Why do girls throw themselves at you when you are cocky?

Humble confident is better for long term gain, arrogant cocky is better for short term gain.

This isn’t just with women, it’s works across the board with most elements of life.

Read or reread 48 laws and you’ll see this play out throughout history. Many laws have a reversal that strikes the balance between arrogant confident and humble confident.

Various thoughts:

Arrogant cocky instills short term fear in enemies and boldness within self. But even King’s fall to a peasant who plays the game slow and waits for the right moment for an assassination. So often arrogant confidence people lose long term when they pick a big fight with the wrong humble confident person. The humble confident conceals his strength and strikes hard with the right timing. Think David and Goliath.

All the masters of any trade end up humble confident. When you’ve mastered an art and can beat everyone, you have no need to brag or use words to instill fear. Your reputation precedes you. You only waste energy posturing and using arrogant confidence. Think about how masters of martial arts are always portrayed as humble confident and easily beat the arrogant confident, younger, stronger opponent with a single small blow to a weak spot.

But rarely do you become a master without some early arrogant confidence. If nothing else, the belief that you can become master against all odds and opponents is a sort of arrogant confidence of its own.

So subconsciously, people see is great potential in the arrogant confident. While seeing actualized greatness in humble confidence.

Women, especially young, attractive, middle class women LOVE to chase potential. So they date the med student. He’s deep in debt and makes nothing while working his ass off, but he has serious potential in the next decade. They want to have picked the rising star and ride the wave of hard times to get big rewards in the future. (Especially since they can’t attract the already established masters and their value will decrease quickly with time.)

While the attractive girl that comes from a wealthy, established upper class family will often chase the already established man 10, even 20 years her senior.

Arrogant confident will often get the panties wet(short term gain). But humble confident attracts the high SMV LTR(long term gain).

This is partly why Tomassi discusses men’s SMV only increasing with age. And generally, why men should marry in their mid thirties rather than earlier.