Why post-breakup GF asks for reunion, but turns into a bitch once I'm about to accept?

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March 22, 2019

I’m asking this here because my goal was to have an LTR which would lead to having children. And it seems to me that on /r/asktrp I will just be told to avoid LTR in the first place.

### Intro

This is was my first girl.

I went completely broke, I’ve been struggling financially for months now, she's been bitchy for a while now and less than a week ago proposed a temporary breakup. In response to that I made it permanent. I was already contemplating breaking up long before this, but this was the last straw.

Now she’s sending me a hundred messages a day. Complaining how I’m a cold, heartless monster; an egocentric whiny brat who asks for more than he deserves; and that no woman will ever love me like she does.

I mostly ignore them, because they contradict the truth and provoke me to argue in defense, which is a waste of time.

But, a couple times she seemed to make a genuine effort to fix it. She would say things like: “I can learn”, "I can adapt". So I took the bait.

### Question

Once I begin to allow myself to be convinced by her to reunite with her, she turns into a bitch again. It pisses me off and I withdraw. She says the last few nasty things and then becomes nice again, so I lean in again, and then she turns into a bitch. Again. What the hell is happening? It’s so predictable it’s not funny anymore.

So now I haven’t been responding to her texts for a while, and with each message she’s becoming more pleasant. Making me feel positive about her again. But I’m not taking the bait a third time. And I sure as hell won't reunite with her. I just want to understand what this is.


What does she actually want?

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Title Why post-breakup GF asks for reunion, but turns into a bitch once I'm about to accept?
Author whatifitsfun
Upvotes 16
Comments 58
Date 22 March 2019 03:57 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/222920
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/b46rca/why_postbreakup_gf_asks_for_reunion_but_turns/
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long term relationship

[–]helaughsinhidden65 points66 points  (20 children) | Copy

A pathology report, in chronological order.

She found you attractive when you met.

Started to date because she liked you and would touch your wiener.

Things were fun at first

*You thought, maybe she was "the one".

*You put her above everyone else. Friends, hobbies, good credit, saving money.

She became unhappy and started to bitch a little.

*So you did everything to make her happy.

*Asked her opinion, looked for her approval and validation.

*Got you to spend up all your time and money with her.

She grew even unhappier and started to push buttons and constantly nag you.

*No matter how you explained yourself, she never saw things your way

*You had to always be on the defense around her.

*You walked on eggshells, but it wasn't enough.

Temp split up was her idea.

You doubled down and said just end it. (Only smart thing you did!)

Now she wants to have you back, WHY?

First of all, points with the * are you turning to the blue pill beta mentality, shame on you. Never do it again.

Secondly, what she is doing NOW is attempting to rewrite history. She nagged you because AWALT. You put her on a pedestal and thought she was a unicorn. Then you chased her love, sex, happiness, validation, approval, and cared what she thought and it caused her to lose respect, admiration, and attraction for you. Again, shame on you. Then, she basically wanted to leave you, but you ran a trick play she didn't see your weak ass doing, you called it off. She wants you to take her back so she can leave YOU.

What should you actually do?

Block her number, block her social media, give all her stuff back to her mother, start lifting, fix your finances, lift like WW3 is starting next month and all those those who can't squat 300lbs will be instantly euthanized, and READ THE SIDEBAR BOOKS!

[–]SuperCrazy0710 points11 points  (10 children) | Copy

Your guesswork analysis is logical, but ultimately wrong.

OP’s life is a much bigger dumpster fire than anyone could guess.

Someone commented below about this girl being the subject of his asktrp post so I went and read it.

Based on a quick skim - OP was a young virgin incel who met a girl online and developed a fantasy crush on her. They live 2,000 miles apart and in different countries. She went around fucking people that she knew in real life (shocker!) and would tell OP it didn’t happen or whatever.

Determined to wife this slut up, OP moves 2,000 miles to live with her with no money, no job, no backup plan.

OP refuses to listen to any advice on fucking local girls and insists nobody at asktrp understands.

And, six months later, here we are.

[–]helaughsinhidden6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Oh .............................................................................................................. my


You. Weren't. Kidding.

(°0°) (°0°) (°0°) (°0°) (°0°)

[–]Freedom2speech1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy fuck, her pedestal is huge

[–]johnn20155 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This comment legit.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's an MRP one cock pushup right there.

This guy lifts.

[–]yes_kid2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best comment.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking perfect /u/helaughsinhidden

[–]centaursg1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]seedster51 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best. One. Yet

[–]thatboyjeff0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]mtdog7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don't post too much, but I want you to listen, and listen good.

You don't have a girlfriend. Let me repeat: She is NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND.

She never was your girlfriend.

She's a stranger who you moved 2000 miles to fuck because you don't know any better.

You are not "red pill."

You are not even a man, yet.

You're a kid playing grown up. And that's OK. That's what being a kid is for.

Listen, you need to cut this bitch out of your life.

This isn't AWALT. This is a dumb, slutty bitch who is manipulating you, because you are young and inexperienced.

You have been given a gift -- she has shown you who she is, time and time again.

Believe her and move the fuck on.

[–]dandar46006 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She wants a man but everytime she gives you a chance she gets a boy. You're too affected by her moods and to much focused on an ltr where it should be her job to make you want one with her. Have you read the rational male? You may want to start there.

[–]FixYourselfFirst6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Is this the woman you posted about on AskTRP?

Posted by whatifitsfun 5 months ago How many red flags am I not seeing? Should I believe her?


[–]RStonePT5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–]RStonePT5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cause only trash collectors are supposed to pick up the trash.

[–]nantucketghost2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have oneitis still. Block her number. Tell her never to contact you again. Stop obsessing over her.

You say you don't care, but your actions and your concern say you do.

Find a new one

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go read the book of pook... You need the insight from there right now; And if you go back with her you will be here again in short order

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

my goal was to have an LTR

Don't do this, with her or any future women. You're giving away the prize without any expectation that she earn it. You can want an LTR, but do not approach any specific woman with that goal in mind.

I went completely broke, I’ve been struggling financially for months now, she's been bitchy

This is pretty standard. Women will test you hardest when you're at your weakest.

I read through your previous post and this relationship was doomed from the beginning. She's had you by the balls from day one. Even with the breakup, she still has all the power and now she's just playing with her food. You can either demote her to plate or hard next. Given your oneitis and inexperience with women, I'd recommend the latter.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit in a basic brown bag (the kind you may have eaten lunch out of as a kid), put the bag on her porch, light the top of the bag on fire, ring the doorbell (or knock) and run to a pre-set hiding/viewing location. If all went as planned the victim will see the flaming bag and be all like "ahh fire!" followed by a quick stomping of the bag.

[–]JCX_Pulse1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Something no one seems to have said yet, though probably for good reason, is a question back to the group. Could this be shit testing?

She’s only interested in getting back with you when you show backbone, and when you ended things it showed more backbone than she expected.

Every time she becomes nice and you’re nice back she shits down your weak throat because she knows she can.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Women branch swing and have orbiters for a reason. She wants to swing off of this branch, but she hasn't secured the next branch yet. She has already decided to swing and will string him along until she finally lets go. Even still, girls will keep at orbiter at the right distance indefinitely if the orbiter is stupid enough to play the game. She is just keeping him around just in case he gets his act together and just in case she can't find anything better.

[–]JCX_Pulse1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had forgotten about the orbiter and branch swing. Good call.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Something no one seems to have said yet, though probably for good reason, is a question back to the group. Could this be shit testing?

No, his ass was already out the door when she suggested a break. The man that he was then is not a man that she wants to keep. One little show of balls is a loooooooong way from being the alpha she wants. The one she tried to swing up to, and missed, had 10 times the balls that he has. Had she taken him back, his ass would be gone within the month when she found a new one.

[–]johnn20151 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You coming here asking what does she want is a mistake. You should be asking what do you want. You are not ready. Go read and internalize. Figure out who you are as man and build a life you want.

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because you’re demonstrating low value, so she shit tests you.

I have a feeling you don’t understand what that means, because you haven’t read the sidebar.

Read the sidebar.

[–]-Acta-Non-Verba-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Phycho. Bail now.

[–]Aechzen1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Now she’s sending me a hundred messages a day.

Block. Her. Number.


[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

Sidebar, lift, stfu.

Do the work or fuck off.

Really don't care which tbh.

[–]fivenineattack0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

But if you were contemplating about breaking up, why bother now? She probably just feels like you had the upper hand at the end of the break-up by ending it permanently, but who cares what she thinks or behaves. Did your financial stuff change? Why do you want to get back together?

[–]Dialerstring0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Does it really matter what’s she wants? It seems like you’ve already made a decision. Hit the side bar, read Rational Male and check out Rian Stone’s ‘Red Pill Coffee’ vid on YouTube.

[–]jshtx21170 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When an Ex reaches out it is because she feels guilty, she is bored or she is seeking validation she still has a hook in you.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What the hell is happening?

Really? Pretend someone else wrote this, what would you tell him?

[–]broneilbro0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Listen: the fact that you didn’t care at first was a great step. Keep doing that and go your own way.

Recently had a girl that did the stand me up for an ex.

Her: “I want to follow my heart and try with my ex, but I would love to reconnect with you if it doesn’t work out”

Me: “Oh that’s adorable, it will most likely not work out but don’t try to connect with me. I don’t accept that. Good night and good luck”

Her: Hamster spinning and she has been texting me to come over and fuck her while her B-boy is out of town non stop. Funny how that works.

[–]civilizedfrog0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

post-breakup gf

That is an ex, bro. Also, don't root through trash.

[–]that_italia_guy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

All relationships come to an end

[–]Morpheus_TNTB0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your nosing around the trash (oneitis) and perplexed why your getting sick from it? Stop eating out of the dumpster and move on!

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She is either a bitch pretending to be nice of she is nice trying not to be a bitch. Which is it?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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