopp3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

this is what is called pussy on a pedestal. that is why trp preaches abundance. it is to to make you understand that women are the same thing in different packaging. the glorification and awe of women comes from guys who do not get laid or enough at that matter. they tend to see women as demi gods and are shook like OP here who loses it.

if you work a job where you have to interact with women daily, try not to flirt with anyone. dont shit where you eat. be extremely professional. dont flirt does not matter if cindralla walked in. treat her like you would a 600 pound woman. that way you slowly teach yourself not to glorify women. this does not mean that you become rude or mean, no.. a lot of guys dont get that. it is stoicism. (read about that)

once you get comfortable in a business professional setting to talk to women, it slowly will translate to your personal life where spagetti does not pour out your pockets as soon as a girl looks your way. desperation is the biggest enemy a guy can have with girls. you are better of having no dick at all. once a woman does not smell the slightest scent of desperation from a guy, the game is on.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Right that makes sense, I haven't been laid in a very long time so when I see a pretty woman I just get tense, avoid eye contact, and just probably look and act nervous af. My SMV is low af, too old to be working the job I work at, don't lift, don't read enough, eat poorly, sleep is shit, don't meditate. I make promises to myself and then end up bailing out because I feel tired, lazy, and just veg out. I hate myself for it, as much as I hate to say that. It's like there are two sides of me, one telling my other half to wake the fuck up and get your shit together and the other saying I'll do it later.... It's a real dynamic relationship.

I know everything you are telling already, I read the redpill, it's like one of the most consistent things I've been doing lately. It's the whole internalization and implementation that gets me. I can read it all here and nod my head but when I am out in the wild I get flustered and forget everything I've read. Implementation is a real bitch. I am around women all day at my job so you'd imagine I'd get good with them but it's almost like I've gotten worse. And the thirst for pussy as grown more and more as each year passes. Tinder is nil for me too. Things aren't doing so well for me right now and I bet women can smell it on me....

[–]babybopp0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

You r your own reply..

[–]1redhawkes4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

What moderation? He has a fucking problem, he needs to cut that shit out asap before turns full cuck.

[–]resnine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

self-control / self-discipline > all

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take it serious, its not a joke. Porn rewires your brain in a majorly negative way! If not its ur life to waste

[–]Rubbish270 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, like literally watch a different type of porn before going cold turkey.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Quit cold turkey, don't look back.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol really any super specific porn lmao we’re all freaks, I’m not gonna say my niche but my sister who’s a decade older is addicted to crying Asian porn, and her ex boyfriend I found out was in to farting porn lol. Likely the girls you’re going for are largely the same amount of freak 😂

Nothing to feel different about we’re all humans and wanna rub our pelvises :)

[–]SmearMeWithPasta72 points73 points  (2 children) | Copy

Stop watching this shit

Stop regarding women as stronger than you

Males are hunters. You’re whole existence, each and every molecule and dna strand inside of you is optimized for survival. It’s what gives you heightened sense. Men can survive harsher environments than women and don’t get lost as easily because we are better attuned with navigation and our environment.

Don’t let your mind play tricks on you. Don’t let it dictate what you can and cannot so. Don’t let your natural imperative be bullies by your mind. You’re a man.

[–]cuztrp15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

There is a very interesting post on TRP by humanpocket someone about how to manage your bitches or smth like. It's like a guide, but he starts with a very interesting concept: the same way men are evolutionarily designed to be dominant, hunters and survivors, women are designed to be obedient and submissive. Trust me on this from fucking experience. On an unconscious psychobiological level, women hate being treated as equals, as actual fucking human beings that deserve your respect. They want to be "abused" (mind you, not the kind of illegal rape abuse without her consent, but the kind of abuse of leading them around against their will).

Meaning, if a bitch doesn't want to do something, something that's completely harmless to her, yet you want to do it, and you both verbalise such thoughts, she will be disgusted if you back down.

Example: you're at a bar and you want to get the fuck out and go to another bar. You say, "Alright, we're bouncing to another bar".

A good girl will silently comply. A naughty one would protest, "No? But I want to stay here! It's lovely, and I'm tired....blablabla".

You'd fail if you agree to stay and say smrh on the lines of, "Oh, alright, I see. Okay. We can stay then!"

But you'd pass with flying colours if you simply grab your stuff and start walking out.

I was on the subway once with a girl I was gaming and out of nowhere, I just moved to the center of the wagon cuz there were less people. She buffered for a second, then she joined me.

Once with my ex, I politely asked if we could do the 69. "You know I don't like that, right?"

"Yes, I do. But it's fun, come on!"

"No, I'm really not into it!"

"Yeah but why?!"

"I dunno... I really don't like doing it".

"Oh no baby you do. And you will".

I stood off the bed and started undressing.

"No no no I really don't wanna do it pleaaase".

I lied on the bed naked waiting for her to start sucking.

"Nooo... I really don't want to do it.." while taking off her pants. A few moments later, we're in the position and we're both moaning.

"Now that wasn't bad, wasn't it?"

"Yeah right".

Women will always ALWAYS challenge your frame and dominance on the position. They fucking know that they have no saying in where the interaction is going and all you need to do is to fucking embrace it. They want no respect (to a certain level... Of course. You can't go around bullying them). They want you to always lead and once you give her the wheel, hypergamy kicks in and she's disgusted. Try it out.

[–]DeatCoreBoy11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy hell! couldn't say it better.

[–]toilets7778 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

“Just quit porn!” All the guys make it sound so easy, right? It’s not easy. It’s an addiction and needs to be treated as such.

I’m not going to tell you to quit cold turkey because there’s few people that can end an addiction that quickly. Start weaning yourself off it or You will relapse hard; 4 times a week, then 3 times a week, then 2, etc. The times you’re tempted? Put on some shoes and go for a walk outside and walk until the temptation is gone.

You can do it, but it’s not easy, especially with someone like yourself who is in deep.

Best of luck!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I remember a technique that I was online and am thinking of trying it

10 day good fap(1 fap per day to normal vanilla porn) then 30 day No Fap,after that 3 Day good fap after that its a 60 day no Fap then 3 day good fap and then finally 90 day no Fap

[–]temerity184 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, most women are sweet and just want to be loved and fucked. You need some experence IRL.

[–]seexo 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

If you're not a troll, try spending more time with women.

Maybe get a job at a restaurant.

Join yoga or dance classes.

This will pass in time, but you need more exposure to the source of your anxiety to get rid of it.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

now this had an effect on my psyche as it made believe every woman was into femdom

If you piss them off enough, they will be.

[–]CheesyStravinsky1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best responses in this thread lmao

[–]omega_dawg933 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy

i don't understand some of you guys...

you'll get into bar fights, hunt wild animals, bungee jumping, eat weird foods, do rec drugs, etc.

but see that cute lil blond over there with the nice rack? WHY DA FUCK ARE YOU AFRAID TO APPROACH HER?!?

[–]fartingaround2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

I am the guy u just described lol adrenaline and drugs and wierd food but no bitches

[–]CheesyStravinsky-3 points-2 points  (5 children) | Copy

There is no downside to doing extreme activities, at least not psychologically. You win in every imaginable instance, and doing them can only make you more interesting as a person. It is a win-win-win.

Eating weird shit or doing too many drugs might shorten your life a bit in the long run, but it's too abstract for you to truly feel the impact of.

Talking to a strange woman in public has the potential to have 1) extremely negative social consequences, 2) extremely negative personal psychological consequences

And what is the potential reward? Maybe going on a date?... You can just swipe right on dating apps and meet up with women who actually want to meet up with you to share an experience with 0 of the potential negatives.

I don't know how to pretend there are not several strong, logical, rational reasons for being afraid of approaching strange women in public. It MIGHT go ok, but it also might go absolutely horrifically. What makes it worth such a risk?

[–]omega_dawg931 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

hey scared dude... yoy can die doing some of that shit. that's the risk.

and those girls... guess what? they're human, nervous just like you, and probably WANT you to have the balls to approach. take the chance and stop making excuses. fuck the "no's," and focus on the "yes!"

you guys have that defeatist attitude but get mad at the losers etc who get nice women. don't hate the player, hate YOUR lack of game.

a friend once asked a girl... "why do you date bad boys?" her reply was simply... ”I date bad boys bc they ask me out. guys like you are pissing your pants and just standing there.”

iow, you failed the first shit test.

[–]CheesyStravinsky0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Idk what to tell you honestly. I get enough women from dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc... with zero negatives.

Why should I actively make my life worse for the sake of some women who can't be bothered to do put any effort into their lives whatsoever?

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

do whatever it takes and what works for you; this thread isn't about you personally.

but no matter what, you have to meet them and like them in person... and likewise.

[–]CheesyStravinsky0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Dating apps making meeting and liking someone in person vastly easier.

Approaching a random woman in public based on how hot she looks means most likely her personality won't mesh with mine. After conversations in a dating app, personality compatibility is basically assured. It's pretty rare that I don't have sex on a first date thanks to this. It's great!

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

have fun.

[–]furcryingoutloud15 points16 points  (20 children) | Copy

First of all, let me tell a dumb joke. "Doctor, my neck hurts when I turn my head to the left." "Stop turning your head to the left". Dumb joke right? Yeah, similar to the advice I've read in this thread so far.

First of all, there is no shame in having a fetish. Second, the Red Pill, contrary to what everyone seems to believe, works on all humans and not just women. That it is applied here is fine, but it really is a toolbox for life among human beings. I know a few gay men who are red pill as fuck, they just use it on other men.

One question, are you in any sort of therapy for your autism? If you are, and are seeing a therapist, you really should try and talk to them about this issue. I think there are a few factors at play that are causing this, but not being a doctor, I would recommend you see a professional to help you sift through your issues which may be exacerbated by your autism.

Your goal should be to learn to live with your fetish, whatever that may be, and not attempt to suppress it. Suppression causes more problems than you can imagine.

Can you be red pill and still like being dominated? Of course you can. I'm pretty sure you don't like being dominated every moment of every day, and your interest in the red pill shows that you want to learn the way. But see, the red pill is not a religion. There is no higher entity that punishes you for any sins you commit that fall astray of the teachings.

Hitting the gym is always good advice. Do that. It WILL help and you'll thank everyone who told you to go. As far as I am concerned, jerk off to your heart's content. I say fuck all this no-fap bullshit, like Sunday school children feeling bad about fapping. Ridiculous. I'm 55 and still fap everyday. And no, I have not noticed a difference, not even when I was using steroids like a dope fiend.

Case in point, not conforming to every little rule in the sidebar is not a reason to feel bad about yourself. You've only got one life. Live it to the fullest and enjoy whatever it is you enjoy. Yes, even if it is being dominated by a woman. Find a woman you can trust and let her dominate you all you want. Then go and be as red pill as you like with whomever you like. Don't repress yourself ever, you will end up regretting it when you're older. And your life will be the shit that you feel it is now.

Oh and did I mention, stop with the religious bullshit.

[–]BloodSurgery3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

First of all, let me tell a dumb joke. "Doctor, my neck hurts when I turn my head to the left." "Stop turning your head to the left". Dumb joke right? Yeah, similar to the advice I've read in this thread so far.

"Doctor, I have bad health because I smoke cigarettes" "Stop smoking then" "I've been trying to, u know?". That's more accurate to OP right now.

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

The man has autism. I don't think it's going to be as easy as just speaking words to him. He's here asking for help, not for captain obvious to tell him what he already knows. He needs help in coming to terms with his problems. We can talk at him and act like he's all weak and shit, and we're all strong and shit, but that's not really going to help him is it?

Also, his problem is not that he seems to enjoy domination or being dominated. His problem stems from attempting to repress those likes for no other reason than what I believe is a fear of being ridiculed for having them. Basically, he doesn't really need to stop viewing porn, he needs to accept that he likes domination and stop feeling guilty for it. Then get on with his life.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Like I said I like women being somewhat dominant and taking charge but I am not really into the hardcore stuff

pegging,bondage,humiliation.Chasity e.t.c

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I am trying to avoid nitpicking what you like and what you don't like. You know why? Because at the end of the stretch, it doesn't matter in any way, shape or form. And me, I don't care. You don't have to justify anything to anyone. It's that simple. I understand what you're saying, but again, it's nobody's business.

You need to stop feeling guilty and start living. Getting you to the point where living your life is within your control is the only thing you should be worrying about. My or anyone's opinion about the mechanics of what you like or don't like should be like dust on the floor for you.

Want an example? And this example has nothing to do with you or your likes. It has to do with living your life, the way you see fit. Ricky Martin was gay all his life. Yet he never came out until he was much older. His life was shit until he learned to live with the perceived rejection of being gay. But it was always eerily noticeable how repressed he was and basically, unhappy. His whole life changed after he came out, now he is much happier and that can be seen in everything he does.

My point is man, you need to fight your own demons. Not the ones that anyone thinks you have. So you like a little dominance, you think it makes a difference to anyone? Not really. Yet your life is sort of at a standstill because you are mentally punishing yourself for not fitting in a specific mold. Fuck the mold and fuck what people think.

Take it from me, where at 55 I think back and would definitely do a few things differently. Yet I'm good with how I've generally led my life. You think any of those people that criticized me back in my 20's and and 30's today give a fuck about what I'm doing today? Not a one. The point? It doesn't matter to anyone but you. So do it your way.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Like I keep on saying

all I want is a girl who is a little rough with me and takes charge but I am scared that this invites women who would go into the extreme stuff

I am not fond of the extreme stuff

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

See I do think I'm somewhat submissive and I like the Idea woman taking charge riding me,maybe even choking me a bit

but all the femdom pron is some guy getting pegged while wearing a ball gag and its humiliating for hi, their is no moderation even gentle femdom has aspects of pegging and taking away his manhood

I just need help getting over my fear that the woman I meet is into femdom

[–]furcryingoutloud1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Why the fear of a woman being dominant? Are you physically strong enough to fend off a woman if she tried to physically dominate you? If you aren't, that may be a reason for your fear.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I view myslef as being easily manipulable and I am to

people have taken advantage of my mental issues in the past to make fun of me or take something from me

[–]bostezo223 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

If it's hard to quit from femdom porn, you better start changing the subject. Try fem submission or something like that and let's see if your mind follows as It did before with you other kink.

[–]reddit309 1 points [recovered]  (10 children) | Copy

jerk off to your heart's content. I say fuck all this no-fap bullshit, like Sunday school children feeling bad about fapping. Ridiculous. I'm 55 and still fap everyday.

fapping is bad for you. actually, its terrible for you. this is a simple fact.

[–]DrAwesome045 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

No . Fapping isn't. Porn is bad. Porn fucks up your brain. And you lose in your real life. Fapping without porn is good. You need to ejaculate once a while otherwise there can be more harm then good. I say , fap once a week. At least. But don't do porn. Nothing beats real women.

[–]reddit309 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

porn is definitely FAR worse than merely masturbating. i thought fapping meant masturbating to porn so i was wrong about that. but every time you release from masutbrating you lose your horniness. obviously it builds back up but if you let yourself get horny as fuck without releasing for lets say 3 days at a time instead of 1 per day, you will learn to like feeling horny. it makes you feel ALIVE. i didnt masturbating is terrible i meant porn. but refraining from masturbating is the best way to quit porn at least in my experience bec it allows you to get horny without porn

[–]DrAwesome04-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well... Whatever works for you

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Ok, I'll take your word for it, but not quitting because you say so. And no, I don't care why people say it's bad. Also don't care if you like blue balls. I've been a pro fapper all my life, I'm 55 now and have no plans to stop. And I've never had it affect me.

[–]reddit309 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

you dont realize how its affecting you because youve never tried without it. you need to ejaculate time to time. i got blue balls from going like 5 days and it hurt badly lol. im never doing that again. but refraining from masturbation for short periods of time like 3 days maximizes you horniness which makes me feel so much better and energized than just releasing everytime i get the urge

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Whatever works for you is what you should be doing. Please don't assume to know what I've tried and haven't tried. I'm too old to not have tried just about everything. I've gone longer periods of time than 5 days, haven't felt any difference, ever. As a matter of fact, I feel I perform better having fapped than without fapping. But like I said, whatever floats your boat.

[–]reddit309 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

i assumed that because you literally said “ive been a pro fapper all my life”. if youve tried everything and found what works for you, good for you. i was sharing my personal experience and will continue experimenting to find what works best for me.

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There you go, that's the spirit. You won't get no flap from me for doing what works for you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I've been a pro fapper all my life

What's a pro fapper?

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Professional Fapper

[–]How_To_Badass1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your mind got hijacked by bullshit. Find which thoughts/experiences "backup" your false mindset and show yourself with real life experience and other peoples experience how ridiculous and wrong they are.

Then add the mindset you want and back it up with new thoughts and experiences.

Witht the porn, it is a habit with a specific goal in mind. Could be relaxation, procrastination of something important, boredness....only you can tell. Find the trigger everytime you want to watch porn and replace porn by something that gives you the effect. Of course, the sexual pleasure can only be replaced by normal sex so approach women everytime you have the "need". Other ways are instead of porn to hit the gym or start running.

[–]T-P-T-W-P1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There’s no real response to your post other than you need to radically enact some discipline and learn to understand the true masculine/feminine dynamic between men and women.

[–]BloodSurgery1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly, go to a gym, workout at home, but do something physical. Take cold showers instead of hot ones, and only go to your bed to sleep and not to masturbate. You need to build discipline, but you think you need willpower to not madturbate. Willpower is to do something you don't want to do at the moment, discipline is when you do something because you have to.

Going cold turkey with masturbation is easier than drugs, alcohol and shit, since it's not something you need physically.

Also, you should hire an escort. Seems you are a virgin, so to get out of your head the idea of you being fucked by a women and not the other way around, fuck a real girl and do whatever* you want with her, so you can be masculine for real.

  • of course, "normal" stuff, like light choking, slaps, hell if I know. No shit like scat or something lmao.

Hopefully you found any of this useful OP.

[–]TheBigPone1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had fears of eventually having to deal with a femdom too.

My advice for you is to learn more about the effect of masculine men on women and try to be more masculine and dominant yourself, you'll learn most women crave for a man like this, and even a femdom will show respect to you.

The only book that comes to my mind right now that is kind of straight to the point in your case is the Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. For me the only thing that saved from this fear was learning how to be a Dom myself.

[–]mrpoopistan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

wants to take advantage of me and make me her sub

First part is right because that's what all humans do.

Second part . . . very not gonna happen. I know a few dudes who are actively into the femdom thing, and they're basically wandering through the desert.

[–]johnhello1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

R nofap

[–]AlfredKinsey-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you lift regularly?

[–]InsidiousCurve0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop caring about the outcome. And female friend hitting on you.

[–]BookyMcBooks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A couple weeks ago a female friend told me that I had a cute butt and my knees literally started shaking

I'm sorry, but that is just too fucking funny.

[–]Ryabemo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

femdom porn is hot tho

[–]KantBeDenied130 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop watching porn! Join a gym, workout! Sign up for some form of martial arts (kickboxing, or jiu-jitsu). Get it together man!

[–]thrwy754790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Though I don't have any familiarity with your situation, I came across this article about dominance and submission that you may find interesting.

[–]mikkeldaman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ReHello there fellow femdom fetishist. I myself enjoy entertaining myself with this kind of stuff. Probably you don't want to read about my life story but I used to have a bit of a similar struggle. Whenever I would fancy a girl, I would fantasize about her bossing me around and acting like an entitled goddess. I was irrationally intimidated by loud mouthed confident but hot girls. Anyways, long story short, a friend once took me to a BDSM dungeon. At the end of the session I got to meet my dominatrix for a drink. While during session she had been everything I had fantasized about, once she stepped out of the role, despite being quite bossy, she was just a normal human with her fair share of flaws, insecurities and misfortunes. Needless to say, I was slightly disappointed but at the same time my subconscious realized that women were nothing but humans just like me. Sure they will play a role to seduce at times, but don't we all?

So I guess my advice would be to go to a dominatrix and get to know her when she steps outside that role. It may help you realize that she is not as superior to you as she claims nor does she have all that much power over you.

As a slightly off topic remark, it's interesting to see that actually women involved in femdom tend to enjoy it more because they can overtly express how they feel about a beta male whom they see below them. Unlike a prostitute or a call girl who has to pretend to like the chump she's with... Actually the articles on red pill confirm that what a regular woman feels towards a man she doesn't see at the very least as her equal, a dominatrix says it freely to her subs.

[–]escapetovictory0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Also, get real, most women are not dommes, in fact quite the reverse.

I have this kink also so i know, just check out reddit femdom personals, all guys looking for a mistress, barely any mistresses looking for subs and the ones that are there are fat.

Most/all women I have met/slept with ( a lot) are submissive. I would estimate less than 3% of women are legit dominant like you see on PORN sites.

Stay in reality dude. They may still want to use you for dinner etc but not like you think

[–]Battletoad1010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get drunk go out clubbing with mates. Repeat until you get desired results...

ORRRR u stop being a pussy start talking to women they are literally children.

[–]schielegirl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Watch porn where a woman Is submissive:)

[–]PlantainNationalism-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

Chief...

[–]DrAwesome042 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

This ain't it?

[–]PlantainNationalism-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Nah, fam.

[–]DrAwesome040 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck this world

[–]PlantainNationalism-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol

[–]rKKKselected-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you have a reason to live and produce offspring? Do you have a reason to have sex with women in the first place?

Do you have a good reason to quit porn? Does anyone's life depend on yours? Do you have any sort of positive obligation to anyone in this world? Or are you an isolated, deracinated shell of a person that copes with its existence thru the use of anaesthetics and simulations?

You may want to ask yourself if you're afraid of women because your body has an intuitive understanding of the fact that you're such a pathetic excuse for a human being that you should not be allowed to put your dick into a wet babymaking hole to continue this pathetic postmodern cycle.

So I would definitely try to fix that.

[–]MaamunBrazy-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you lift?



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