Realised that I was enough already, but here's what happened

FereallyRed · 2019-04-10T18:00:13+00:00

Once you realize that's it's actually pretty easy to get women they stop becoming so valuable to you.

You achieve a high supply, so your demand is unnecessary.

This happens when you make women your goal.

You reach that goal.

Done.

You need to find a new goal.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-04-10T20:28:43+00:00

When I found out TRP almost 2 years ago, I truly started believing that to be high SMV you have to look like a fitness model and be a millionaire. That brought me to perfectionism and constant depression.

This is 100% about self-sabotage and learned helplessness. Particularly the "Incel" or Nice-Guy™ brand of it.

At this point what you were reading was just more fodder to keep your "Rationalization Hamster" running around in it's exercise wheel.

More specifically, the above is a major Outcome-Expectation, and outcome expectations are just Premeditated Resentment and Bitterness.

Moreover this represents Black-and-white type thinking, which is a denial of the reality of a world which is sophisticated, confusing, we probably don't understand and probably never will. The reality is that everything is a spectrum and shades of grey, and random chance and probability is more important than cause and effect or categories.

Black and White thinking is another way the brain tries to deny and rationalize beliefs of helplessness and victimhood.

Learned helplessness is a habit that is a lot harder to fix because it develops in early childhood and involves basic emotional attachment.

Many otherwise successful people struggle with such inner beliefs, Imposter Syndrome for example.

And I also see guys uglier than me, and also skinny, getting laid more than me.

This is because they give far fewer shit than you, aren't tedious. They have fewer habits that remind women of the things they like least about themselves like victimhood, helplessness, neediness, desperation, bitterness, etc.

Remember that women have a gatherer, opportunist mentality and they'll take the best looking fruit they can find right now. But they may change their mind if they find something better tomorrow. All they care us that they're hungry or horny right now.

Whereas men have a hunter mentality. They're looking to find the biggest, slowest, fattest, oldest animal in the herd because they want the prey that has the least chance of getting away. This is because hunting is risky and dangerous. Most hunts didn't end in success if all you had was spears, slings, rocks, and clubs. So you care about the best odds of success and the best payoff at the end.

This also means committing to the woman that's most likely to have healthy children and least likely to fuck around when you're off hunting, or kick you out of her grass hut when she's hormonal.

So in the previous instance, no offense, but you're assuming women think like men do and feel it's not worth the effort unless they're stalking after the absolute biggest, fattest, tastiest buck in the herd.

You don't understand that women don't need to invest that much effort to get a guy interested to begin with. They'll just take the best guy that shows up right now.

I realised that the only reason I wasn't getting laid was my lack of action.

Yep. Learned helplessness.

I believed that a great physique would have got me women without approaching. Honestly, that never happened.

Because you still viewed yourself as a victim and an outsider, and acted in ways that conformed to that belief.

I know it sounds mad, but I now miss the days when I was depressed as fuck, because those were the days when I was burning inside, and I used to use that intense force to improve myself.

Living in the past and romanticizing about the past is another common form of learned helplessness.

The funny thing is that I didn't even get laid.

Because you're still too pussy.

I just started seeing how women are receptive if you only try to approach them. That's quite fucked up for me to feel like "I made it" when in reality I didn't. It's just the beginning, in reality.

The quitter mentally hasn't stopped by any means. You're just trying to find new excuses to be a quitter because you figured out the old ones were dumb as shit.

Light's green now kid. Eyes on the road Get your engine back in gear then take your foot off the bake and put it on the goddamn gas pedal. Nobody waiting behind you cares about your hangups. Get your dick in the hole like literally every single one of your ancestors did. Fake it until you make it. Or else pull the fuck over and let everyone else behind you pass.

Go fuck 10 girls, them come back and ask us this same question, Short-Timer.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-04-10T23:20:44+00:00

This is where you discover the end point of Red Pill, is not women.

They are a part of a man's life. You've still been in the matrix, looking through a narrow lens.

Red Pill is much more. Self actualization and mastery in ALL areas.

Open the lens, look deeper. See how far the rabbit hole goes.

flapjacksrbetter · 2019-04-11T01:30:08+00:00

Im at the stage where I still havent cold approached a single girl. Been in this sub for months but have yet to apply it. Approach anxiety is a bitch and i know the only way to get rid of it is to approach

Title	Realised that I was enough already, but here's what happened
Author	lifeisweirdasfuck
Upvotes	15
Comments	8
Date	April 10, 2019 5:56 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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