For weeks my wife has been talking about going to see her half brother's son's new baby girl. She has a big family and is intent on keeping ties, so obligations come up frequently to spend time with them. I've always dutifully accompanied her. But whenever she brought up going to visit this baby I said I didn't want to.
Yesterday she was getting ready to go, an hour and a half's drive, and I still said no. She went without me and took our infant son. I stayed home and got some work done. Heard nothing from her other than a text to say she'd arrived and our son was ok.
When she got back she didn't say hello, didn't talk, looked past me. I plated up some food I'd made and gave it to her while she breast fed out son. She thanked Me, but after eating went on a tirade about how I only care about my own happiness, how my selfishness had permanently affected the relationship etc. Money is tight currently, so she found a way to bring that in and bemoan that I never give her money for 'just woman things '.
I've been listening to a lot of Patrice who says you should explain a woman's behaviour to her. So I told her that these obligations are tyrannical since they force me to either be unhappy fulfilling them or unhappy getting the fallout. This may have been a mistake since she refused to see it that way.
She tried to make me sleep downstairs but I told her it was my house and bed, I can sleep where i like. So she spent a while making as much noise as possible with as much light on as possible since she knew I'd be up at 5:30 For gym and work.
How to handle this? Simple STFU and then what?
Also, how do I avoid this in the future for simply not doing things I don't want to do every weekend I have some actual free time?