noticing a pattern in my wife responding to my new red pill aware life

dll142 · 2019-04-01T14:44:13+00:00

Standard behavior.

One note if she used the exact words "I forgot, your needs and wants come first... " ... did you talk about fight club? Or just verbalize something she should have picked up on via action.

If she's paraphrasing then...ok. But if you literally told her with your mouth "My needs and wants come first".

Waaaaaaahhh

STFU

pussykiller009 · 2019-04-01T14:55:40+00:00

She's mad because she's not first in your priorities... you are. This is normal - just don't do anything stupid and STFU or you'll set everything back (ask me how I know!).

One thing I would caution about is over-doing DNGAF with her... it was my big mistake where I was just being an ass and not providing ANY comfort. This was my fear in slipping back into faggot needy behavior. Make sure you have a balance in your relationship.

helaughsinhidden · 2019-04-01T15:17:44+00:00

When addicts are weaned off of a drug, there becomes a point when it's still their blood stream, but in much smaller doses. When this happens, normally the addict goes and gets another bag, drink, smoke, or another blue pill.

Or, you are like a captain that has always sailed by the coast, always watching the shoreline for navigation. You now have a compass instead and the Blue Pill Mountains that used to validate your direction have just gone out of reach of your telescope. The wind just caught your sails and the current is taking you away.

Either way, you are feeling that point of no return. Your at a point where you could turn back away from permanent change. The twinge of your familiar withdrawal still making you a bit shaky. Just beyond the horizon, past the jitters, you see a new you that isn't just role playing, but is a different person, one in charge of his destiny.

No doubt, it is new, even scary. The rules are different, boundaries have been removed, and you aren't sure what new dangers and pitfalls are in front of you. Crew may try to mutiny the boat or jump off and swim back if they don't trust the "new you". Addicts usually lose ALL their friends when they get clean.

STAY THE COURSE!

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2019-04-01T14:43:30+00:00

Ah this old chestnut. Ya that's her bumping up against your frame, it's a test to see if you will open your big fuckin mouth and engage the hamster. You pass, you didn't, you came here to get roasted. You win! This what I do.

I give her this look, and all I hear is this song comming out of her mouth

Then I laugh.

[deleted] · 2019-04-01T20:05:13+00:00

Seems pretty accurate and is something I got aswell.

First it was push-back at me going to the gym. I didn't budge and 6+ months later she is now clearing time for me KNOWING i will be going to the gym and will schedule her events around me returning from the gym.

When i started going out socially, with what would be considered a 'club', the same resistance was put up... 2+ months later she is no longer putting up resistance

RPWolf · 2019-04-02T13:03:10+00:00

This is normal behavior. She is trying to figure out what the fuck is going on. My wife did the same thing. Now however everything filters through me. An example being, "RPWolf I have this work thing, I would like you to come with me, unless you had somethign planned thats not on the calendar." or "I'll go pick up the kids so you can lift." etc.

When you start putting yourself first and she sees you won't bend on it, it becomes the new norm.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-04-01T15:27:03+00:00

It’s normal. She’s pissed because billy beta always dropped what he was doing to be her fetching boy. You were always SO convenient & accommodating before - putting her/family first over yourself.

Why would she want that to change? She was getting all her needz met while keeping you in the unattractive/beta/faggot category- so no other woman would ever find you sexy. You were doing her a huge favor by doing all the work for her.

Hence the up-tick in shit tests and shaming tactics.

She’ll respect you more for being selfish. She didn’t give a fuck about shaming Chad about his needs & wants while he railed her back in high school on spring break.

Only Betas get shamed. Assholes get respected.

hack3ge · 2019-04-01T15:05:01+00:00

I would get this shit all the time when she would give me a hard no and say she was tired and I said cool I'm not going to go out for a bit. 100% of the time I'd get the you are a selfish asshole, you don't care about me, all you care about is yourself, etc. It's just her expressing her feelz that she isn't the center of your world anymore - funny thing is she didn't like being the center of your world anyway. I also got the you didn't ask for permission to go out - that was a funny one.

Honestly its all just mouth noise - I love the asshole stuff because its so much fun to fuck with. I tell her to call me sir asshole or thats mr asshole to you. One time I had her burst out laughing because I told her to stop for a second, went to the safe, grabbed a copy of my birth certificate, walked out and was like phew I had to check because for a second there I thought maybe I forgot my legal name was asshole.

You seem to be headed in the right direction so keep on moving forward - just watch out for some shitty comfort tests coming into play. They are easy to miss and I admittedly am guilty of making things rockier than they needed to be because I couldn't recognize them for what they were.

Actanonverbahellya · 2019-04-01T17:14:22+00:00

I get this reaction as well.....when walking away, it raises a whole new level of shouting from her, basically that I'm abandoning her/the relationship.....possible bpd? at that moment, I want out til things are calmer and can be discussed, but it escalates either way. Advice please.

BobbyPeru · 2019-04-01T17:21:08+00:00

You’re on the right track. STFU is the best move there... or A&A it into something sexual while you grab her.

DeplorableRay · 2019-04-01T14:38:28+00:00

I think you’re here for a pat on the back and validation. I also think this is basic side bar shit.

This entire site is full of thoughts on this very subject.

redismyfuture · 2019-04-01T14:39:37+00:00

She's sensing the dynamic change and trying to rope you back in with shaming you.

But really, why do you care what she says?

captainbourbon50 · 2019-04-01T16:00:16+00:00

Funny, I just heard this same thing this past weekend. "You are being a selfish asshole".... my response...Yes, I am.

Reach180 · 2019-04-01T18:31:09+00:00

If it's not a test and it's observably true and her honest assessment of your behavior, does that change anything for you?

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2019-04-07T00:37:07+00:00

I just can’t respect a person who lets their wife talk to them like that. The only people that might do it are adversaries. Not people I go screw later.

Your issue is frame and respect. Missing one. Haven’t earned the other. If you let your wife talk to you like this, I can only imagine what your kids are like.

I’d suggest you leave, but you’re lost with her and you’d be lost without her. You haven’t earned the right to leave her because you haven’t learned how to MRP.

friendandadvisor · 2019-04-16T19:23:40+00:00

When she says "I forget...first", that's where you say "Finally! You're a keeper! Now, pop them titties out!" No need to get all morose about it-have some fun.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-04-01T15:29:20+00:00

If you got STFU down then move on to some more advanced techniques to shit tests like Agree and Amplify or Pressure Flips. Warning, you have to be quick witted and actually possess frame or it won't work and you will look like a faggot.

I have been working on them, and its really fun to make your wife bitchy on purpose. It adds a "skill" component and makes her being a bitch and saying shitty things more like a game. I like games and I like winning.

Im still pretty shitty at them and it takes a while to even get my brain to figure it out, but when I get a good one it works wonders and gets her hamster working on my team instead of against me.

Edit: The other morning she was asking for help on her phone with Amazon or some shit. I went up behind her and wrapped my arms around her to "help". I really just wanted to rub my dick on her and maybe help a little bit. She replied with "Who says I even like you?" because she felt like being a bitch. I responded with "What are you trying to run game on me woman?"

Its probably not even a very good PF, maybe a 6/10. However, it worked. She immediately shifted into a girly attitude, felt silly and joined my frame. She had no comeback and was sweet as pie after.

Title	noticing a pattern in my wife responding to my new red pill aware life
Author	dll142
Upvotes	20
Comments	34
Date	01 April 2019 02:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
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