Saw a bro in the streets approaching girls today, feeling like shit

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March 25, 2019

I'm coming back from a long day in the university when this overweighed dude with a silly haircut stops a German 8 and strikes a conversation out of thin air like magic.

I was walking and I saw that. That's when my jaw fucking dropped. A few minutes later, he takes his phone out and types her number or adds her on Facebook or I dunno.

Just seeing the whole thing happening in real fucking life was so perturbing. The guy wasn't as attractive as the pickup artists on YouTube. I swear his beer belly and boobs were bouncing when he ran up to her and stopped her.

I'm just saying that it looked fucking amazing and I don't think I can pull this off with my current knowledge. So where to start guys? I want to get me some plates.

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Title Saw a bro in the streets approaching girls today, feeling like shit
Author cuztrp
Upvotes 206
Comments 63
Date 25 March 2019 11:44 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]FalconWrite236 points237 points  (13 children) | Copy

Three of my favorite quotes from Patrice O'neal:

"My self-esteem is so damn low, it's high."

"You need to toughen up your leather."

"They ain't us."

  1. You need to have the audacity in your self-confidence that transcends every single even halfway-reasonable counterpoint your conscious mind may have to the "right" you have to approach at your current SMV. Even if you're an old ugly 300 pound black bastard, you need to have the nerve to think you're the sexiest motherfucker on the planet. Even though lifting and not being obese will definitely make your life easier, the mental frame should come before that.

  2. You need to experience such a volume of rejection that it's as unspectacular to you as the air you breathe. For many guys, the notion of public rejection is a nightmare. Develop an addiction to making your worst nightmare come true multiple times in a day, and see the dreams that come in their place.

  3. Understand that women respond to covert signs of value from frame in their hindbrain more than they do the immediate signs of value on the surface from things like appearance, though good appearance can usually help you get your foot in the door a little faster.

You witnessed idgaf in action. It bamboozled you, and it probably bamboozled her. Now stop witnessing and start being.

[–][deleted] 87 points88 points  (1 child) | Copy

TRYING to get rejected is the best idea ever. You can even make it a game, using the female to practice. And the good part is that you're expecting rejection, hard to get your feelings hurt when you expect something. Best part though is when that hb8 says hell yeah and you're like, oh shit, that worked lol. Excellent advice.

[–]FalconWrite27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy

Devil May Cry game. A challenge where you literally only go for the hottest and most unapproachable looking women out there with the express intention of getting blown out. The less prepared, the better. Visualize that woman as a living voodoo spear that you're gonna walk over and stab straight through your ego on purpose as a sacred ritual. Only you might accidentally wind up becoming a god by mistake

[–]ChadTheWaiter1008 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have a buddy who is an old 300 pound black bastard. On top of that he’s about 5’3. He has the balls to talk to any girl. His fatal flaw is that he pedestalizes every single woman.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Monkitail19 points20 points  (3 children) | Copy

biggie smalls used to get mad puss

[–]SickEyes19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

He also had a Coogi sweater

[–]throwawaytrpguy24 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy

He also had a multi-million dollar record deal and in his most popular song literally stated that he didn't get any before he got rich.

[–]c4toyourdoornobeef0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

and it also stated that he had no money before either, which we now know was a total lie lmao

[–]quercusp4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to experience such a volume of rejection that it's as unspectacular to you as the air you breathe.

That confirms what another redditor said: "The goal is to become as numb as possible, whether it's to yourself, or others. In this way, you become what society demands of a man. Emotional abstinence."

[–]LakshaySinghal11 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

How do you demonstrate value?

[–]CasaDeFranco2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

By being valuable, have status.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is good. I’ve been in a relationship for a long time and am content with my relationship. I am lacking abundance though. I once had it. I would like it again. My confidence is pretty low right now, despite being personal record low body fat.

I’m thinking I ought to try the hottest girls I see, no matter the location, and become accustomed to being rejected. There is a girl at my gym who is absolutely stacked. She seems like the type to only go for a certain type of man, that isn’t me, but I’m going to try her. I 97% expect to fail. Yes there is a 3% chance that I think I may succeed but I actually want to fail so that I can get over my revived fear of rejection. But I’m not gonna lie, if that 3% happens I would be ecstatic.

[–]PIGamer861 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A good thorough answer instead of “sidebar!”


[–]0io-64 points65 points  (1 child) | Copy

According to Woody Allen (who historically banged a lot of hot women for a not-so-great looking guy), at least 50% of life is just showing up. The difference between you and the fat guy, is that he's actually out there doing it and you're talking about doing it.

Go out there and chat up some hot women, and try to get their numbers or get them to go somewhere with you. You don't need super powers, you just need to overcome your fear of rejection.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely. Decisions are made by those who show up.

[–]teveza1120 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Girls can detect when you have BALLS.

[–]BrownTycoon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]rp262631 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take more risks. Be fun and brush off the rejection.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Work on improving yourself, don't worry about them. Being upset by other people's success is super beta.

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits48 points49 points  (7 children) | Copy

You do realize that she might have been trying to be nice right? Like, a lot of girls think it is easier to give some guy her number and never follow through than it is to reject outright. That being said the shotgun approach will work eventually if you got the balls to do it, no matter how gross you are.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yeah, but atleast he walked away with a number, OP with his dick in his hand making this post.

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

What good is a number? Like I said, eventually the shotgun approach will work (if you ask out every single girl you see eventually one will fuck you, no matter how gross you are) But getting a number from a hot girl that has no interest in you is just as valuable as being given a car's price tag but never taking it for a ride.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's better than sitting at home and going "cars. If I only I had the balls to walk into a dealership!!"

Btw, I agree with you, but often there's no better advice than "go out and do it" that's all OP needs. Who cares what happened with the fat man and the girl's number? How do we know? But we do know OPs sitting at home wistfully hoping he atleast had a number to text and be ignored.

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'd much prefer to not waste my time and get rejected outright and walk away with no number.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What do I say to that but 'K'. Let's not talk in hypotheticals. I agree with you.

[–]eptx1025 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're right, I've seen it countless times when im with my female friends. They'll talk shit about him as soon as the guy turns his back.

[–]person84456 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Start easy and then get harder.

Talk to the cashier, ask them about their day or whatever.

Then talk to a random guy on the the tube or park bench or whatever.

Then talk to ugly girls. Then talk to hotties.

Aim low and then once you have achieved it move the bar.

[–]boy_named_su14 points15 points  (4 children) | Copy

Read Game by Roosh

[–]boy_named_su8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Ah yes. Downvoted for recommending an on-subject book by one of the godfathers of game

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

While Roosh is very helpful to starting out, that's about as far as he goes and we should keep that in perspective. Most PUA stuff is really just to get you out of the door, give you a crutch. There is very little focus on Inner Game, the kind that in the long run gets results. I have seen guys spend years and years doing this, and sure they get laid, so that's something, but it's rarely with women they want and the rest of their lives are dumpster fires.

[–]boy_named_su0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The second chapter is titled "Internal Game"

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fair enough. Will check out. I only read Day Bang.

[–]Ironic_Gangster4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Start by saying "Hi" or "Hello" to strangers on the street. Especially pretty girls. It's a good starting point.

[–]theycallmeshooting3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah bro especially for dudes with social anxiety or whatever they should start out small. Some dudes try to go from never initiating to asking put a 10 and it never goes well. You gotta crawl before you can walk/run and all that

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K183 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Frame, brother, frame.

You have to fuck all outside influence, and always hold your frame. Hold YOU. That's the power. To hold yourself as a man of abundance, prize, idgaf and outcome independence.

No matter what other people throw at you, you don't break. It ain't even about getting her to see it, or getting the number. That's out of your control. You simply hold frame and act from it.

Frame and mental point of origin stuff.

Internalize red pill principles...then practice how to hold it. Eventually you want amused mastery. 'I am the motherfucking shit, and whatever you do to break that is just amusing'. Be a rock.

[–]eptx109 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude no promotional shit read"higher status" by Jason Capital. It honestly changed my life it talks about how to have confident body language and rewires your brain completely. Check out his free older videos on YouTube and do what he does. You might feel sick to your stomach and nervous but ignore that little fucking self doubting voice in your head. I wish it was that easy to say but just practice a lot like most replies said. I just mentioned Jason because he's a good start to the alpha male mentality.

[–]throwitpplaway1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No reading is gonna change his life. What he needs to do is go out, get punched in the gut and then reassess

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy


Don't stop.

Keep going.

Make mistakes.

Learn from them.

At this stage, that's all you need to know. I've been that guy. You know what women want? Women want balls. Literally and metaphorically. They want balls. They want to know you have balls. You could be a 6'8 model with a 6-pack abs, but if you don't have the balls to start a conversation, keep a conversation going and get what you want, it doesn't matter.

[–]PM_Happy_Puppy_Pics5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey man, I am overweight, not man-boob bouncing, but close. I approach 8 and 9s all the time. I ask a simple question, usually situational, and I detect if they are receptive. Many times they aren't, over 50% I would say, but at least 40% of the time they are VERY receptive, even if they are married. Girls expect attention but what they value most is that confidence to talk to them and be bold. Not stuttering or sweating or whatever, just be yourself, witty, funny, and talk about life and the situation around you. Women are generally quite nice to be honest.

Source: Both of my past girlfriends I have met randomly by cold approaching them.

[–]ChinNoseJaw2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm in Germany too, and Saturday I was hanging out with my girlfriend and saw a bunch of PUAs on the street, thing I had never seen before. It was in Stuttgart, they seemed pretty successful but tbh there was a million girls available cause of the sunny weather

[–]cuztrp2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

berlin here

i just think cuz the weather is nice, they're starting to come out of their caves lol it was the first time for me too, man

[–]reborn-phoenix2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with all the posts about being confident, approaching and etc.

One thing I notice though, nowadays getting number is not the same as it was 10-15 years ago. Before it was like you got the number means she is very likely into you. Now I see girls giving numbers left and right, they can block them anyway, so I guess they don’t care. I had cases where I got the number and she ghosts me afterwards. I feel like giving number is becoming more like “hit me up in my instagram” shit. Also on Tinder, they give up number almost instantly, especially younger girls.

[–]five_eight9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

People nowadays pull out their phone and fuck with it like an incoming call from the White House, about every 30-60 seconds---if they ever put it down/away. I wouldn't feel too bad about any of this; she might have told him to pound sand.

[–]FlyingSexistPig6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

He doesn't care if he wins or loses.

[–]bigboxguy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Youtube PUAs are ugly as fuck for the most part. They are just good at socializing.

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Inb4 how many bodybuilders here who can’t even approach? I’m one of them.

[–]rnsbrum1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

5 second rule will help you

[–]Thotasaurus_Rex0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You have to overcome your approach anxiety through exposure therapy.

Search for Approach Anxiety program someone has written up a 60 day program for overcoming AA that many people have had ridiculous success with.

So far every who has finished an AA program has fucked 100+ chicks.

[–]gamsutu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thats gotta motivate you to go hard

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Go thou and do likewise.

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

First step, stop being such a butthurt pussy. First thing you should be doing is approaching. Getting rejected is awesome. You learn from your mistakes and develop a thick skin.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That is life. Such is life. It's pretty goddamn gorgeous.

[–]3chazthundergut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You should've introduced yourself. I would've been happy to show you the ropes

[–]mrpoopistan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Let's see . . .

Outcome independence + quick approach + ZFG.

I have a nephew who fits this profile to a T. Right down to the moobs. In the summer, he wears wifebeaters and is sporting full sidemoob. Spiked hair and a long, wiry-thin beard that looks like ass.

His game is flawless, though. You can't ding him with insults because he'll just Agree-and-Amplify them back with a laugh and saying, "I know! Right?" He always has something funny to say. He can take over a whole room just telling a story. People end up five minutes into a conversation with him before they realize they don't even know who the fuck he is.

Conversational fastbreak can be wicked effective, but you have to practice it to the point it becomes reflex.

[–]DatingTank0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It has NOTHING to do with knowledge. All the knowledge you need to get started, I could give you in less than 5 minutes.

So, what is REALLY holding you back. Be honest.

[–]Filmguy0000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You shouldn't feel like shit. Situations like this would always inspire me more.

[–][deleted] -14 points-13 points  (5 children) | Copy

Tf is a German 8? They're women, not dog breeds

[–]flatbushwick10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

  • proud feminist

[–]friendandadvisor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Tf you doing on this sub? We're men, not bitches.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shut up you American 2

[–]ModTheRedPike[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a catagorization of their attractiveness. We use it all the time. A German 2 would be an uggo from Germany. Humans do this sort of stuff to introduce efficiencies to speach.

Knock it the fuck off.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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