High-level comment in /r/askmen about why high-value men won't commit

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2019-03-24T06:46:20+00:00

When I was dating my fiancé, his life was a complete mess the first two years. During the those chaotic years, he definitely put up with a lot of awful behavior from me. I was doing things like - complaining about my day, panicking over nothing, over loading him with texts, bullying him when I felt insecure, getting sad for no reason.

In the third year, he got a well paid job and started flourishing in his career. The amount of bullshit he could deal with from me was diminished greatly. He actually started bullying me back and calling me out when I had bad behavior.

The way I got him to want to commit to me, actually? I worked hard at my job (I'm a musician). He saw that I was committed to my life passion and dedicated to my service to people. I also eradicated my negative behaviors (my complaining and panicking modes), and I sucked it up and took responsibility for myself.

High value women cannot be childish and immature. Be an adult, be a good life partner, and a high quality man will find you.

durtyknees · 2019-03-24T00:42:47+00:00

Winners attract winners. If you were killing it at life as guy or a girl then the only person you want to spend most of your life with will also need to be a winner.

Also: dating will always be easier the younger you are, regardless of gender, because people are more forgiving if you don't already have your shit together.

But many young women fail at relationships because they grew up using fictional characters (especially from dramas) or celebrities as role models.

The problem with fictional characters and celebrities is that they're not living in the same "world" as you are. Even people who live in different countries could be experiencing different "world"s, depending on local cultural norms.

The best role model for anyone still growing up, is someone local to you, who has their shit together --- someone real, who deals with the same realities you have to deal with. Someone real enough for you to befriend and talk to.

It's also easier to make friends with a wider variety of people when you're younger.

cilachi · 2019-03-24T19:49:07+00:00

No, just look for your guy in university. Be cheap so he doesn't have to spend money on you all the time. Let him study. Keep a schedule. Give him space and enjoy yours.

padpump · 2019-03-24T07:31:11+00:00

I would like to add that “having your shit together” is just another fantasy to be chasing. Humility would be a better indicator for both sexes.

Nobody has their shit together. The earlier you realise that. The earlier you can relax and make sure you give others the opportunity to do so as well.

Actionable advice: Stay in the moment. Realise that you are loved already by opening your heart and be receptive to the love.

Touching your heart (chest) while smiling will help you accomplish that. 😁💓👋

thatmom397 · 2019-03-25T19:51:56+00:00

How does a 20-something woman with her life in good order still seem like she’d want a man in her life? Seems like young men prefer needy women.

[deleted] · 2019-03-24T12:50:02+00:00

Amen to that!

Title	High-level comment in /r/askmen about why high-value men won't commit
Author	teaandtalk
Upvotes	95
Comments	17
Date	March 23, 2019 9:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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