I've always been the aloof kind of guy, and that attracted many girls. Point is, I never fucked any of those girls because I was scared to escalate and show desire.

I thought that showing interest meant giving away all my power. Perhaps the difference is in how you show interest.

"You look interesting and I want to meet you". Are you needy when telling this? Or is your body language and tone of voice displaying you are the prize, giving her the opportunity and not the other way around? Are you displaying a taking mentality, or giving?

These are the questions that should answer my question itself.

In the last week, I decided to approach girls and showing interest since the beginning. Opening with the line above.

The results were astonishing. TRP made me believe that showing interest is a no-no. But honestly, while the aloof attitude works, I realised I was fucking no women. Yes, I was attracting them, but at the end of the day, "Am I fucking them or not?". The response was no. I wasn't fucking anybody.

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"You look interesting and I want to meet you"

3 girls on whom I used this line (in a club):

1 was completely receptive and I managed to kiss her after 2 mins of talking to her. She was an 8/10.

Another girl, an HB9 (model like) was neutral in the beginning, but I showed too much interest in multiple channels of communication. She probably has noticed my level of investment higher than her. That backfired and she was really unsure when I asked her "Let's go sit somewhere so I can know you better" and I just walked away.

I knew at heart that with hot women you must be aloof and treat them like shit. So perhaps, I should have said that line "You look interesting and I want to meet you" with a difference in the body language and tone of voice. Displaying interest in the verbal communication but disinterest in the non verbal one. I guess this is the practical way of "I'm just giving you an opportunity".

Showing interest in multiple layers of communication (smiling too much, looking too invested and willing to know her way too much) backfired.

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Now, I want to know, can someone clarify this thing of "not showing interest" ?

When I read Models 1 year ago it looked to me like the perfect blue-pill seduction book, but now that I gained more experience, it actually seems the best book ever which simplifies instead of making everything harder.

I've read over 20 books on game and the ones that seemed to be more helpful were the ones that affirmed you have to show interest and no neediness.

Any book that teached the aloof attitude just brought me to inaction. Instead of approaching, I was sitting trying to get noticed by women and expecting them to approach me. Instead of escalating, I was showing disinterest and negging them. Yeah, that got me no pussy.

What's your experience? Aloof attitude faking disinterest or displaying honest desire with a take it or leave it attitude?

How do you find balance?

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