Asking you guys because I know you'll be honest with me.
My husband (24) and I (24) met a few years ago and realized pretty quickly that we both read TRP. At the time I read it to be able to play the game from the other side (it's easier when you know the other team's playbook), and now I read MRP to see myself objectively as best I can and to recognize when it's the hamster going crazy and I'm not using my logical brain. (Fuck RPWomen. That's just a sub about how to trick men into marrying you.)
Having kids is kind of a weird topic with my husband and I. Anyone who has ever asked us got an immediate "no fucking way" from both of us, because we hate other people's kids. But we talked about it recently and the more he thinks about it, the more he does want to have kids. I was okay with this, because I was kind of in the same boat, but...
I asked if he wanted to adopt. There are PLENTY of children in the world that need real homes, so why make more? We have two rescue dogs, and they're the best thing that ever happened to us. Rescue dogs, rescue kids, same thing, right?? But no. He wants to have a biological child (in about 3 or 4 years. we like to plan for the long term).
This scares the shit out of me. Not raising a child—I'm on board with that—but the squeezing-a-kid-out part.
Posts like this scare the living shit out of me. And they are endless on TRP, and even MRP.
My husband is the most important person in the world to me. Making him happy is my #1 goal. He's my captain. If he wants to have a child instead of adopting, then I'm on-board.
But I won't be the same. Having a fucking kid changes your body in ways I can't imagine, physically and hormonally. I've heard women say countless times, "ever since I had little *insert consonant*-ayden, I *insert some awful thing that their body does now*."
I brought it up to my husband, "You know if we have a kid that my body will be FUCKED right? Like, it will never be the same. It will be a mom body."
He was spinning plates when I met him and a couple of them were moms. He said they had great bodies. But I think he was just trying to make me feel better.
I take care of myself: I’m active, I eat well. My husband and I do Taekwondo 3+ times a week, I’m 5’9”, 140lbs. 36”x26”x38”. He’s convinced that I’ll “bounce back to normal”.
But what I’m MOST afraid of is the male primal brain, and the female pregnant brain. When a woman is pregnant, the make primal brain says “this one has already been used. Go fuck one that isn’t used.”
I’m not worried about my husband cheating, but what I am afraid of is that we have a kid, like he wants, but the entire process changes me in his mind from his BDSM sub in the bedroom to his ole’ lady. Or that the hormones from being pregnant would throw me off the deep end and a annihilate the Spock part of my brain I hold in such high regard.
THE FUCKING POINT/tl;dr:
For those of you with kids, what did you think of your wife through the whole pregnancy thing? Especially after.
Do you feel like she let herself go? Is sex not as enjoyable anymore? Did she go all cunty when she wasn’t before?
What, if anything, could she have done better—to keep you feeling the same way about her?
I know I’ll probably be horny af with all those hormones, and my husband said there’s no way he could want to fuck me while I’m pregnant.
I know you can’t say that you wish your kids weren’t born, but how bad do you wish you had your pre-kids wife back?