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Sex God method and She comes first

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March 7, 2019
10 upvotes

Hey,

I read the prereq, read 101, well finishing book of Pook and will soon start way of the superior man.

What have people thought about sex god and she comes first?

Also how has 48 laws changed your lives?


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Title Sex God method and She comes first
Author Umar_Neo
Upvotes 10
Comments 24
Date 07 March 2019 11:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/221134
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ayj897/sex_god_method_and_she_comes_first/
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[–]equinoxshadows7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy

I'll jump in. SGM, for me, wasn't that great. He could have explained DEVI (which to me is the only worthwhile component) in about 20 pages and parts of the book sounded like a #humblebrag from a guy who played too much D&D as a kid.

Full disclosure: my wife is a hardcore good girl and my smv is not yet where it needs to be, so I can only gently and slowly push the envelope when it comes to some of his "techniques." Perhaps I'll revisit it when I am further along on my journey.

[–]Umar_Neo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Understood. I'll circle back and share my thoughts when I finish it.

[–]hystericalbonding2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Agree about SGM. It's like Bang, a nice summary of other people's ideas, but clearly not derived from personal experience.

[–]Umar_Neo[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Does bang and day bang teach game or sex... Or both?

[–]Pepethe1stofHisName1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

game

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What's DEVI?

[–]equinoxshadows1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dominance, emotion, variety, immersion

[–]maxofreddit5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

If you’re looking for tips on seducing the wife, you could also check out Married Man Sex Life guy Athol Kay. It helped me to balance comfort & dread.

Amazon link to his book... “https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00DINECUU/“

[–]Umar_Neo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks. I read that book second as part of the pre reqs

[–]johnn20150 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I read this book and I found that the author is extremely beta.

[–]maxofreddit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He embraces the idea that equal parts “Alpha” and “comfort” make for strong LTR... if you read “comfort” as “beta” then I can see your point.

It’s worked wonders for me, so for n=1 of me, it’s been great.

[–]hack3geRed Beret9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wait there’s actually a book called “she comes first”?

Should have been called “My fuck toy comes when I tell her to come”.

My wife no longer wants oral she just straight wants to suck or fuck - she probably has PTSD from all those years of beta me trying to please her.

[–]HerukaArisen2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I've read a lot of books on sex recently. I hated She comes first.

My favorites are: John Gottman: Man's guide to women Esther Perel: Mating in captivity Emily Nagoski: Come as you are

But the thing is, they are not really Red Pill, so you really need to know your RP to benefit from them. As an example, the last one on my list is written for women, by a woman with a purple hair, who probably fucks women, and, at times, the style of the book was super annoying. But despite all that, I actually learnt a lot about women (and men) from that book, as well as the two others.

[–]equinoxshadows0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I've read the last two on your list and I think your words of caution are wise. How was Man's Guide to Women? Worth it for a guy who's been married 15 years?

[–]HerukaArisen0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Well I've been married for 17 years and I got several insights from it. At first I was a bit annoyed by the attempted humor: it's kind written for the Average Joe. My biggest takeaway from it was understanding better how men and women really think very differently. For example, how big a role fear plays in women's life. This is very relevant from the RP point of view. I also liked the fact how well it is backed up by science tather than anecdotal evidence.

[–]equinoxshadows1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I think I'll pick it up now, especially because I feel like my wife almost always lives from a place of fear and anxiety.

[–]hystericalbonding0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Looking for TL;DR that you didn't get yesterday? From books that other people have summarized in TRP and elsewhere?

[–]Umar_Neo[S] 10 points11 points  (7 children) | Copy

Nope, just excited to get to read them as I have yet to see a book on how to game my wife which I'm eager to do.

Also I never get to talk about these books with anyone, I'm just eager to talk about books that I like. How about you? Want to talk about some books??

[–]hystericalbonding3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

Nice response.

Comments about SGM similar to equinoxshadows

She comes first is fine. No surprises. Women like getting oral sex, and new techniques are often fun. Luckily I like being on the giving end. After coming to the red pill, though, my wife usually just wants to get right down to fucking.

48 laws is entertainment and history. It's also a reminder that the world won't explode just because you're sometimes a bit evil. It might be more valuable for a self-proclaimed Christian dude like yourself than it was for me.

[–]redwall921 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nope, just excited

Nice response.

I love seeing real world examples of the new cat frame being imposed on some grumpy old cat.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/577yzl/the_value_of_maintaining_a_positive_frame/

[–]Umar_Neo[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

So in all the archived posts, guides and other text about gaming your wife.. which sidebar book actually teachers us game?

Mystery method taught game but that's old and not on sidebar.

[–]hystericalbonding1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mystery method taught game but that's old and not on sidebar.

It is on the /r/marriedredpill sidebar, both as recommended/advanced reading and in summarized form. There's plenty of material on game, body language, etc. Visit old.reddit.com if you can't see it.

which sidebar book actually teachers us game?

Many of them. Learning game is an iterative process, mostly learned and reinforced through experience. You don't just read a PUA book and assume that you'll be proficient.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Women like getting oral sex, and new techniques are often fun. Luckily I like being on the giving end.

Is giving oral to a woman submissive? Wife never asked for it historically, but had no problem if I wanted to. Now she is asking for it and says how much it turns her on. Sometimes while we are fucking, she will force my head down. This happens during sessions where she has multiple orgasms so I always assumed it was a good thing.

[–]hystericalbonding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

says how much it turns her on

As your SMV rises, more things will turn her on. Enjoy it!

Is giving oral to a woman submissive?

Get out of your own head. Immersion isn't just for her. If you like doing it and want to in the moment, then go for it. If not, then don't.

Sometimes while we are fucking, she will force my head down.

Do the same to her, when the mood strikes.

If she is pushing your head down when you're in the mood for something else, then put her where you want her. Pin her down and talk dirty, "No. I want you right here." You should be able to overpower her effortlessly. She only has the power that you give to her, at the time of your choosing.

Giving and taking control is fun. Toy with her. You can top from the bottom, if that's your thing. Ultimately the control is always yours.



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