I'm still an average guy, because lifting takes for fucking ever to give you a nice body. Pretty good job (but that doesn't seem to matter), not great at talking/game. 27 year old.
I go out twice with this 34yo divorcée. No kids. From the age difference you can see she's getting the better deal. I don't normally like older women, but she looks like a 9/10 compared to other women her age. 6/10 overall. So it's fine.
We fuck on the second date, and a few days later I ask her out again. She says no because she has to study for this big exam in 12 days. No biggie, I give her space, stop texting her, and game my other women. Text for logistics only, right?
I do exactly that, text her the night after her exam. No response. Figure the prospective plate broke, but no idea why. 9 days later I send another quick text. She goes off on me. Basically says I disappeared after she refused my invite, I didn't even wish her happy birthday (which she claims I knew about because I saw her instagram stories or something). Says she's not mad, we're just not compatible, and still wants to be friends (good luck with that).
Anyways, that's dead on the water, but it's not her I wanted to talk about. I'm right, aren't I? Before you become Chad, - when you're still an average or slightly above average dude - there's really no room for error, is there? One misjudgment and you're done. Even if they're a post-wall divorcée. Even if you have a higher SMV.