I feel I am over getting heartbreak. I have girls I sleep with, but I think of them as friends.

That being said, I can still feel jealous, and disrespected. It pails in comparison, and is most disturbing in that it reminds me of what that first time I had my heart broken felt like.

But here is the thing. We are all human. People will hurt you. There will be pain.

So many problems begin when we look to get rid of that pain. People try different things. Drugs. Excessive masturbation. Calling up a girl you like for support.

That's the problem. We are all looking to fix it. Sometimes things can't be fixed. Sometimes things just need to heal.

A man takes his pain and accepts it. He knows it is there, but does not let it control him. He does what he needs to do, for him. He lives his life, and then finds that, almost like magic, one day the pain is gone.

Until the next time. But that's life. Delaying and numbing the pain will do nothing but prolong it. Let yourself feel it. Shoulder the burden. Take the correct actions. Be smarter next time. And soon you will find that you can accomplish great things, even if you don't feel great all of the time.

Above all, never let pain or regret break your frame. That is called Letting other people decide who you are. No one gets to decide that but you. Period.