Out of all the advice Ive read on TRP being aware of who’s frame the conversation is in has made the biggest change for me.

rnsbrum · 2019-03-25T15:47:43+00:00

Can you please elaborate

resnine · 2019-03-25T17:50:50+00:00

frame is a young man's word. When you get older you naturally give less fucks. Try finding a guy in his 30's or older who still has anxiety. They exists but are far fewer in number.

It's the guy who either cares the least, believes his world view is correct, and can smell bullshit from a mile away who will win the "frame" game. It's just harder for younger people because they still haven't had enough life experience yet.

Anasthaesium · 2019-03-25T16:14:03+00:00

While you learn that you should also learn about the Trojan frame flip.

SlappaDaBayssMon · 2019-03-25T20:06:07+00:00

It's fairly simple; don't placate. If you're worried about the other person reacting negatively to what you say, you're in their frame. If you don't, you're fine.

Don't be afraid of people not liking you for being yourself, don't adjust your thoughts or beliefs or actions to "soften" them because you're afraid of turning somebody off to you, because believe it or not doing so will turn them off to you.

I took a girl I had just met home a few years back, some how during foreplay/pillow talk politics came up. I'm right, she's left. She got up and started getting dressed because she didn't think she could hang with a dude who voted for Trump. I said, "that sucks I don't want you to go but if that's a hang up for you, I get it." And I meant it, I didn't want her to go, but I also understand trying to convince her I'm somebody I'm not would get her out the door faster. She ended up coming around for months after that.

If I had tried to placate, smooth it over, or do anything to convince her to stay, she wouldn't have. I was comfortable with the fact that being myself means not everyone is gonna wanna fuck with me, and if she leaves, bummer, but oh well.

Zakkaro · 2019-03-25T18:48:09+00:00

Yes! Although its not something you switch on/off, its the result of your new knowledge accumulated over weeks of reading ..at least

Kommanderdude · 2019-03-25T16:14:32+00:00

Apparently trp doesn’t help op with his grammar.

Nesqin · 2019-03-25T15:59:11+00:00

whose* instead of who is maybe?

Title	Out of all the advice Ive read on TRP being aware of who’s frame the conversation is in has made the biggest change for me.
Author	rockyp32
Upvotes	67
Comments	26
Date	March 25, 2019 3:22 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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