I’m asking this here because my goal was to have an LTR which would lead to having children. And it seems to me that on /r/asktrp I will just be told to avoid LTR in the first place.
This is was my first girl.
I went completely broke, I’ve been struggling financially for months now, she's been bitchy for a while now and less than a week ago proposed a temporary breakup. In response to that I made it permanent. I was already contemplating breaking up long before this, but this was the last straw.
Now she’s sending me a hundred messages a day. Complaining how I’m a cold, heartless monster; an egocentric whiny brat who asks for more than he deserves; and that no woman will ever love me like she does.
I mostly ignore them, because they contradict the truth and provoke me to argue in defense, which is a waste of time.
But, a couple times she seemed to make a genuine effort to fix it. She would say things like: “I can learn”, "I can adapt". So I took the bait.
Once I begin to allow myself to be convinced by her to reunite with her, she turns into a bitch again. It pisses me off and I withdraw. She says the last few nasty things and then becomes nice again, so I lean in again, and then she turns into a bitch. Again. What the hell is happening? It’s so predictable it’s not funny anymore.
So now I haven’t been responding to her texts for a while, and with each message she’s becoming more pleasant. Making me feel positive about her again. But I’m not taking the bait a third time. And I sure as hell won't reunite with her. I just want to understand what this is.
What does she actually want?