I showed up to askMRP about to throw in the towel. I had spent 12 years with a woman who would seemingly refuse to fall in line and follow my leadership. I was in shape, made good money, was a good dad, fucked well, dressed well and got a lot of attention from women. I still had no frame with my wife and she didn’t respect me. She would run her mouth, swear at me and consistently display really shitty behavior. I had really good beta qualities but because of my lack of frame and consistent strong alpha qualities her anger towards me only increased. She would hate me for my six pack and six figures and she would tell me I was a made man who had no value and was nothing without her. She was a harpy disrespectful cunt.
It was all my fault.
Even though I managed to do a bunch of things right they were mostly just beta improvements and I still had no frame. In addition to lacking alpha qualities I had plenty of bad beta behaviors ruining all of the good things I did. I reinforced really bad behaviors and reaped the shitty prizes. I stopped most of the beta behaviors because they weren’t helping and I was tired of being controlled by my need for validation. Because of my nice guy tendencies, I didn’t feel like I had value unless I was making my wife cum on the regular. I wasn’t doing what I wanted but was focused on her pleasure. She was the prize. I couldn’t wait to fuck her at night and she knew it very well. I had almost zero OI. I made sure to tell her how much I needed her and desired her. I allowed her to control me because I was weak and lacked mission outside of fucking her. I was a codependent beta who needed his wife to fuck him in order to feel good about himself. I got plenty of sex, but at what cost? I wasn’t the prize and I was a needy bitch. Beta bux can get you laid, but she wasn’t my slut and she controlled me with sex.
My wife started to despise me and I could tell her desire for me was waning. I knew something was wrong but I didn’t know what to do. I thought solving the problem via beta bux could be the right idea but historically she would become harpy within a short period of time after a big purchase or vacation etc. I was losing control and desire, I was lost. I was running out of ideas, and knew I couldn’t endure this forever. I was going to break.
Then I was schooled on game and frame by someone who has mastered the techniques and things started shifting back in my favor. /u/alpha-zach This shit changed my life because I was always intuitively gaming but I didn’t know the rules. I had really good frame in business, with family and my children but very little with my wife. Once I knew that frame existed and could be built like muscle, I became obsessed. My mission was to gain frame in every facet of life. The hardest place to make gains in frame was still with my wife. She is a formidable opponent concerning banter and shit testing. She knew how to push my buttons and get me to break frame.
Wednesday night my wife cursed me out for a half an hour or so. I had to fall back on STFU and endure an ear beating from a very emotional woman. I said nothing and remained unfazed. I was prepared for a massive shit test, and I passed. I sat on the couch reading and she huffed and puffed her way upstairs to the bedroom alone. I knew this was going to happen and I didn’t want to reward her shit behavior by going upstairs to fuck her. Normally, this is exactly what I would have done. I finished my drink, finished what I was doing and went upstairs. I fell asleep in seconds while she seethed in anger watching some bullshit on Netflix next to me.
I reset every morning. I loved her and served her, but didn’t give her any specific attention unless her attitude changed. We didn’t do our normal hangouts and most of our talk was logistics. She tried desperately to gain back control with nasty shit tests and tried everything she could to get me to break frame. I was the oak she punched until her knuckles bled and her arms grew weary. She realized it wasn’t hurting me and decided it was more advantageous to join the team. If all else fails she always fucks the alpha. At the end of the night, she kindly and submissively asked me to fuck her. I happily obliged. 2 days of no sex gets her all riled up and we had some really hot animalistic sex.
If you just had a great night with your woman don’t rest. Tomorrow she will wake up and might be in a shitty mood for no reason. You will have to game her again tomorrow and fix her feelz. You must remain constantly vigilant, maintain frame and game your woman every day if you want to keep things moving in the right direction. Don’t ever slack or slow down because your hypergamous little woman is going to search out the smallest chink in your armor where she can attack. Once a woman has tasted it they won’t settle for anything less than an alpha who gives no fucks and dicks them down at the end of the night. I have spoken to people who have been doing this shit for many years and this truth doesn’t change. They will always search for weakness and if they find any bitch in you, they will attack.
Edit: This was over the course of 2-3 months.