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How to deal with knowledge that my ltr gets groped/grabbed at the club

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April 18, 2019

My ltr is 18 and a fresher so when she started wanting to clubbing with her friends I didnt want to be a controlling douchebag and stop her.

I made a deal with her that she could only go as long as she stays sober.

Anyway pretty much every night she goes out gets groped/ grabbed by random dudes and its fucking with my head. Is this normal behaviour at clubs? I have never been to a club before so I have no idea whats the norm there.


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Title How to deal with knowledge that my ltr gets groped/grabbed at the club
Author 2fassy
Upvotes 70
Comments 168
Date 18 April 2019 10:44 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Carra23129 points130 points  (24 children) | Copy

You are 18. Plates. Not LTRs. I hated clubbing til I turned RP and realised I could pull girls there. Don’t make the same mistake.

[–]moppalady16 points17 points  (21 children) | Copy

Nah clubs are great if you go for the music rather than to get fucked up

[–]Modredpillschool24 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy

Older you will hate what you've done to your ears.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good money wasted on a pit of sorrow.

[–]Requad3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm 23 and the tinnitus from all the music/concerts I've been/listened to at high volume is literally the worst thing ever.

[–]StopGaming12340 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

How so? I am a huge electronic musics fan and travel huge distances to special events. I also DJ myself. I wear ear protection for music artists/loud concerts on all events. Music is pretty much what defines my life.

To be honest, according to several sources I should've been completely deaf right now, considering what I have actually done to my ears. But it's actually the opposite.

The people who have tinnitus or hearing loss are retarded in my opinion. The biggest MISTAKE is listening to music with [in-ear] headphones on max. I never cross the warning area on my phone.

Furthermore I see so many people on techno, hardstyle or dubstep parties and they wear absolutely no ear protection. My ears are legit bleeding without my protection.

[–]Modredpillschool1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not a lot of people wear ear protection to night clubs. If you do, good for you. Most don't.

[–]StopGaming12340 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, I noticed that too. They will all go deaf by 25.

[–]kelticslob9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy

Club music blows

[–]moppalady14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

Depends on the club if you go to more underground events the crowd and music are much better providing you're into dance music

[–]kingofclubsmorde3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Rkingpin0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

They good for pulling?

I'm from London for reference

[–]moppalady1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you can hold a decent conversation I've found that they're more interesting to talk to so you dont have to work as hard chatting shit. But hardcore dance events are usually more populated with men rather than women. You're in London so you'll have loads of events on your door step I'm from Manchester and that's pretty good but London is agurebly the best place in the world for clubbing. (I'm really drunk so if I spell incorrectly sorry.)

[–]Aidsagain0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So you've not been to Los Angeles I take?

[–]moppalady0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No haha is it any good? I have no idea what the American clubbing scene is like?

[–]NextForever-2 points-1 points  (6 children) | Copy

Music??? Are you existing in 2019??

Even blacked on Jameson, I ain’t actively listening to the trash club’s play. You must have shit taste with all due respect 🐥

[–]moppalady0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Have you even ever been to a non meanstream club?

[–]NextForever-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy


Those don’t exist in LA.

[–]moppalady0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm pretty sure you just don't know where to look lol.

[–]NextForever0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You don’t know anything about me brudda, I’ve lived here all my life. Then again, I mainly listen to Bach/Chopin or intellectual rap and pay bills with a cello; I’m extremely biased by my perception of pure music.

The only women worth pursuing in LA at night + where the music is solid are art openings. Clubs are for clueless kids from my vantage point and I’m too selective with my plates.

[–]mistral880 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You are just a friendless nerd. Techno or hiphop clubs are everyqhere in la

[–]NextForever1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I rest my case.

[–]the13thmonk6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]kylerosa210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Making this mental adjustment once I began reading about TRP has benefitted me in more ways than I can count

[–]4thAndLong58 points59 points  (0 children) | Copy

A girl who goes to clubs isn't LTR material. She would be better suited as a plate.

[–]omega_dawg9347 points48 points  (3 children) | Copy

OP is young and has oneitis.

in an alley near the club, Chad Thundercock is gonna hammer your girl's 18 yo cervix... raw, no pullout.

she might recover... and might get a clue. but wait... what about experiencing Tyrone Dixman? after Tyrone ("mo money... mo BBC") gets thru with her, she'll be on the CC riding hard... constantly looking for that good dick attention from all these different guys.

let her go have her fun. a few STDs and abortions later, she will start her beta search. don't be that guy.

note: women don't typically calm down their CC riding until about 26. that's 8 yrs of fucking for this young lady. the first 3 inches of her pussy will resemble a war zone in Iraq after clubbing hard looking for new dix.

[–]spndxwra7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

🤣 the bitter truth pill right there..

[–]StopGaming12341 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where are you from? Girls in europe start as young as 14. I know girls that had double digit N count at 16-17 years.

[–]CharlesChadworth47 points48 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to find a woman with similar values. If you are not a club type, find someone who also doesnt go to clubs.

[–]MegaAlphadon204 points205 points  (34 children) | Copy

Never dated club whores, not worth the energy.

[–]Greek-God-Brody83 points84 points  (0 children) | Copy

Asking an 18 year old girl not to go to clubs is like asking her to become a man. She's not gonna do it.

[–][deleted] 53 points54 points  (30 children) | Copy

She wasnt a club whore before I started dating her which is a shame

[–]MegaAlphadon199 points200 points  (6 children) | Copy

Dump. She's about to enter into the "holy shit I didn't know I was hot and could fuck literally any guy on Earth" phase.

[–]jozefNiepilsucki76 points77 points  (2 children) | Copy

without you knowing, of course.

[–]mega_kook25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the saddest part.

[–]Casd126 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just make her wear a body cam. Problem solved

[–]truthbomb9994 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

except she can't fuck any guy on earth...she just thinks she can and wants to see how far she can take it.

[–]ChadTheWaiter10011 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Inkreddible!!! That’s so funny but true.

[–]Aidsagain4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes...even a 4 at the club will turn into an 8 in the eyes of most guys..cause of alcohol but mostly 'hard' drugs & genital shivering bass.

[–]tefllifestyle64 points65 points  (19 children) | Copy

Well u said she is 18 so she was not able to go to clubs before...

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (18 children) | Copy

She turned 18 back in september, she said she isnt the type to enjoy the nightlife while she was my plate and never went out back then

[–]Just151553 points54 points  (12 children) | Copy

An 18 year old really lacks the experience to know. You can assume she has the taste for it now and is about to discover the CC.

It really is not worth your effort to try stop it or to vet her. Sure you could try and maybe succeed, she could be one of few women who try it a few times but don’t want that life, but thats a low chance.

Demote to plate or fwb. Upgrade if you determine shes worth it.

[–]Andrew5432129 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy

Once downgraded, they never get promoted to the higher position. If girl is 18, and OP can’t join her then OP is younger than girl. Ergo, OP should be working on foundational SMV improvements and dread.

[–]DocPBJ0071 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy


[–]NoReallyItsTrue11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cock Carousel

[–]NightTripInsights8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy

It means credit card, duh s/

Nah, man. Go read the sidebar.

[–]DocPBJ0072 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Going thru it. Hoping it will get me some male frnds too! I got socially anxiety lol

Nd think red pill can help. Is tht a bad approach?

[–]Red-Lantern1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Lift. Get your weight up and your confidence will follow.

[–]StopGaming12341 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Can confirm. Started SL 5x5 at the beginning of march and just hit 100kg squat. My posture became insanely good, people suddenly complimented me on my already small changes.

I added 12kg bodyweight in the past 6 months. I changed my clothing and hairstyle. The best compliment was from my mom telling me that I look more manly. Almost shed a tear haha :')

[–]Gr33d3ater0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It’s like trying to swim upriver.

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

she said she isnt the type to enjoy the nightlife

Wasn't going to comment on this thread but this needs to be pointed at as a clear example of pay attention to what they do, not what they say.

[–]Kommanderdude 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

She was 17 when you plated her? Wtf do you live? If she’s only been plate since September when she turned 18. Then that is by no means a ltr and you are just a delusional barley functioning retard beta.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes I plated her when she was 17 I was 19. I live in the uk this is completely legal and normal

[–]tefllifestyle1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are young, if u work on it your value going to increase and u can date hotter girls so she aint work the headache

[–]LordMarkStark-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

These guys have not seen much of the world. Shit advice? Read my direct post. This sounds like a stage she is going through. Who doesn't like getting drunk at 18, its an endorphin rush, club scene, gropes without guilt.

Don't worry about her so much. Focus on yourself and don't let her steer you from that focus. There would be many many many many girls after her if you lose her. Don't sweat this. But pull your head out of her pussy. See her for what she is, an imperfect beast. Just enjoy your time with her, no need to get big dreams with her my man. Every now and then you can politely remind her about how you would like her to be, but never overdo it, keep it light and jokey, if at all, and never ever often. She is just young but don't treat her like an idiot too much.

Otherwise my advice is the same.

[–]muddynips7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Buddy of mine dated a girl who turned out to be a “dancer”. His defense was always that she was a good girl because, “she didn’t start stripping until after they started dating.” Now she’s giving handjobs for cash somewhere in Minnesota.

They are what they decide to be.

[–]tefllifestyle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah good girl lol

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Matador5830 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sure she doesn't enjoy that at all... Which is also why she keeps going.

Common sense guy, you're coming across as very bp

[–]caius10023 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been there, done that. Totally not worth it. Soft next, apply dread. Nothing else to do. Not worth it. It's simple buddy

[–]isthisalreadyused54 points55 points  (11 children) | Copy

Why are you allowing your ltr to go to clubs regularly without you?

[–]11-Eleven-1110 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because the men in here who are afraid of conflict with their girls are afraid of 'mate guarding'.

Even though whether or not they go to the club is a respect issue not a mate guarding issue.

[–]GarielBlut6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's no longer "yours" and this seems to be hard for you to grasp, it seems to me that she is going out with other guys or at least making out/fucking with them at the club. You either start "cheating" with other girls (getting plates) and be at the same ground with her and come out better or be that cucked loser that at times kisses the girls that sucked all of our cocks

[–]Reprimanded_Duck 1 points [recovered]  (14 children) | Copy

Up your testosterone injections and join the Marines.

[–]_quote 1 points [recovered]  (13 children) | Copy

Anyone who gets involved with the marines is nuts.

[–]nross3681 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy

hence why its hard

[–]_quote 1 points [recovered]  (11 children) | Copy

No, hence why it’s actually retarded. Not joking around. The marines are retarded.

[–]nross3686 points7 points  (10 children) | Copy

No. They're trained killing machines. Just as the seals. You're mistaking a caricature for the norm. You can be a smart person with dumb beliefs.

[–]tresdosjuan3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Did you just say that a marine is the same thing as a SEAL?

[–]VipKyle6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

He also said joining the Marines is hard.. don't they recruit at highschool's?

[–]nross3680 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nah. I said being a marine is like being a trained killer.

[–]_quote 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

First of all, you go ahead and join the marines, and then you can tell me about how "they are like the seals". You have no idea what you are talking about.

Second, the marines have the biggest percentage of not-normal people. That is a fact. Everyone in the military agrees.

[–]nross3680 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

God you're stupid. You've missed the point entirely.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

the marines have the biggest percentage of not-normal people. That is a fact. Everyone in the military agrees.

Can you expand on this? It sounds like my type of gossip! Thanks.

[–]_quote 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

The marines have a culture of being really mean, their basic training is the hardest, you don't get promoted as fast, the living situations are not the best, and they don't pay as many bonuses. So basically, the kind of person that the marines attract are big dumb jocks with horrible personalities. If you're a douchey football player and you don't care about your quality of life, go ahead, be a marine.

The army has a lot of dumb people too, but it is also the biggest branch of the military with the most money. You get promoted faster in the army and you get huge bonuses that are absolutely life changing for poor people. Overall, there are a lot of reasons for completely normal people to join the army. For me, I was in an active duty army band for 3 years, and then joined the army national guard band in my home state last year. If I wasn't a musician, I would have never been in any branch of the military at all.

On the topic of military bands: the army bands are by and large better than the marine bands. With the exception of the marine band in DC (which does not require the band members to go to basic training), good musicians generally don't join the marines over the army for the reasons I mentioned above. Marine musicians are jocks first and musicians second.

all in all there are plenty of that weird, horrible breed of enlisted people in all the branches of the military. But the marines have the most.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Alright! Thanks!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

More deaths from suicide rate than any other casualty... they’re definitely good at killing themselves.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]ttann7119 points20 points  (9 children) | Copy

It’s pretty standard at clubs when a chick is dancing with other dudes. To me it’s all about boundaries, and personally that’s a boundary I’m not willing to let slip (based on prior experiences as well)

[–]CaptainBW6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao. Hard next and back to the sidebar.

[–]koldkillah836 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Expect to see her pulling away very soon. You’re not going with her to the club which gives her freedom. Groping turns into grinding turns into kissing turns into sex. Meanwhile you’re at the house playing Fortnite. This sucks dude, but she is right on schedule for where she is and what she is doing. Next her or be prepared to be dropped.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Not LTR material.

The only problem here is you tried to turn a ho into a housewife.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

She was a virgin before i plated her and she had never been to a club before.

Shes just started turning into a hoe now shes got security off me

[–]AlfredKinsey2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're reading it right. Shouldn't have let it happen. It happened, though, so move on and treat this relationship casually, as she has chosen to.

[–]friendandadvisor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shes just started turning into a hoe now shes got security off me

Yes, but, to help you in the days to come, just realize that it wasn't just because it was YOU that she fucked you-she'd have fucked that fat biker with the loud Harley/Indian if you hadn't been there. She's just a woman who followed her hormones. She's nothing special.

[–]vicious_armbar 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

If a woman is your “girlfriend” she shouldn’t be going to clubs. Also if you’re under 26 you shouldn’t have a girlfriend at all.

[–]sealdream0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you think < age shouldn’t have a girlfriend?

I can think of lots of smaller reasons that add up. What’s your take?

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed14 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy

There will always be remoras trying to scoop up scraps everywhere you go.

Think how pathetic club gropers are.

Then laugh and get on with your life.

[–]Terdmuffin17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

While I completely agree with this mentality wouldn't the better advice be not to ltr a chick who knowingly puts herself in these situations on a consistent basis?

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

As Ive already mentioned ltred her long before this became an issue, I guess the real question is what my next move should be.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's 18. A child. She will continue to explore her sexuality whether she's in a LTR or not.

I think everybody grows massively between 18-22. So much new, you're an "adult", exposure to so many things... no place to LTR because neither of you know who they hell you will be in six months.

LTRing an 18 yo and being upset when she explores her sexuality is like being angry when you see a bird flying.


[–]the13thmonk4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

LTRs have boundaries

One of those should be no bars or nightlife without you

If that conflicts you walk

Or you wait around until it becomes a problem. And then next time you’ll create boundaries and walk from this very learning experience

[–]Buchloe3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Change your mind. Tell her you're not into it, and that you're not gonna date her if she keeps going to the clubs

[–]ThighSavesLives5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'll make this bright and clear since you clearly are still in denial. This relationship is over. There is no way you can save this without getting cucked. She's not getting groped unwillingly, she feels guilty about being with these other men that she is obviously enjoying, so she tells you that it's against her will. Guilt is let off because you know and she keeps getting attention from these clearly higher value guys, it's a win win for her. End this relationship now because it's been over for a minute. Or keep being in denial, doesn't effect any of us, but don't waste our time asking for advice if you're not going to take it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Im not in denial I was just explaining a few of my actions as people seemed confused.

Im going to demote her to a plate and if that doesnt work out well I will just next her. Thanks for the help

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Im going to demote her to a plate and if that doesnt work out well I will just next her. Thanks for the help

It won't work out. She'll latch onto some club dude, and drop you. The mere fact that she's going out without you means that she wants that life rather than one with you.

BTW, it doesn't matter, cuz she'll suck plenty of dicks sober, but, I'm curious: do you know if she gets drunk, or do you just take her word for it?

[–]Tiway224 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dont LTR club girls bro. It doesn’t end well. Treat them for what they are at that stage in their life. Don’t expect them to be loyal.

[–]T-P-T-W-P7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

If a woman indicates to me that she regularly visits clubs, she takes herself out of the running for anything but casual plate status. Hell I have a good amount of success at clubs the times I do go and I still stay away because I don’t like trashy women or having to worry even more so about STD’s . Honestly I don’t think chicks with boyfriends will go out of their way any more than with other places to cheat on (as in fuck someone) their boyfriends from the club, but do you know the amount of times I’ve seen a chick who is dating someone grind on and make out with other dudes, including myself and my friends? It’s like over half the time I go and I go very rarely. Clubs are generally low IQ venues and you should account for that in the women in them. Your girlfriend in all likelihood hasn’t cheated on you from going to the club. But has she done things that she wouldn’t want you seeing? At a minimum, absolutely.

[–]AuberyBitoni6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's over, boyo.

[–]SniXSniPe3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Anyway pretty much every night she goes out gets groped/ grabbed by random dudes and its fucking with my head. Is this normal behaviour at clubs? I have never been to a club before so I have no idea whats the norm there.

No, it's not--- contrary to what people on here are saying/acting like here. It does happen once in a while, but to the same girl every night? No.

[–]BusterVadge5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I didnt want to be a controlling douchebag and stop her.


I made a deal with her that she could only go as long as she stays sober.

You're being a controlling douchebag.

Anyway pretty much every night she goes out gets groped/ grabbed by random dudes and its fucking with my head. Is this normal behaviour at clubs? I have never been to a club before so I have no idea whats the norm there.

First off, try going to a club sometime... You may enjoy it. You may not. At least you can say you tried it.

Secondly if your LTR is hot, she's going to get groped by lots and lots of guys.

Spoiler alert: She likes it.

[–]jay_jay_man2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let me get this straight. Your ltr gets up every weekend and goes to a club where she knows she'll get groped by dudes every time she enters. A place she doesn't need to be but goes to in her free time.

Yeah, it's not your problem. She's going to those clubs because she loves the attention. Her real issue is that guys she's not attracted to are touching her. If it were only guys she wanted to bang touching her, you'd never hear her complaining.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you're not a controlling douchebag, some other controlling douchebag will take her from you.

You need to discipline and own your woman. What you don't want to be is petty.

[–]Just15155 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why you in a ltr with a girl who frequents clubs? If she doesnt but is now you got other issues to work on, this is least of ur worries

[–]mrpthrowa7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your LTR enjoys it, it's why she goes.

[–]prankster9992 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not saying that she doesn't like the attention, but how does one even know that the girl is being "inappropriately" groped / grabbed by random dudes? Maybe she just really enjoys it, and doesn't want to appear as a slut to her boyfriend.

At the same time, how does one know that she doesn't leave her friends "to go to the bathroom", and secretly ends up giving one of the guys head in the meantime? Only takes a few minutes...

I've heard so many stories from so many bouncers verifying the above that it's not even funny. And usually, it's the "good girls" who are the worst.

[–]TerminallyChill942 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bargaining with her to stay sober won't work long term. You're young, if you aren't comfortable with it let her know. If it's an issue, there will be more serious ones in the future.

[–]Totsean2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I probably groped your girl at the club and yes she didn't mind and wanted me to give her more attention. She is a ho, you got a virgin congrats, now you got to deal with her wanting to try different meat..

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I made a deal with her that she could only go as long as she stays sober.

This is all I need to know. This is go back to basics stuff.

The fact you're negotiating with your gf as if she is a dude and able to make and honour "deals" like this is a fundamental mistake. You can't negotiate her behaviour by coming to an oral contract.

Women either want to please you or don't.

If you make it known you don't want to go to clubs, if she earnestly wanted to please you she wouldn't go and would do stuff with you. You wouldn't even have to ask, she would do it on her own since pleasing you is top of her priority list.

I've given the reasons why, so yes follow the others' advice and demote to plate and enjoy the ride. You shouldn't care what she does at clubs.

Plus, speculation here, she's fucking drinking. Maybe not getting smashed but few people who drink socially will go to a club and not drink. And yes, she likes the attention from random dudes, those dudes probably buy her drinks too.

[–]HumbleTrees2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Odds of you meeting your unicorn at 18 are slim mate. Enjoy fucking her but never pretend to convince yourself she's yours. She's 18. She will soon discover half of men would fuck her in a heartbeat. Don't overthink it. Enjoy the relationship with a stoic knowledge that it's just your turn for now. Don't let that bother you man. Find s higher purpose

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Go check out the club with her. It's going to make her different.

Something most the dudes on here probably wont mention is that this woman is still a great person to know and be close with. She has girlfriends, she might be fun to hang out with, you just can't expect things to last.

Enjoy the heck out of this girl and use her to network and meet other people and enjoy being young. Possession is shit at such a young age, friendship is the only way to be at that age, it's more genuine for both of you.

[–]AlfredKinsey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Solid advice here. Listen to this.

[–]Thinkingard1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dump her. You are young but let me tell you it is never worth it to let your girl go out and party like that without you. It is a boundary for you and you aren’t enforcing it.

[–]AlfredKinsey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This important. The fact that is happening regularly and that she makes a point to tell you seem like bad signs to me.

[–]cafeitalia1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are you having a ltr when you are 20 and she is 18?

[–]DirtyBastard131 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your first problem (after the obvious of LTRing a club girl), is you made a deal with a woman, which as we all know is only a deal as long as she feels like it, then it doesn't count or has enough loopholes to be useless. (women are chaotic, not lawful).

Also if she's not old enough to drink she shouldn't be drinking PERIOD. If she's willing to flout the law, that's a huge red flag comrade! Secondly what does her understanding of sober entail (once again too many loopholes) what about other drugs?

[–]send_it_for_the_boys1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are you in an LTR with an 18 year old? And any good LTR wouldn’t be going to the club, I could see maybe both of you going every once in awhile but if I were you dump her.

[–]Startlivingfornow1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You aren’t ready for an LTR. Spin plates

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol she just wants to be single, you should have a similar mindset

[–]McVaghunter1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

My ltr

A proper TRP answer would be something like "she's not yours, it's just your turn" or at least "she's rather go clubbing than spend time with you, soft next", but what worries me the most is that everyone here seems ok with you being in a monogamous LTR. I mean what the fuck happened to building a soft harem?! You're supposed to be spinning plates, not worrying about one girl.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I span plates for a while man, she seemed the best of the bunch and I was losing the time/ energy to be seeing multiple.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

At 20, if you're losing time/energy for seeing multiple, you're doing it wrong, or else, your wallet is so full you should be able to buy a fucking club.

[–]akq00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

TLDR: Oneitis

She she she

I feelz I feelz I feelz

Focus on:

- Building Status

- Building your physical body and emotional intelligence

- Graduating or Building a career -> making money, having assets

- Gaming girls - plates, fwbs.

LTR's at the age of 19 ? Good luck with that bro. Waste of energy imo.

You could use your energy in useful things that I mentioned above instead of being worried if shes being plowed in the bar bathroom by some rando Brandon/Chad/Tad/Franz/Fernando w/e.

[–]throwitdownman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

LTR a girl with similar values. Plate a girl if all she provides is quality distraction.

[–]nross3680 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her to send you a video of her grinding on a dude. It takes the naughtiness out of it for her.

Make sure to have a video of a girl doing the same to send back

[–]whiffofass 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Just wondering how old are you

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

19 man

[–]zxcvb78090 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Eat the butt.

[–]LondonChad19990 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You're already in her frame. Also guys aren't animals, they know when its ok to touch a chick.

[–]send_it_for_the_boys2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

No they really don’t I see it all the time

[–]jimmybond0000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you shouldn't let your girl go to a club where this could happen. this is a reflection on you. if shes going out to clubs she wants the attention of other men and possibly to hook up with someone higher smv than you. plus where are your boundaries man ? plus dont get in a ltr at 18

[–]ngyuhnang0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t do LTR

[–]LordMarkStark0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OMG why the fuck are you even with or wanting to be with her? See her for what she is.

tell yourself anyway you like: its not her time in life for this, its that she's a slut, its that she doesn't mind/care, its who she is, its because she is young. Whatever. Keep seeing her but never put a ring on it, dude. With this attitude you will probably invest only as much as you should. Don't tell a party loving girl not to party, either. Its the stage she is in, but sure she prob needs some boundaries. She'll grow out of it or get better at controlling herself.

If this is who she is, im not calling her a hoe just yet, I mean she's 18, but seeing her personality I stick by see her, whatever, don't let it get you down, but don't put a ring on it, and definitely don't settle down with her or get comfortable. You'll forget this message no doubt. Because if you follow the advice and others you will get happier and want more. nah, I wouldn't consider it.

Things always get better with attitudes like mine and others. But people don't change. Not that I am perfect either.

[–]truthbomb9990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My ltr is 18 and a fresher so when she started wanting to clubbing with her friends I didnt want to be a controlling douchebag and stop her.

Its called setting boundaries, not being a controlling Dbag. Are you in her frame or is she in yours? What is this making deals shit? Why are you negotiating with terrorists?

You are telling me she WILLINGLY goes to the club and KNOWS she is going to get groped and she claims she doesn't like it and yet still goes out again to get groped?

Its fucking with your head because its called cognitive dissonance. Her actions are not aligning with her statements.

[–]LifeMaxx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lol you're 18. She's going to cheat eventually just know it's coming.

[–]ppanthero0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

“pretty much every night“

Enough said. If she would go out with the girls to celebrate a birthday or something like that, well, why not? But almost every damn night? She clearly likes the attention shower she receives in clubs. This won't work. Sooner or later she will blow or fuck one of the dudes in the club.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

She doesnt go out every night. I meant that pretty much every time she does go out I hear about some creepy guys.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

OK, cut the shit-you are not even fucking facing reality-You are trying to cover for her by saying "She doesn't go out every night." Of course, in your OP, you FUCKING SAID 'PRETTY MUCH EVERY NIGHT'. Don't be an asshole, and don't try to make an asshole out of people here that are trying to help you.

Dude, it sucks for you, and it's bitter, but, you have to face reality. She's fucking plenty of guys. START, right now, looking for her replacement.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

maybe once every 2 weeks

I havent spoke to her since I made this post as Im ghosting her for a while. Planning on demoting to her a plate once I see her again

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

maybe once every 2 weeks

This is different from your OP.

At any rate, it sounds as if you're making the right decision. I can't even imagine how it could turn out good for you. Even if she stopped clubbing tonight, which she won't, you won't know how many dicks she's sucked; and, I'm sure there have been plenty.

Good luck.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks man and yeah in the original post i think i worded it wrong.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

First order of business for you: Start looking for her replacement. Are you doing this? By replacement, I mean chicks to fuck, not LTRs.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she goes out clubbing without you, you are already 1/2 way out the door. She's looking for dick.

She probably has fucked a bunch of them, and she's saying that stuff to explain the bruises.

[–]RVCFever0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I made a deal with her that she could only go as long as she stays sober

that's some controlling ass shit man, if you're gonna enforce stuff like that just find a girl who doesn't drink

[–]Unclejimbo20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do you want a bitch that nobody else wants?

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[–]Gawernator-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s a lot easier to just find a more modest girl for LTR from the get-go than to try and convince a club thot to stop partying etc. not worth it

[–]ChadTheWaiter100-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes it’s normal. Go to club and grab some fat asses. You will feel better.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I know one girl that will keep coming back for more!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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