This happened to me yesterday. I upgraded a plate due to good behavior for a while, and she has been pushing for a more serious relationship for a while.
Then ex-BF starts texting her. Long story short, he owes her a significant sum of money which she has been wanting for a while, and he invited her to lunch, supposedly to give her the money.
I, of course, thought this was BS. I said nothing until I researched this topic of girls having lunch with exes. Most just say "hard next" or "soft next" but I found another article that said to say something like "I am not thrilled about this but if you do feel you need to meet this guy for lunch in order to get the money, do the least you have to do, and you have to be back in an hour and you are making me a steak dinner that night." Basically to sound like you aren't mate-guarding. I said that and she said OK.
Now the thing about easy answers is that they sometimes don't end up easy. Our best RP answers look better in print than they usually work in real life. No, this didn't stop there. She fought with me about it. On and on she went. I finally told her that meeting an ex for lunch is not OK with me. Get the money, yes, but this ain't social hour, and the guy just wants to fuck you. I then asked her why she even wants to have lunch with an ex, what do you hope to gain? She said she doesn't want to have lunch at all. I said, if you don't want to, then don't, just get the money and leave. She didn't like that. She fought more and more. Brought up other shit about me. You know how women do that shit. She just wouldn't shut up about it. I just told her the same answer over and over again, stood my ground.
That night she almost refused sex with me. I turned that around and we did fuck, and she apologized the next morning. She met the guy, saying she was just getting the money from him and that's it. She was gone for a *lot* longer than I thought she should have been though.
So at this point, I am waiting for her to tell me how the meeting with her ex went. She has not said a word, and I haven't asked, and most of my RP sense says not to. What would you do?