Sorry if this double posts. It wasn't showing up for me.
Found MRP about 2-3 months ago. 5-10”: 230lb. Lifts: Girl level. Sidebar: Completed-NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, MAP. Currently 75% through TRM.
I was drunk captain for 10 years, wife didn’t really take over so basically nobody was captaining for a long time. I expect her to push back on any changes that directly affect her, but I don’t envision a big battle where I have to re-assume command. Could be wrong on that.
I’ve known this day was coming for years and it’s here now. Wife’s negative traits are rubbing off on oldest daughter (11) and I have to now find a way to counteract it to avoid my daughter ending up a clone of the emotional wreck that is my wife. Wife has turned into a super negative pessimist who snaps at any kind of adversity. Yes. I know whose fault this is. Daughter’s hormones are starting to kick in and she’s having outbursts and parroting wife’s negative and defeating self-talk about how she can’t do this, can’t do that. Doesn’t know how to do this, doesn’t know how to do that, etc, etc.
So basically, I now need to hold my daughter to a higher standard than my wife does with self-esteem and handling negative thoughts and I’m not sure how to go about it. I can STFU and ignore/deal with my wife over the span of months but I need to do something now with my daughter because it’s getting bad and she’s starting middle school in the fall. I fear that the sharks will smell blood in the water if she rolls up to middle school and kids she doesn’t know with poor self-esteem and a loser mentality. Book recommendations welcomed.