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Girls on tinder in their bios who say: Not looking for hookups

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March 23, 2019

How do you go about that?

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Title Girls on tinder in their bios who say: Not looking for hookups
Author draino_soup1
Upvotes 137
Comments 73
Date 23 March 2019 02:27 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]buttgoogler86 points87 points  (2 children) | Copy

From the makers of "You know we're not having sex tonight, right?" and "I have a boyfriend".

[–]AlfredKinsey17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

And the award winning "I just got out of a relationship" and "I'm not like other girls."

[–]YourZenemy28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking a girl after she says one of these things is so satisfying. I wish everyone this success.

[–]SauliusTRP151 points152 points  (7 children) | Copy

That just easy beta filter, write them anyway.

[–]Blackhawk2479243 points244 points  (6 children) | Copy

Exactly. It’s often said in here that it helps to understand what girls say by adding “right now” to the end of their sentences:

“I love you SauliusTRP — right now”

“I’m not interested in other guys — right now”

I find for a lot of shit girls say, tacking “with average guys” on the end is equally effective:

“I don’t have sex on a first date — with average guys”

“I need commitment before I have sex — with average guys”

Im not looking for hookups — with average guys

Be high-value, not average, and the rules don’t apply to you.

[–]Useeikill39 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

You've got it straight in the bullseye with this one.

[–]sanitypanacea14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

For reactive escape clause one can add "with you"

I'm not interested in a relationship right now - with you

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why the fuck do girls gotta be so complicated like this? like 40 million layers of emotions.

[–]AlfredKinsey2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Boom. Real shit.

[–]Jesus-slaves0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy


[–]AnabolLecter235 points236 points  (19 children) | Copy

These are the ones that are looking for hookups.

Ignore and escalate.

[–]BlkLeatherCouchActor 1 points [recovered]  (10 children) | Copy

Lol exactly. It’s used to filter out those with no motivation or ambition. Many of the great mentors of industry tell people “no, it’s not For you” when someone asks if they should get in their industry/business. Not because they shouldn’t, it’s because if someone telling them “no” stops them, they don’t need the motivation for what’s required. If a girl saying “I don’t want hookups” stops you feel hooking up, she wouldn’t want you anyways.

[–]StellarMemez11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's used to make her not feel like a slut even though all she's looking for is hookups

[–]Anacondainahonda5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yup. To help the hamster. "It just happened", "it was chemistry", etc. When she actually comes out leading with stuff like that, it's a huge green flag.

[–]StellarMemez4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

it's a huge green flag

Of getting laid? Barely. This is no more of a green flag than her being on tinder at all. If anything it's a red flag that you'll have to put up with her hamster shit right out the gate.

[–]AlfredKinsey4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

After all, it is FUCKING TINDER

[–]TheRedditGod21 points22 points  (2 children) | Copy

Every doctor I’ve ever met says “don’t fucking do it,” and I can’t be certain, but I’m pretty sure you’ve hit the nail on the head as to why.

[–]Son0fMan2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

No they tell you this from a position of hypercompetence and a fragile ego conditioned by overachieving and/or vicarious parents, likely instilled by the parents' brutal life of scarcity, which has left them (the doctor) with alcoholism and crippling debt - but boy does it feel validating to be the most successful guy in the room.

Source - In the medical field. Close friends with a few doctors, etc.

tl;dr - Pretty much the same answer just more elaborate.

[–]TheRedditGod0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

-parents had life of scarcity
-pushed into medical field
Wow, ok. I guess I’ll fit right in

[–]Atheist_Utopia9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

fight club

[–]Kanvaslaw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Amen bro, and this applies to all aspects of life.

[–]redpillparis 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

This. The biggest sluts these kind lol. When a girl says this on Tinder, she is hoping to get her brains fucked out by a Tarzan on Tinder and then try to make him fall on love. But Tarzan got bigger and better mountains to conquer after so as soon as nuts, Tarzan leaves like a free man he is. Always be Tarzan, never be yourself

[–]whuttupfoo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tarzan fucks hard.

[–]Moldy_Gecko2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

To be fair... I don't think their hamster sees it that way. They've likely just been hooking up so much and feeling like a slut that they say "no hookups". Then, next thing you know, another guy gets their tingles going and they're hooking up. If that makes any sense. They say it, hoping for a beta that just won't fuck them until they "feel ready" but in the meantime are meeting guys that are thrashing them repeatedly on the first night.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy

It's just used so that if someone they know finds their profile, their reputation won't be compromised.

[–]Qyuk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This needs to be upvoted more for visibility.

[–]Imtoosexyformypants4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

There’s some good ones on tinder who live out in the suburbs and work allot in the Midwest

I’ve met many woman on tinder, all want to date until they find a better one to settle down with. That length depends on the hypergamy

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's a strategy to make themselves seem "scarce" and "rare". Just like a salesmen, same tactics.

[–]Blackhawk2479152 points153 points  (1 child) | Copy

If they’re on Tinder, they’re looking for hookups.

Pay attention to what they do, not what they say. Basic sidebar stuff.

[–]caneyfan40 points41 points  (2 children) | Copy

It’s just ASD 101. “Unlike the other girls on here I’m not like that” is what they are saying to themselves. That way when they make the “exception” for a guy, it’s bc this one was different. The message is meant for themselves to hamster away their behavior.

How many times have you heard, “I don’t usually do this” before they do it with you (you know damn well you’re not special unless your ego is that big and you’re naive). They’ve rationalized they don’t do it and each time is an exception. In woman logic, they’re not like all the other women, when in reality they are indeed AWALT. The irony escapes them. It’s amusing.

[–]WhyNotJustEnjoyLife4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Kind of like smoking a cigarette when you decided you quit 5 years ago

[–]AlfredKinsey2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she smokes, she pokes. Hedonism.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's just a shit test. Treat it as such.

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove20 points21 points  (4 children) | Copy

Ignore and escalate

[–]ThrowsSharksAtBirds1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Honestly curious: How would you first try to get the girl going on a "date/meeting"? I assume texting for only logistics right? But as this is Tinder, doesn't it first need some basic comfort to avoid coming over as a creep?

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yes but it has to be organic and not structured

Try to gauge how interested and invested she is. If it doesnt seem like she is either no force in the world will get her to go out with you

[–]Blaak0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

what about for a instagram model that super liked me but tries to b short when i message her

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's about playing the long game and being patient

Too many men are impatient and try to make things happen and try to move to fast. It's kind of like a game of chicken. Not saying to wait for her to make the first move, but be deliberate. Make a move, and wait. Don't force things

[–]hot_soup1918 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Girls on tinder that say 'no hookups' mean you have to watch at least one episode of the office with them before they'll let you fuck them in the ass.

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is a shit test.

[–]F_Dingo11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let's rephrase by taking one word out...

Not looking for hookups

[–]DirtyBastard135 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Plausable Deniability, anti slut defenses. They're actually looking for something to "happen".

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

.........with BB providers. Whenever women make any kind of declarations there's always a caveat they don't want to tell you.

There's always the exception which invalidates the rule.

[–]hayze1054 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its a filter for weak men

[–]WayneNolting4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I also theorized that females swipe for alpha fucks during the first 14 days of their cycle, and edit their profiles on the second 14 days of their cycle.

[–]Datanami11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]mrrooftops2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's because they match (are attracted to) the guys who only do that with them. Escalate or avoid depending on your agenda.

[–]jhx264 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Saying im looking for a relationship on tinder is le saying I watch porno for the storytelling

[–]mosham1260 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh come on, if theres no build up then the climax is underwhelimg.

[–]superman1274 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I only see unattractive girls write that, hot girls get enough sexual comments.

[–]TheRealIsBack17 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pay attention to what they do, not what they say.

[–]erthian2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think its required by law. Means literally nothing.

[–]kaolin2242 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The best is when they're in your bed and say, "I usually never do this!"


[–]kayfab1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

don't they all say that... lol online dating is such crap

[–]Zanford1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It means they have had hookups, which means they can and will have future hookups, which might as well be you

Sort of like how people who say 'I avoid alcohol' are more likely to've had past issues with it than be genuine lifelnong teetotalers.

[–]OrzhovPalatine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ignore it, most of the girls on tinder are hook ups anyways. Just like the girls on there that say "no playing games/no fuckboys". They just don't want to come off as slutty

[–]Bruchibre2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It simply means that's its not what they are looking for. It doesn't mean that it's not what they will get.

[–]DetroitGangster 1 points [recovered]  (8 children) | Copy

It is just ASL. Words do not equal action.

[–]Jabbermouth5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy


American Sign Language?

[–]huey764 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Anti Slut Defense

[–]Jabbermouth0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yes that’s ASD. He said ASL.

[–]AlfredKinsey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Antislut language?

[–]Orochimaru3310 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

How do I counter the “on-going consent” that my university policy forcibly insists when engaging in consensual sex?

The girl can just claim rape after we had sex. Despite having a sex after text saying that she had a good time.

Basically, my university has policies that protect girls from sex guilt.

My friend experienced this and he is on probation from the school. I don’t want to get into the same shit.

[–]AlfredKinsey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get enthusiastic consent texts at least after and before and after if you can. Keep in fun, but get it done.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

xfer to another school.

that school is teaching backwards... making people dumb.

[–]TheGillos0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have "Not Looking for Hookups" in my bio too. It's all a joke.

[–]Moldy_Gecko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ignore it. Just take them out, and if you do it right, hookups will happen. "No Hookups" or "ONS" is just a shit-test to disqualify beta chumps.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Treat it as a shit test. No matter what you do, hold frame.

[–]teveza110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lesson 1 about girls. Don't listen to what they say, see what they DO.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Thotasaurus_Rex0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pretend it's not even there

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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