He is not a ''nice guy''. He has no problem saying no and isn't a pusharound. He is a respectable person and runs his own buisness.
The only problem I see in him, through my RP lenses, is his ways with dealing with my mom. Now if it was me, I would have nexted her years ago, but that's out of the question as they have been married for 20+ years.
Everything she says or does, he is always reacting emotionally. Nothing stoic about him. Most of the times my mother is actually wrong for what she says and he has every right to get angry, but as we all know that is not the right way to deal with women. He is always explaining himself to her or arguing with her. Constantly breaking frame.
Once I even told him that he should leave her and he got mad at me because, as he said, I don't want to help with the family issues.
If we were native English speakers, I would have bought him The Rational Male. Since we're Bulgarian, I'm having a hard time getting him into TRP. Everything I say to him (I tried once) sounds like absolute bullshit and like I'm some mad man. The fact that I'm 17 doesn't help.
Any advice on how to get him to step his game up and stop taking every little thing so serious. He should start treating my mother like a child and not valuing what she says so much, but I have no idea how to explain it to him.