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Broke up with my girlfriend after she tried breaking up with me 4 times

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April 12, 2019
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Hey everyone I'm going to make this short, but I need guidance. My ex (Female 22) is a 10 she did modeling on the side, is in school for nursing, worked as a hair dresser making good money and was a great loyal woman. She was always there for me as a partner, friend and playmate until about a year ago. We have been dating for 3 years and until recently things have been great. Things became sour when she started nursing school full time and cut down on work hours. When this happened she was diagnosed with depression and panic attack disorder. She then was diagnosed with a stress related badder disease that reduced our sex life. When I tried to be there for her she pushed me away. There was no other guy in our relationship (I know for a fact). However the stress was too hard on her. Her parents did not like me either because I was kind of an asshole in the being of our relationship. They aren't the nicest people but I tried anyway. My girlfriend during this time wanted love notes, fancy dinners and constant reassurance I wasn't seeing anyone else. I gave her all those things to her and more. She still tried pushing me away even when I tried my hardest. When she pushed me away she tried breaking up with me 4 times. Every time I ran back to her and chased her really hard. After begging she would typically take me back. FYI this was very out of character for me. I'm a pretty alpha guy that works as a high level personal trainer and has women all around me. I would find a rebound if I wanted but I was in love with her. And another thing, I tried to be there for her when she had those health issues, but she pushed me away and became very disrespectful. I confronted her on it and she twisted it and made it my fault. I started to think I was in an emotionally abusive relationship because nothing I said mattered to her. It became toxic and even if I wasn't in an abusive relationship, it wasn't healthy. So she tried to break up with me again. I confronted her on if it was permanent this time and she couldn't give me an answer. I put more pressure on her about it and she finally cracked. Telling me I was disrespectful because I didn't think it was permanent. After that text I blocked her on all social media and haven't looked back. It's 3 day later now and Idk if I made the right decision. I do love her, but I cannot have my emotions played with any longer. Or disrespected and called names, told I don't care, I don't listen... Etc.

Any advice would be much appreciated. I was told this page is the best of this type of stuff. If you need any more info, I'll reply promptly.

Thanks


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Title Broke up with my girlfriend after she tried breaking up with me 4 times
Author jmaz94
Upvotes 7
Comments 59
Date 12 April 2019 04:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/225152
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/bcfjc9/broke_up_with_my_girlfriend_after_she_tried/
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[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando63 points64 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'm a pretty alpha guy

I once knew a guy thought he was pretty alpha despite the fact that he was a virgin until he was 22, had a porn addiction, had problems performing in bed, then caught a serious case of oneitis for the first girl he had a proper relationship with and basically begged and cried to her every time she tried to dump him.

Oh, wait.. that guy was you.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

The streak continues haha

[–]tikitheman4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn dude, fuckin roasted.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Post history is a bitch.

[–]herrLitschka24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy

depression and panic attack disorder.

wanted love notes, fancy dinners and constant reassurance I wasn't seeing anyone else. I gave her all those things to her and more. She still tried pushing me away even when I tried my hardest.

breaking up with me 4 times. Every time I ran back to her and chased her really hard

begging

I'm a pretty alpha guy

Lol

[–]rpsheepdog8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey, don't forget she is a 10

[–]nabosch5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

“I’m a pretty alpha guy”

Translation

“I read a lot of AskTRP”

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

My ex (Female 22) is a 10 she did modeling on the side

Pics or it didn't happen.

We have been dating for 3 years

Your post about being a 22 year old virgin was only 2 years ago (specifically 3/11/17). You're either so alpha that you spent an entire year unable to get it up to fuck your perfect 10 unicorn girlfriend, or you're lying to a bunch of strangers on the internet.

Any advice would be much appreciated

Diagnosis: chronic oneitis for the first girl to let you have sex with her

Solution: go fuck 10 other women

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Worried about losing the 10? Go fuck five 2's.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

George Carlin approves this message

[–]Redpillbrigade1713 points14 points  (5 children) | Copy

You’re such a hero. Do you think you’ll be OK another day ? I mean she does sound like a great woman. A 10!! With a career! You have invested so much in her already. Are you going to ever get anyone quite like her ?

[–]FoxShitNasty832 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck off is she a 10, they are as rare as hen's teeth. Pics please

[–]testy681 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ask one of her other boyfriend's to post a pic. She will be wearing less in those photos. 🤣

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy

I fucking love, love notes. Like:

“I wanna pin you up against the wall, rip you pants off and fuck you so hard I have to repair the sheetrock when we are done!”

[–]becoming_alpha11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Who are you kidding Red? You'd just pay someone to fix the wall.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

BAHH!!!

Thank you, needed the laugh.

[–]Tbonesupreme3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she doesn't respond "what is sheetrock?" issa dude.

[–]QueenSlapFight0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If I actually caved in to writing love notes, it would read "I love sandwiches, and not writing love notes"

[–]becoming_alpha8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm a pretty alpha guy

OK, great. You're off to a good start.

My girlfriend during this time wanted love notes, fancy dinners and constant reassurance I wasn't seeing anyone else. I gave her all those things to her and more.

Wait, no. That sounds a little beta.

She still tried pushing me away even when I tried my hardest. When she pushed me away she tried breaking up with me 4 times.

Wow, pushing away when you're such a nice guytm I'm shocked! Four times she tried to break up, then realized what she had with you and sucked your cock until you took her back?

Every time I ran back to her and chased her really hard. After begging she would typically take me back.

Wait. This doesn't sound alpha at all. You sound pathetic. You grovel and beg and she grudgingly "takes you back." Not just once, but 4 times. This doesn't sound out of character, it's a pattern. You're a needy, whiny, groveling excuse for a man.

I'm sure it was all fire and passion after that, right?

It became toxic

And that surprises you why? She clearly did not want to be in a relationship with you, and relented only to stop your whining and begging.

There was no other guy in our relationship (I know for a fact).

No, you don't. But that doesn't matter.

It's 3 day later now and Idk if I made the right decision.

You didn't make a decision. She did 5 fucking times. You just finally got it through your thick skull she doesn't want to be with a whiny, begging, excuse for a man who is addicted to porn and doesn't lead.

So yes, young jmaz, you're in the right place and you're a complete and utter mess. That girl is gone, stop thinking about her. You want to fix your relationships in the future? Fix yourself first. Start with the sidebar and #1 on your list is reading NMMNG. Do it now.

[–]hack3geRed Beret8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

You fucking faggots and your non married relationships - you don’t even know what hard mode is. You have probably been broken up more than together. An LTR is just a fancier plate - fucking next and find one of the other 10 million pussies on this planet.

Fuck if I was 22 and single and knew about RP....

[–]Redpillbrigade173 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yep. “Youth is wasted on the young”

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I thought more about this and I decided its better that these faggots at 22 are this dumb because it makes picking up the young girls even easier. This guy's ex is the type of chick that you could get to fuck in your car within the hour because shes so used to his beta faggotry.

[–]Grimsterr0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

10 million? There's about 3.5 billion females on this planet, taking out the underage there's gotta be at least 2 billion legal pussies on this planet.

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even better - pussy is more abundant than I thought!

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hope you enjoyed your turn with her.

[–]Redpillbrigade172 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like not even that. OP too green and too blue pill to understand concept and how to treat women in order to enjoy them. I was there myself for many years and frankly I’m still learning.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You fail shit tests like a boss and then are surprised at the results. Hilarious. Back to square one for you. Oh, and that's shit's done, so don't look back. Fix yourself and find another; in fact, find a few others.

[–]CrypticRekon5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let's see....too far in her frame and doing what she wants and how she wants it....good job Beta Billy. She sounds like a head case, and you're just her emotional tampon. You made a good decision, but you have a serious case of oneitis with her

[–]rpsheepdog5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey everyone I'm going to make this short

LOL

Congrats, you felt your nuts and broke up with your oneitis. Yeah you have feelings, yada yada, but you made a net positive move, enjoy being single.

[–]johnn20154 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don’t worry about blocking her. She won’t notice.

[–]frontiermarine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

savage

[–]johnn20152 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

But did you really beak up with her though? Looks like it’s all hers.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is probably the gayest post I have read in a while.

Any man who must say "I am the King" is no true king. Replace king with alpha.

[–]FoxShitNasty832 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

"hail to the king, hail to the one... "

[–]ImNotSlash0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

🤘🤘

[–]Rogue684862 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

The only play you have is to withdraw and get your shit together.

Google out of the friend zone. Read the sidebar and lift. You cant maintain a 6 in your condition.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or an erection.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have you been to the doc lately, dude?

I think you're coming down with a terrible case of whathefuckyourpussy oneitis.

If it isn't that, I can refer you to Dr. Chad McFuckyourgirl

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m a prettty alpha guy

Yet, there’s a hundred “she’s and “hers” in there

[–]johnn20152 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Now that I’m done making fun of you. I have digest that you might have some truth to I am alpha statement.

You and most guys all started out with some alpha qualities. It comes from the lack of neediness. You never had her so you know you didn’t need her in the beginning. You can take it or leave it. After time you “fell in love” or aka develop onitis and you relax into your betaness self. You cater to her needs instead of yours. You don’t want to deal with shit test so you don’t rock the boat. Your emotions rise and fall with hers because you are not a rock. You fail as man left and right in her eyes. You lack a sense of self.

Now moving forward, you need to drop the idea of getting back with her. You need to improve for you. Read the sidebar. Develop who you are as a man and you might have a better relationship in the future. If she comes back it won’t be because you try to get her back. Trust me when I say build yourself and they will come.

[–]helaughsinhidden4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sooooooo much fail here. I don't know where to begin. Oh, yes I do! The sidebar!
https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/config/sidebar

You put her on a pedestal, chased her approval and now she hates you for it.

.....And you use porn so much you broke your dick? That's attractive!

[–]Tbonesupreme1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she hasn't given in, yet - that just means you haven't tried your hardest.

You haven't given your all until there's a PPO.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have you ever tried to organize a room that is REALLY disastrous and you get paralyzed because you don't even know where to start? Thats you... and all your problems

Thankfully the answers are in the sidebar books. You can read them if you want... or not... but your answers are in there

[–]JCX_Pulse1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

If this sub reddit wasn’t so hated by the hippies that flood Reddit as whole, every new guy coming in here claiming to be alpha would be immortalized in r/murderedbywords

Self-proclaimed alpha never goes over well in here.

Now, to rescue this from being a low quality post I’ll say that the good news is OP set a boundary and is sticking to it. Bad news is I don’t know if he came here to be validated as an alpha because he is a trainer who works around lots of women and dated a 10 but still managed to ghost her, an immature move in and of itself, after she tried to break up with him several times.

Not sure what real advice you were looking for here. This chick doesn’t want you, or is forcing you to break up with her because she is too weak to do it or doesn’t want to be the bad guy.

Get your mental game tight. Learn and be humble. The group here wont hold your hand to anything but the fire of truth and if you can take the heat they will mold you into a real man.

[–]jmaz94[S] -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

I wasn't looking to be validated. I explained the alpha stuff to explain how I've been out of character with this girl. She cut my balls off and I needed guidance similar to what you said. Thank you, so far you have the best answer.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

What alpha stuff did you explain? If you're pulling hot women, the chances are you are good looking and fit. That doesn't make you alpha, that makes you good looking and fit. Everything else about you - that is everything else that is not superficial (your looks) - screams of Beta... porn addiction, pedastalising women, developing oneitis.. all of these traits are Beta to the core.

You're getting ripped apart here because we can see through the veneer. And you are getting ripped apart by women because they can see through the veneer. You're not Alpha at all. You're a fucking beta boy. If you were alpha, you would at least know how to stand up for yourself, but you can't - you're a classic Nice Guy.

You came in here looking for advice and you got it. Then you cherry picked the one answer you wanted and fucked off over to r/relationships_advice . Your biggest problem - and one you seem incapable or unwilling to face - is that she or any other girl isn't the problem. Your biggest problem is you.

You said you would reply promptly in here but you didn't. You didn't like the advice you got and you'll probably never post in here again because you're such a fucking pussy.

Here's a joke for you before you go...

What do you call a good looking Beta when he gets old and his looks start to fade?

A Beta.

[–]JCX_Pulse2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just to clarify, she didn’t cut them off, you cut them off and blamed her. Accepting responsibility for your actions is very important to understanding that you are the one in control of your life and what happens in it. You gave up your power, now you must make sure that never happens again

[–]IV-IVm-I1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She didn't cut your balls off. Only you can do that. You cut them off and handed them to her.

[–]IV-IVm-I1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You made the right decision. Continue no contact for as long as needed for you to get over it. You're gonna get torn apart here bro. She wanted out a long time ago and you didn't take the hint. 4 times she wanted out and OVERTLY made you aware. You made a lot of wrong moves. Welcome.

[–]Luck-671 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Time to start banging all of those alleged women you are doing the personal training with.

Slightly off topic, for future reference: as a general rule hairdressers are bat shit crazy and or downright flaky/goofy. I’m convinced it’s all the chemicals they’re exposed to.

^ Edit: “Moreso” than women in general

[–]jmaz94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's hilarious, I agree with you.

[–]Bedtimeshine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your gf is not a 10. Youve never even been within 5 miles of a 10. If she was a 10 she would be walking the Victoria’s Secret catwalk. There are maybe a thousand 10s walking this earth. Stop it. I can’t even give you advice when you start off saying your gf is a 10. No man on any red pill subs has ever had a 9 or 10 in their lives in anyway shape or form. Ever.

[–]dandar46001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

After that text I blocked her on all social media and haven't looked back.

What is this post then? You're still looking back. The sidebar lists The Rational Male - The best of year one. In there you will find IRON RULES. Rule #7 answers your question.

[–]idigbbw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

no matter how good she looks, somebody, somewhere, is sick of her shit.

shes doing you a favor.

[–]civilizedfrog0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Her parents did not like me either because I was kind of an asshole in the being of our relationship. They aren't the nicest people"

Lol

After reading this and seeing your post history, I can see that you have hard nexted your imaginary gf.

[–]seedster50 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck reading all that. Go to the relationship sub. Leave the bullshit out of here



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