Here are some things I've been changing in my lifestyle that have worked. Follow these rules and you'll definitely earn more respect.
Stop cursing. Every time you say "fuck" or "shit" it's a turn off. Try substituting them for something else like "stuff".
Cook more/bake more if you can. Colleges usually have communal kitchens or if you're living in a dorm with a kitchen, try to cook something on the stove instead of microwaving things. I've started to bring baked goods and share them with my classmates (male & female) and people always have a positive response.
If it's nice out (spring/summer), wear a dress. Yesterday, I was walking around and I had a female stranger at Chipotle compliment me along with my two male classmates. If you make the effort, people notice.
Spend less time on your phone when you walk around & smile. It's so easy to walk around campus, have resting bitch face, and be on your phone. Don't be that girl. You might be that girl and not even realize it. Take more time out to walk without your phone. I've practiced smiling at strangers when I walk and I've been getting compliments and guys are more willing to ask me questions, tourists are more willing to ask me for directions (I live in a big city), and guys talk to me more.
Become interested in something on campus where you're involved with men (aside from baking, artsy stuff). I've been going to pick-up soccer games and been watching more soccer matches to learn more about my favorite teams. I've also been upping my language game and been learning more German and French since those are my favorite two languages. Watching soccer is fun but I also get to surround myself with quality guys who are athletic/masculine.
Never have sex before you know that you're in an exclusive, committed thing. Know that as a woman, you're the gatekeeper of sex and when you give that up too easily, it's hard for a guy to actually see you more as a plate. This was the toughest lesson I had to accept but it's so true.
Never tell a guy that you want to "go watch a movie" because that's basically code for sex before you've established boundaries. You're going to end up having sex.
On Facebook, don't take any pictures with red solo cups, drinking, partying, spring break pictures, etc. It's trashy and if you have any delete them even if there's just one of them up there. You will differentiate yourself between 90% of the women of on your campus. Also, selfies are kinda dumb.
This is kinda debatable but I've stopped initiating kissing when and if I go out on a date with someone. I honestly believe that if the guy is really into you, he'll kiss you first assuming you've given out all the right signs.
Skincare is important. Go to a dermatologist and get your acne/eye bags/other skin problems treated so you look good naturally.
In college, you're going to be tempted to join Greek life, go to fraternities, and go out to bars/clubs. Now, even though I'm a fan of Greek life and I have friends in sororities, none of them have ever met their boyfriends at a fraternity party even though some of their bf's might be Greek.If you do join a sorority, learn about their reputations. Just remember that any place with alcohol is never conducive to meeting your future bf.
Having a boyfriend is never your end goal. You must keep improving yourself as a woman and that's gonna take time.
I stopped drinking two months ago for good. I went from being drunk at pregames to drinking a beer or two to quitting. It's been a journey but honestly, l don't regret the decision. I think it's okay to have alcohol every now and then but honestly, I think I'm better without it.
Don't date a guy based on looks alone and don't justify your plate status because the guy you're seeing is hot. He's hot and he knows it. And chances are, if you're a plate and he doesn't want to commit to you, he probably isn't committing to you or anyone. Again, if you go into something with the intentions of wanting an LTR, leave with those same intentions.
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