I wanted to get some input and thoughts on what the rule is related to cleaning the house up when first beginning the red pill journey.
I’m currently in an LTR where I started out as dominant and alpha and slowly progressed into beta tendencies as the relationship when on. Failed many shit tests, showed too much emotion and insecurity etc.
We moved in together very quickly.
Things are reasonably good outside of that and I still have maintained some dominance. Started reading about MRP about a month ago and NMMNG and have been working to implement it into my life.
Initially I made the mistake of coming across as an asshole so I slowed the process down and it’s been working much better. TIP: When implementing things initially, too quick will lead to major pushback from her and it’s important not to come off as a total jerk to her.
One area I’m curious about is the cleaning of the house. I’ve tried searching and have gotten conflicting information from various posts where some FRs talk about how they just took charge and did it all because they wanted a clean house and it was important to them and other posts have discussed that cleaning the house is a negative thing.
Sure it is more of a woman’s role but what happens in the following case:
To me, a clean house is extremely important. I need to live in a clean environment with relatively minimal clutter. If I let things pile up and get out of order, It will eventually start to have a negative impact in my mood and this can parlay into other area of my life.
When I lived on my own, in addition to keeping things organized during the week (put dishes away, laundry in hamper etc) every Saturday or Sunday I would wake up and do a relatively deep clean of the house. Lysoling counters, washrooms, wood polish on desks, vacuuming the floors.
Now, I still like to maintain that but the issue I’m having is that she has no issue with the house getting cluttered throughout the week. Dog toys on the floor, dishes at the counter or unemptied dishwasher loads, papers left out on the coffee table, glasses at the bedside etc. I’ve brought it up and she says it doesn’t bother her.
This leads to me either ignoring it and letting the house get cluttered during the week so by Friday it looks a mess or picking up after her mess to keep it organized. I then wake up and do my deep clean on Saturday to get it back into shape. Usually I ignore it because I’m exhausted working 12 hour days and want to relax once I’m home.
I have mentioned it but she wakes up later than me and I like to have it clean early so I can go about my day.
Tomorrow I want to go on a six hour hike. I’m exhausted (working 60 hour weeks right now) but I feel I need to clean the house when I get home tonight so I can go hiking tomorrow and if I don’t, I’ll come home and it won’t be cleaned. She may tidy the kitchen counter but the deep clean I like to do won’t be done.
Now, I’m new to RP so I want to be looked at as the leader. I expect a clean house. Is the appropriate handling of this to simply keep the house clean, do my cleaning, and hope she will eventually get the idea and follow suit?