My wife is interested in a threesome, results or regret?

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April 18, 2019

24 yrs old
6 ft tall
165 lbs
Married 2 years end of this year.

Honestly, i found Trp at the start of our marriage 2 years ago. Was already a drunk captain and so i read but did not internalize. The initial shock to this information was not enough to wake me up.

“Everything is peachy with my wife, i get regular sex and little resistance.” I read all the stories and learned nothing.
My wife trusted me to steer and i was asleep.

No game (oh im married that isnt for me) no frame (i was incompetent) and no money (no job). I just made excuses. I did lift, but not consistently enough to see real results. My wife covered my half of the bills while i smoked weed and fucked off. I took advantage of her and i worsened as a person. I look back and have only myself to blame.

Even through all of this she persevered. Her faith unshaken she remained loyal and gleeful regardless of the burden i placed on her.
Until my good friend killed himself.
I got the call and immediately broke down.
I was the most vulnerable i had ever been in my life, i broke down in front if my wife.
That was the last straw.

Even in mourning i noticed she looked at me differently. She saw me in a new light and i could do nothing about it. No sex , arguments, and fights(her physically hitting me) ensue. I willingly go about my days feeling depresses and snappy, and this goes on for a week.

I am sitting there alone thinking to myself about how it all came to this. TRP flickers back to me. I discover this sub roughly 90 days ago.

Since then i have began reading through the sidebar, i have been regularly (3 days a week) lifting, i have actually begun to internalize what it means to game your wife.(rather, i feel as if i am on the right track). A MAP has been drawn and Dread is in full force. (At the point of going outside the house without my wife to pursue my own hobbies)

Now i am doing better for myself, for myself.

Initially there was a lag time. I slowly woke up and began steering after she assumed i was incapable of doing so. I broke her trust with my actions so i can not even blame her. She got angrier. I stfu.

After a month and a half of no sex, she slowly began opening back up to me and this past week she has been “like her old self” almost as if i had been at the helm the whole time. She is willing to give me a second chance at our life together. Or so i thought.

She opened up privately to me and said she wants to get into a threesome.
Strictly MFF, one time only, “lets agree on boundaries and expectations beforehand”, not anyone we know, only if you want to, i think it would be hot. Ect.
It is obvious that she has thought about it. Initially i made fun of the idea with her for a bit and then never brought it up again. Three days ago. She brought it up again today.

Honestly i am at an impasse.
This is something you would think every man would want but i am not so sure that i do. The idea of opening that door that can not be closed seems like a slippery slope and i do not want to lose my marriage. Not only that, but the combination of harsh things said and done so recently lead me to believe there might be hidden motives.
That said, my intent with this post is to get TRP perspective on my wife’s sudden change of heart.

Is it normal for a woman to flip so quickly?
Should this be alarming to me in any way?
Is my wife actually becoming my personal little slut trying to realize a fantasy of every man, or is she secretly just wanting sex with not me?

Is this something i should consider pursuing?
Can marriages last once you cross that line?

Honestly my only hang up with the idea that this can ruin our relationship. My dick loves the idea of getting wet but not if it means my marriage fails in the long run.

TlDr; drunk captain falls out of grace with wife. Finds sub and begins to wake up, wife warms up after a month and a half of no sex and is receptive to my changes for the better.90 days of sub implementation thus far. Shares she wants to be in a threesome. Why? Should i pursue? Is this a shit test?(seeing as its so soon into my mrp journey)

No matter what comes of this, thank you guys for saving my life.

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Title My wife is interested in a threesome, results or regret?
Author UriahTheChosen
Upvotes 14
Comments 63
Date 18 April 2019 07:41 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]Red-Curious53 points54 points  (7 children) | Copy

I had a client who started doing threesomes with his wife - both ffm and fmm. She used it as a chance to vet other guys. Guess what happened: she met another guy. What did the idiot think would happen?

I told that story to a buddy. He replied, "Nah, I'd only ever agree to ffm." Sure enough, We've been doing it your way a few times now. I want to try it with another guy now. He says no. Over. And over. And over again.

That's okay, I'll just keep on the lookout in case you change your mind. He never changed his mind. She looked anyway, then divorced him when she found the right guy.

"You shouldn't be looking," he often told her. "It's never going to happen," he said. Hey, if you're allowed to look, I'm allowed to look.

Why would you ever want to invite that risk? I suppose if you're divorce proof, go for it. Otherwise, I've never known a relationship where it worked out well. I have known at least half a dozen where it ended in divorce. Yay, more money for me.

[–]UriahTheChosen[S] 9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

You are right in saying that it is a risk.

This is helpful.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

He is literally the smartest motherfucker here.

Do not ignore his advice.

[–]RStonePT3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]Greyhawke69695 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amen. I too am an attorney and agree 100% with this.

[–]RStonePT4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

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[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

it's actually really true. the way /u/red-curious has taken this knowledge, applied it to his own belief system, and leveraged it has been cool to see.

[–]alphabachelor3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


Threesomes when married or in LTR is having her screen your replacement literally right in front of you.

[–]nantucketghost24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like a trap or she cheated

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy

90 days and “dread is in full force.”

Glad you’re taking that 1 month per level advice and not jumping in too fast and about to Rambo.

[–]UriahTheChosen[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am doing my best.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Threesomes are for men with rock solid frame (if they want to keep their current wife).

It's rare, and you're likely years away from that.

"That doesn't work for me." broken record.

Or, you could get a FFM and she'll eventually ask for a FMM, which you'll oppose, she'll push, and then likely just go meet Chad anyways.

This is a box you cannot close again.

[–]becoming_alpha18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Username checks out. Uriah got sent to the battle front to be killed so David could fuck his wife. Your wife is sending you to the battle front to get your ass killed, or so she won't feel bad about fucking Chad while you were a steaming pile of unattractive. There's no way this ends well for you.

Listen to admiral ackbar. It's a trap. Keep on the improvement path you're on and keep treating it like a shit test. A&A that you're only in if it's the whole [insert closest NFL team] cheerleader team, have her tell you when she's got them all scheduled.

[–]Tiway2217 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

Take the threesome then divorce her bro. Physical violence is nothing anyone should tolerate EVER.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red37 points38 points  (7 children) | Copy

She cheated on your dumb weed smoking ass and feels guilty. Maybe trying to give you a hall pass to make up for it.

[–]UriahTheChosen[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

The likelihood of her having cheated due to my previous behavior in the relationship is not lost on me.

I just don’t know what to make of this. Let’s say that it is a pass and she cheated, what do i do about it?

[–]ImNotSlash19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take the offer and drill the other girl right into the fucking floor.

[–]SeamusAwl10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

She went ice cold when you went down (soo very unattractive even Erkel would be confused for a chad). Then suddenly gets hot and is pushing (pushing) a ffm on you. There is no likelihood she cheated. It is all but a certainty she cheated.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Who fucking care. You are 24. Do whatever you need to do to be happy.

Do you even have pubic hair yet?

If so any back hair?

Check in when you are a man.

[–]UriahTheChosen[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am over thinking this.

[–]RP_PO10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

She branch swung, and invited you to the tree. Next she’ll boot you out of the tree. Just enjoy the ride and better yourself for the next one.

Also, I never understood how dudes read the sidebar, and STILL turn their back on swallowing the pill.

[–]RStonePT2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]KoolAidMan798017 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

Drunk captain? No job. Smoking weed all day. Wife paying all the bills. Shit the captain fell out of the boat a ways back and shes steering now with whoever shes fucking on the side. You have WAY bigger problems than threesomes. Get a job. Get a plan. And get a fucking life bro.

[–]UriahTheChosen[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I have a job and a plan. Im done fucking around.

[–]ahackercalled4chan17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

i hope your plan includes divorce, cause it sounds like that's coming one way or another.

[–]Dialerstring11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

The threesome is a smoke screen don’t take the bait.

[–]ImNotSlash13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

If he was smart he'd take the offer, create a memory then move on. I suspect it's a big if.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

24, no kids?


Pull your lessons learned parachute and try again.

[–]An_Actual_Politician7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Might as well do the threesome first in that case. No sense leaving good sex on the table on the way out the door.

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, if you read the sidebar you’ll realize that she cheated on you. Her side dick probably dumped her ass and she’s stuck with you for now. This is her way of making it up to you without admitting anything.

[–]hibloodstevia23 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy

She cheated on you.

[–]Scott1001TV2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Could you elaborate, please? Shes offering this because shes guilty?

[–]Thor-Loki-13 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, no shit.

[–]SailorAground5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

My two cents:

  1. Start quietly shopping for a divorce attorney. Start your search at
  2. Start saving money for the war fund because you're about to get fucked in divorce court.
  3. Have a threesome or two and enjoy the ride as your marriage crashes and burns.
  4. Try to turn some of the other women into plates when you get your inevitable divorce.

Your marriage is beyond repair.

[–]sppotlight4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She wants out, but isn't ready to admit it. Y'all are already a few feet from the rocks, might as well ride the wave while you still can.

[–]dll14210 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Something here doesn't add up. If your wife comes to you and proposes to bring in another woman for a threesome, I wouldn't think most guys would worry about the consequences, especially red pill guys. Unless you are strictly worried about disease or something like that?

Look at the possible outcomes...

you do NOT agree to it, and she eventually finds another couple or a Chad to do it with (which she will... it's so easy for a woman to arrange that), and she leaves you anyway


you agree to it, which has another two outcomes...

  1. She enjoys it, and she thinks you suck at it and leaves anyway (or continues to fuck around on you in some form)

  2. you both enjoy it, you red pill your ass up and deepen the rabbit hole.

Either way, I give it a 90% change you get left because of your recent omega (I wouldn't even consider it blue pill) behavior. Sorry to deliver the news, but it's what I think.

[–]Morpheus_TNTB3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey faggot! She's just warming you up for the MMF she has planned later on which likely includes you eating leftovers. You're so up her ass (frame) that you have bruises on your ankles from hitting things when she turns.

1) Grow some balls inside your manlabia and tell your Lt. "NO" and maybe she tosses your drunk ass overboard or not (win/win); 2) seriously unfuck yourself and maybe she accepts your command months/years from now.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you want a three some ?

That is ultimate question

But first, what do you really want ? As in what is your 100% goal driven mission in your life ?

Lift. Read. Live. Be present. Really fuck her when you are fucking.

Quick tip. If you are seriously fucking her, and I mean with 100% passion, masculine, “this is my cock in you” and we are emotionally connecting, there will be no need for the 3 some

[–]Thor-Loki-12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


Haven't even read the other posts, it is:

She's already done a threesome, and you ain't in it. Two other guys.

[–]funkyjunkymonkey2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you go down this path, there is a significant chance that you will love the experience enough that you want to do it again.... and again.

That will produce problems if the wife doesn't want to go down that path with you.

It will also produce problems if the wife does want to go down that path with you.

[–]0io-Tsundere6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

I never regretted having threesomes. (Haven't done it since married, though.)

People on here are so negative. Sure, your wife may have cheated, so what.

Having a threesome isn't going to change whether or not she cheated. NOT having a threesome just kind of makes you look like a pussy who can't handle it IMHO.

[–]Morpheus_TNTB4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Eating creampie your specialty? Fuck dude, bitches ain't loyal but that's some cuck reasoning you tossed out there. Worse yet, you havent been hitting threesomes since signing your productivity over to one special vagina.

[–]0io-Tsundere3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Reading is fundamental. OP's wife wants a threesome with a woman. Retards gonna retard, what can I say?

[–]Morpheus_TNTB1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I got that part...and the subsequent train cuming in his wifey. That's the current marriage setup! Starts out MFF and goes train, ping pong...

[–]BostonBrakeJob4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus fuck dude.....

Look asshole, do you want to have a threesome or not?

Sounds like not. And despite your attempt to make it seem honorable "I mean what guy doesn't want to fuck 2 chicks at the same time? But not me cuz it's a slippery slope and blah blah blah..."

Then you start asking about HER possible motives for asking.

You're insecure as fuck and a shit leader. You have no clue how to fuck another woman with your wife and get through all the meltdowns that may follow. You worry she has cheated and now wants to "let" you cheat (with her included of course) to wash her guilt. Maybe you're worried about her guilting you into a MMF 3some in the future, if you follow through? I dunno...I didn't read passed the first "she" question.

What the fuck do you want? If ya don't wanna do it, tell her ya don't wanna fuckin do it. If you do, but are too big of a bitch to admit to yourself or anyone else why you won't, then just stfu and keep the house clean while she's out riding dicks. Fuck off.

[–]Imaginary_Historian1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Looking into three ways, swinging, etc usually mean the marriage is about to end.

If you are OK with this and ready for divorce, go ahead and have some fun, just be ready for when the shit hits the fan because it will.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You sound like a mess. Married 2yrs and your girl is already putting you on the side piece program. This is a trap mainly because you sound so weak. Your relation shouldn’t have any dread or work to be done if it can live through threesomes.

Just wait, you’ll get to pound a fatty or two and then your GF will mysteriously meet a couple that “looks fun” and she’ll stoically accept the fucking the other dude is going to lay on her.

Why did I get out of a marriage with regular threesomes and daily sex w/ my Ex? She was low value and doubled down on her shitty behavior AND most importantly never failed to hold having sex with other women above my head.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

With that wall of text you ain’t ready for that. Wife and I have MFF a few times as she is bisexual, takes serious shit to make that work between both people and that shitfest you posted isn’t there.

[–]friendandadvisor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think that, in spite of your woman saying "It'll be somebody that neither of us has met", it will be somebody that she has already met.

Next, I think that your ass is already 3/4 way out the door. I think she's switching to dyke right now, and you can't stop it., so, start shopping for at least 2 backups for when she drops the bomb on you. Read '16 Commandments of Poon', and the usual material.

ETA: OTOH, it could be as the others have said-she may have fucked somebody else, they flew the coop, and wife feels guilty, and wants to make it up to you. This sounds totally plausible, but, you'd better be ready with the 2 replacements, anyway.

[–]Grundlestiltskin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you agree to this, the person who walks into the door will not be a woman. It will be a jacked dude with the most intimidatingly gigantic cock you have ever seen, and he'll be grinning. That's because he's there to fuck you, and he will not be denied.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sure. My wife is open to it but we have busy lives. Maybe we will pick up a hooker sometime or hit a whore house, not sure yet but it's on the table.

Best when things are going great between the two of you. Best to keep the threesome as far from home as possible. Best to keep the communication with that third partner to an absolute minimum afterwards and onwards if it happens more times.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Pics or GTFO.

[–]becoming_alpha8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pics or GTFO, faggot.

Fixed that for you.

[–]wtf_ever_man0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm not the guy that should be posting here man I will give you all that that want to talk shit about my post history but my question to to OP is does she lock her phone? Does she do stuff that makes you kind of wonder?

Threesome? Yeah, take the option, get some lavetra or viagra, whatever, don't let your nerves get to you and fucking pound that pussy and make your wife jealous its not hers your doing. Thats just me though.

Has she cheated? The way you type the story, yeah it sounds like its a good possibility. I don't live your life, I don't know but the words, yeah maybe. Does it matter? Was it just sex? Is she looking to kick ass to the curb? I don't know man. Those are the more imprtant questions in my eyes.

Lastly, how invested in this girl are you? If you feel she is looking to bail, maybe it would b easiest to cut loses, get your shit together and start fresh?

I'm only a drifter here man. I didn't even know what RedPill stood for until awhile ago when i actually read a post and these guys do have points. They make me want to get my shit together because I'm a fucking mess and I'm trying(unsuccessfully) to get my shit together and all I do is make excuses and not take ownership. Don't do that man, take ownership of your shit and become the man you want to be in your own eyes and don't do it for her, do it for you.

[–]wtf_ever_man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

btw, my prediction? If you do the MFF, shes going to (most likely, soon after) ask for a MMF. I would put money on it.

[–]BirdManBrrrr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Funny, all of these stories have similar themes, and the feedback from the community is the same. Overlay the template and tweak the circumstances and characters a bit...same outcome.

Every. Single. Time.

Your wife's offer for a 3way is my ex wife's offer of an open marriage. Oh, and look at my timeline for my involvement with MRP in that post...look familiar?

You'll see the writing on the wall soon enough.

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She brought it up, not you.

That means you are not ready for a threesome.

[–]RStonePT0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]Rogue68486-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

As you're getting your shit together ...

Is this a high quality woman you want to be with?

Is she bi?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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