I lost my life motivation/goals/happiness after swallowing the pill

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Not sure if these are signs of depression or what? Will try to make it as short as possible without much details.

I am way too much in my head, want to fucking stop thinking about everything. Please help my inner voice to shut the fuck up and let me be active. I'm 24, yes I've been lifting for many years and love it, it actually helps keep my sanity in check.

My entire bluepill life got destroyed and swallowing pill literally shattered everything I believed in. I was deeply catholic for most of my life. You know, I was waiting for my perfect girl for marriage etc. Thought God has a plan for us and all that stuff. Now because of all the knowledge I have, after I saw true girls nature and how things really work out in practice in life, I am thinking about everything about my past. How I wish I made a lot of things differently and wasted tons of opportunities, really cannot stop thinking about it and in last weeks I cried more on my own than probably in last few years before. Life seems to be so shallow right now for me, like I have nothing to work towards for

And because of it, I lost my passion. I no longer enjoy most of things in life and I have no fucking idea what I want to do. What's my mission, what's my goal. Sure I want to have money, travel the world, be strong and healthy, fuck women, but that's it.

I have nobody to talk to about it. Sure I have buddies, close male friends who I can talk to about everything and they will help me. But they won't understand RedPill philosophy and everything going on in my head. When I try to talk to my dad about something, he tells me to get married.

On paper I kinda made it, have 2 fwbs right now, my own place, own business. But I have a life crisis, lost 90% of my savings because I lost motivation to work, invested some and lost, was travelling for many weeks abroad, spent on rent in last 1,5 year and was lazy fuck. So if I won't kick myself to do things again, will have to move back to my parents soon.

I used to be hella disciplined and motivated when I was younger, so I know I can do it again. But it's always when I had a plan. When I genuinely wanted to do things because I enjoyed them, or because the end goal was important for me. And now I have nothing like this. Decided to write here, maybe some of you can understand me and help. I probably don't want to read more books, I'm already too much in my fucking head and read most of the sidebar. I want to start acting and stop visiting this site to focus on myself. It's like I hit some rock bottom emotionally and mentally, thinking about sense of life, meaning, my true desire, just trying to find myself around here and I feel lost

Before RedPill I was ignorantly happy with my life, but had zero success with girls. RedPill fix me with girls and now I have no problems, but it destroyed my inner world and I can't find happiness in life.


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Title I lost my life motivation/goals/happiness after swallowing the pill
Author kmf01
Upvotes 120
Comments 67
Date 22 April 2019 07:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]highhouses129 points130 points  (4 children) | Copy

I think you have burn-out symptoms.

Give yourself some air and stop fighting our frustration.

Go for walks, do simple 'nonsense' things (jigsaw puzzles, handcraft, learn how to knott.

If you read, stay away from non-fiction. Read novels, detectives, whatever.

Girls are not a goal, it's something you encounter on your path.

[–]tkavalanche2421 points22 points  (2 children) | Copy

Your comment is good advice, but this just seems like an easy scapegoat/deflection that ignores some deeper, more complicated, underlying issues

I don’t have any answers for this guy. I’m arguably going through the same thing but at 23

[–]EvolvedVirus26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's this sense of having too much pride in oneself.

He's barely 24 and he's complaining already. Some people never discover RP and some people discover it in their 40s after a divorce and losing all their money. There's nothing to complain about.

He lost religion and faith a bit, which is swallowing another red pill on top of that, and now doesn't know how to create purpose and meaning for his own life---or even better for ideals greater than yourself just as you in the past did for religious beliefs.

And he admits: On paper I kinda made it, have 2 fwbs right now, my own place, own business

He is just thinking of his failures, his past mistakes, and current issues at... age fucking 24. He clearly forgets that most men don't own a place, don't own a business, and don't have FWBs (or may even be completely inexperienced with girls).

"I no longer enjoy things in life" This is just becoming too serious. You can still enjoy things if you let yourself enjoy them. Be a kid again. Why act like a 50 year old guy who has lost all joy in life? It's completely a state of mind.

[–]highhouses1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agree there are probably other underlying issues.

Even with professional help (which is not always the best solution is my experience), you will still have to deal with your issues.
I am not pretending to have any answers, but I do believe my advice will help getting closer to the root of the problems.

[–]anakun3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a great response. I would also say lift as it will help with the biological chemicals to help get you out of the funk.

[–]UziNidalee61 points62 points  (26 children) | Copy

Why the fuck do you guys not meditate?

It should be mandatory.

You're willing to put stress on your muscles till you're sore af but staying clear headed and breathing deeply for 10 mins is too hard ?

Get at it, do guided body scan meditations (mindfulness and relaxing for your body strain at the same time) and positive affirmations ( try not to find shit ones that straight up exaggerate) and you'll be a new person in a month.

Keep your brain healthy or you'll be stuck in a rut and never achieve what you could cause of doubt and overthinking. Get out of your head

[–]anakun5 points6 points  (9 children) | Copy

so how do you meditate? youtube? app? just read about it and now do it? Serious question.

[–]UziNidalee8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

Read up on it, I use spotify guided meditations, works best for me. I enjoy a guided body scan, my shoulders feel less tight overall and I'm able to "feel" my body better altogether. Focusing on just breath doesn't put me in a state of meditation as much as going from head to toe "breathing into" each muscle separately.

Helps with mind muscle connection in the gym also, I can squeeze my muscles a lot better nowadays.

[–]tee00052 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the first thing that came to mind. In meditation I've learnt about allowing thoughts to pass through your mind with a curious observation. Not changing them not fighting them or anything. Just watching them go by. Headspace and Stop breath and think are the best apps I've used. The mind thinks you cannot shut that down, that's its job to think about all the stupid shit. Even in meditation. The kep is to observe. And you continue you move towards a deeper understanding and practice other elements.

[–]anakun0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I have been chasing all of the coping tools for years now and have yet to find the meditation of sitting in a place and not doing something to work. I was hoping you had one or two you used consistently to recommend. Suppose I will go meditate over the lifting and putting down of heavy objects.

[–]ngKindaGuy4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Try doing yoga. For me I get the same benefits of focusing on my breath, but the constant act of movement during yoga is more entertaining than sitting in place.

[–]anakun0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have enjoyed that in the past. I guess I need to add it back to my routine.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Look up headspace

[–]anakun1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

headspace

I will have to give this a go for a month anyways.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I’m going through an anxious period right now. Whilst sometimes I feel no better after meditating- I know that long term it will help significantly.

[–]leew3600 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I personally just read about it and do it. It's something that you can practice yourself without teachers. I actually suggest against those apps because they make you focus on the music/guidance instead of the environment and yourself.

[–]kmf01 1 points [recovered]  (15 children) | Copy

I tried meditation couple times, but never really got seriously into it for longer time and regularly. Maybe that's actually what I need, will start it

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (12 children) | Copy

I tried it in high school and college a few times and all it did was make me fall asleep. I don't think its for everyone.

[–]flipwater12 points13 points  (11 children) | Copy

LOL that is really common when you start. That's like saying "I tried working out a few times, but I got tired and gave up after the first couple reps each time. I don't think it's for everyone."

The more you meditate the less you tend to get sleepy during meditation. And if you keep at it the results are crazy. No activity has sustainably skyrocketed my happiness as much as meditation.

And I'm not talking about dabbling for 5 minutes every few weeks. I started out with around 10-20 mins everyday for months, which got me awesome results, and then I saw a whole new world when I started meditating an hour a day.

MEDITATE MY RED PILLED FRIENDS, I fully agree with /u/UziNidalee, it should be mandatory

[–]Project_Zero_Betas-3 points-2 points  (10 children) | Copy

My mind wanders so much through out the day, when I try to actively calm it down it just goes into sleep-mode. I wish I had the patience to try it for an hour on consecutive days :-(

[–]flipwater0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

1) It's not patience. The first time I sat down to do an hour, it wasn't patience that got me through, I was just determined.

2) It gets easier as you do more. Try to enjoy it every time. Take pleasure in your breath.

3) Do guided meditations if you find them easier, that's how I got started. Calm.com has some decent free ones.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Do you use a white-noise audio track while practicing it?

[–]flipwater0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Nope but I did when I first started. You can explore meditation however you'd like, there are many ways to meditate. Back in the day I heard a cool tip of "listen to the silence in between the sounds around you" and that provided an interesting way to not be bothered by distracting sounds. But there are loads of ways. Focus on your breath intensely, focus on your breath gently, focus on nothingness, focus on relaxing your body, focus on feeling happy, etc.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

focus on nothingness, focus on relaxing your body, focus on feeling happy, etc.

Yeah those are all the things I do when trying to take a nap. Idk mediation just isn't my thing.

[–]flipwater0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Then don't meditate but don't act like you have any fucking clue what meditation is like. You clearly don't know.

And don't discourage others from meditating by spreading your "meditation isn't for everyone, I closed my eyes for a few minutes a few times and I got bored" bullshit.

I'm seriously surprised that you still seem to have no idea how ridiculous your words are. Again it's like someone saying they did a few bicep curls and nothing happened, so working out isn't for everyone. Nobody has ever done a few bicep curls and had any significant improvement to their lives. Nobody has ever done "meditation" the way you've done it and had any significant improvement to their lives. No, feeling happy when you take a nap is not the same as an hourlong meditation of focusing intently on generating bliss from within, let alone doing that hour of meditation everyday for a year, let alone for multiple years.

Don't meditate, give into your post-rationalizations of "I'm not patient / determined enough to meditate but also I nap so maybe meditation isn't for me", but don't bring others down with you, man. Keep it to yourself and don't post on Reddit giving "don't meditate" advice to others. Not cool.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It’s a routine thing. I need to do it more often so I stop letting anxiety controlling me.

[–]Roid960 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why did you lose your faith and religion?

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed43 points44 points  (5 children) | Copy

Think about how truly shallow and pathetic your life was before redpill...

actually believing all the sunshine and happiness and "this is how life will be" blue bullshit.

"You've been living in a dream world, Neo. This is the world as it exists today."

[–]kmf01 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

I do think about it and it destroys my mood completely. All the things I made wrong in life, time wasted etc

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed33 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy

So stop facing backwards.

Ever hear the saying '"Look where you want to go"?

Can't change what's in the rearview.

There was an Italian saying about how the mirrors and visibility out the back of Italian supercars suck.

"What's in the mirror, don't matter."

[–]WiredT2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

This....is actually a good thing. This is a part of the process. Its like the 5 stages of grief and soon youll reach acceptance. I have a habit of over analyzing and overthinking. I got so good at knowing exactly why and how I feel about things and what others are feeling, its almost like I am them and im constantly trapped in my mind rather than the real world. I cant tell you to STOP overthinking, thats like me telling you to stop being a man. I cant tell you GO BACK TO BEING MOTIVATED, you will when thats who you are again. And the best thing to do is to do, make habits. Humans are habitual. The way you see the world cant be changed by force and your habits and personality is the same. YOU WERE BORN THAT WAY AND THIS IS WHO YOU ARE. Now when you come to accepting everything, itll almost seem like a distant memory. Youll begin to understand even though people are selfish, contradicting, irrational and expect so much without giving equal exchange; it is what it is. Youll learn its not worth thinking about logically because THERE IS NO ONE ANSWER TO EVERYTHING. The world is too random. If you want I can send you some spotify links to this great man known as alan watts who actually talked about all of this. Also, you may think by knowing what you know helps your situation because youll be a step ahead but all it will do is drive you mad. The more youre in your head the further from reality you get.

I also started taking herbs for the brain, I recently went through a stressful situation that split my mind in half from stress. Now im better and stronger for it.

[–]curvedbymykind0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What kind of herbs?

[–]WIA20XX6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good.

Now instead of bullshit social programming you can do things that you actually want.

[–]its_meKnightSwolaire4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also wanted to tell you, TRP doesn’t mean you have to spin plates. You can still find that Catholic girl and have kids with her. Now that you’re aware of how to use TRP to your benefit, you can lessen the chance (but not eliminate) a divorce down the road. Also you can lower the chance that she cheats (but again not eliminate)

I’d say partner count should be your biggest thing. Maybe 2-3 n count tops. A virgin will always have that lingering feeling of “what is other dick like” which again you can help suppress with a healthy dose of reading of the Sex God Method

[–]EliteDarkseid4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Balance...

Red Pill opens your eyes, takes you out of the box. Increases your skills and throws you right back. Don't worry about the past. Don't dwell on the past. Past is Past. Live in the here and now. Look to the future. You lost 90% of your savings. But you are 24. It happens, move on, make more savings. Recognize it's great to be young. When you in your 40s (like me), you will look back and laugh at all the horrible mistakes you made. They will become stories that you tell others.

First get out of your head. you goals were awesome before red pill.

  • Before it was sport, school, studying, working on my business
  1. Sports: It's something to do, may play into your competitiveness. Gives you drive. Makes you stronger. If not none of theses, it can just be for fun.
  2. School: never stop learning. Languages, Tech, Programming, Self Improvement, Etc. Never ever stop learning. If I stop learning, I could not sit here and give you advice. You learned about Red-Pill. Guess what it's part of your knowledge, and soon you will gain wisdom from your teachings.
  3. Studying: Apply what you know. Learn from your mistakes, continue to be the bad-ass person you was before, and the bad-ass person you are now. A lot of peeps will say you had a Blue-Pill (Beta) lifestyle before discovering Red-Pill. But you no what. Your only issue was you didn't know how to talk to women. You didn't have that knowledge. Now you do. Now you can talk to women. You have wisdom now.
  4. Working: We work to meet an end goal. What's the end game. Some work to create. Some work for others. Create capital for yourself. If you failed once, guess what, you gonna fail again. Keep failing. Didn't Red-Pill teach you that you will fail ALOT. But it's the micro successes in between the failures that make life awesome. Hell, quote form the Lego Movie: "Everyday is Awesome." Between the failures you become a better winner.
  5. Work on my business: Work on it. Continue to work on it. Work on it some more. Just recognize that you get burnt out. When working on your business, put people in place so that when you need a break, guess what, you take a break, because you have people you can trust.

You are still young and have you WHOLE life in front of you. Also, you think you lost God, but he's still there. He just gave you another path. He lives through you. He lives through us. Let's see where this path takes you.

[–]Velebit7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a frequent problem men face and is heavily missunderstood by trp.

Most of men raised in blue environment have blue values deeply ingrained into the fabric of their emotional inner workings. These are values which belong the term called metaphysics. They are not real, tangible or present in physical reality.

These are things like freedom, free will, justice, equality, love. If you ask 10 different people what is justice, for example, they will not agree and you will get contradictions and senseless stuff.

Stuff like equality is a massive dogma today while it is utter nonsense. When you are raised in such an reality removed environment you come to emotionally rely on, some egalitarian expectations in this case (everyone ought to have 1 sex partner, I ought to have a sex partner) or let's say justice (it is unfair girls never have to approach guys).

Another thing is not understanding collective mechanisms. Shaming used to be a social institution that stopped people from being naughty. Last year I banged a girl from tinder who has a boyfriend in broad daylight in the street. When I told my friends I got approval even from my female friends who mostly commented something like they wish they were so spontaneous etc.

Another thing is dueling. In most of human history abstract distant government bodies did not intervene. Before Preatorian guard, Rome, a city of million people never had anything like a police force. Even at times like 1895 it was normal to have a duel in the open in USA. This allows you to stand for various aspects of your own interests. If someone aggressively tries to seduce your wife or a low iq scum tries to seduce your daughter (or son) you have a way of making 100% sure that does not happens them. You have a path to ending their life. This makes everyone involved much more grounded and restrained. The danger of dishonor was very real and tangible, today society has no honor and success is measured by your exploits. This is not only in conflict with blue values but also with any sort of K selected mind.

[–]superjerk992 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop thinking about everything before. You're on a new chapter and you now have the knowledge and power to determine where you want to go. Let go of the past and embrace the present and future

[–]CaptainKidd962 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

So basically you're life is ruined because u found out that girls aren't godlike creatures and that there is no special one designed for you?

From my point of view you were doing everything just so you can increase your value to find that special girl. The same girl who would've ended up divorce raping you because you were too much of a blue pilled, living in disney land, God fearing christian, blue pilled chump.

I know this sounds harsh but you're much better off knowing the truth. No matter how much you try you won't be able to plug yourself back into the bluepilled world.

Follow the advice given by other users and trust me, it's much better that you've found out now rather than finding TRP at 45 after you're special one has divorced you, took your children and at least half of your assets while you just stay at home wondering what you did wrong.

[–]mountainbiker1780 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Follow the advice given by other users and trust me, it's much better that you've found out now rather than finding TRP at 45 after you're special one has divorced you, took your children and at least half of your assets while you just stay at home wondering what you did wrong.

Exactly what happened to me. So I have little simpathy for the young 20 something's complaining about their life being over.

[–]mysticplaces2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Outside of TRP, most people’s conception of life or what life entails is quite misguided. Society has brainwashed the population into distraction, hedonism, addiction and consumption. Self-identity, deeper-self, actualizations, independence, and passion are lost on the masses. Sports, identity politics, big budget movies, reality television, smart phones, social media, fast food, online shopping, etc. define modern life for most. Break free of these mental prisons and I guarantee you will significantly more fulfilled. TPTB have created a fabric of reality that is both hollow and shallow in nature. The sooner you break away from these mechanisms of power, the more empowered and in control over your own life you will be. As for happiness, self-fulfillment, direction, and purpose, that’s on you.

[–]coolredpill2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

situation wise, i haven't quite made it as you but im also losing motivation/goals/etc

am 26, starting grad school in the fall and ive been working 2.5 jobs (i consider tutoring half a job) ever since i got accepted earlier this year in order to make sure i come out of grad school with 0 debt (good scholarship offer as well)

i have more money saved up then ever before, and despite working weekends until like midnight, i still managed to fck with at least 1 girl per month in 2019 so far, ive also been lifting at least 3 days a week since i found the redpill 4 years ago so im not too bad in shape

but im losing motivation as well,,, because all ive been doing is work work work ive been feeling everything is meaningless... i know im in the grind right now until i start school but due to feeling meaningless, ive been falling back into some blue pill habits (mostly diet, video games, and porn) but im not even concerned because ive come out of blue pill relapses many times before so i know i can get back to it

ive also gained confidence in me achieving my career after finding the pill...like it's engraved in my head as a fact that i will have a successful career no matter what, and it's not as if im procrastinating and slacking off from that - i just gotta grind until the fall when grad school starts. but it's this assurance that's plaguing me with lack of meaningfulness in life through the grind

but since finding red pill, the one thing i haven't really done is meditating, and based on the other comments, looks like i need to seriously get into that. and the one thing im looking for is a bigger mission than my current one - a bigger one that i can truly call my life goal - my true mission

ive also decided to yolo it for once (i stopped yoloing ever since finding trp) and decided to go to Europe for a week for the first time, am leaving next week so hoping a breath of fresh air will do me some good and give me some motivations

but i hope it will work out for you too brother

[–]kmf01 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

but it's this assurance that's plaguing me with lack of meaningfulness in life through the grind

feel the same

and the one thing im looking for is a bigger mission than my current one - a bigger one that i can truly call my life goal - my true mission

also hope I will be able to find it

decided to go to Europe for a week for the first time, am leaving next week so hoping a breath of fresh air will do me some good and give me some motivations

Be careful with that. I went solotravelling backpacking for a month 2 times, it was great and incredible experience but... it changed me a lot. So week for you maybe won't be a big deal, but when I went back to home after month travelling, meeting people around the world, talking with everybody sharing experiences, doing whatever I wanted - life felt even more meaningless and I was like: wtf am I doing with myself here with all this grind, life shouldn't be like that. The second time I did the same, coming back was even harder. Because I just discovered something completely new... Good luck with that, but be careful, travelling changed me even more when I wasn't ready for that.

[–]coolredpill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks for the reply, let us find our true missions

about travel, i feel what you mean. back into the grind after such stimulating experiences. since im going for a week only i dont think it will be as bad as you say, and im going with a close bro of mine (super religious) so we wont be hitting the clubs or anything like that

hopefully it will be more of a getaway to relax my mind and find motivation again!

[–]SolidLiquidGasPlasma1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Watch Henry Rollins view of cynicism on youtube

[–]2319Skew1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Try taking a break from your routine. Be alone. Truly alone for a few days. If you can't. Try to meditate. Allow yourself to feel. Turn off your guard and just be. Why do you feel how you feel? What thoughts or expectations do you have? What can you change? Keep asking yourself why until you find a personal truth.

With that truth start to build yourself up. Rebirth is painful but necessary.

Source : went through a crisis of self where I was close to ending it all after almost embracing alcoholism after divorce and red pill realization.

[–]Nighthawkdragon81 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bruh taking the redpill isn’t that big of a deal, it’s just a saying that means that social conditioning isn’t always accurate on a micro level. I don’t think your lack of motivation etc is a result of redpill knowledge, it is probably something a lot deeper.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’d be happy to talk to you. I love this shit. Don’t you know that you “must lose yourself in order to find yourself?” You lost yourself for a second when you swallowed the pill and when you regain equilibrium the path will be clear. This could be sooner than you think. You just have a few readjustments to make and I’m sure I could identify them for you. Holler

[–]AtlasHJack691 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I just turned 24 and can relate, wanted to be a father and a husband. I gave up the latter still want kids. In 2 years im gonna be done with a training I'm doing to be an IT guy which should put me upper 5 figures. Gonna try to adopt a child, and be a single dad. Seems if I get a woman pregnant I'll never get custody of the child, fucking feminist govt. They'll just take the child and milk me dry

I know how you feel man, lift weights, work longer hours it helps. I try hanging out with friends every 3 months at least. I'm planning on leaving NYC and moving to a smaller state with open spaces and lead a life of celibacy and isolation. Hopefully I can work remotely. Good luck we all rowing together.

[–]Patrriot1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am dealing with a similar sort of thing and what I found to be best was being unconditionally social with others and constantly practicing and picking up new hobbies/occupations that don’t connect me to the internet. That be like learning a new instrument, yo-yo-ing, definitely reading more books of every possible thing I was interested in instead of making a simple google search, those kind of simple things that DISCONNECT you from the dopamine-inflicting world of today with our smartphones and countless ads and such and even staying off Reddit. Whatever the case understand that whatever you’re feeling is temporary and IT WILL PASS, happiness and clarity tend to come from the things we tend to NOT want to do, so continue searching bro, one day at a time. -P

P.S : Meditate, it’s a lifesaver.

[–]091820171 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

i also felt that nihlistic numbness. it’s been a transition, between intellectual understanding vs realization of the spirit. i’ve been so accustomed to the social constructed mask and prison, and now that i am out of plato’s cave, i find myself missing my shackles.

as other’s have mentioned, meditation definitely helps. the separation of reality vs thinking and projections.

enjoy the transition, this too is the path. you are now free to create your own values and importance, as opposed to the nonsense society pushes onto us.

[–]topmatrixgun1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You can go to a Buddhist monastery and be a monk for some time. That might help you find peace.

The world is fucked up. Money won't make you happy. You said you are driven. Then you must be challenging yourself a lot. You have achieved a lot at a young age. But, you aren't able to find happiness.

Many say we need a bigger purpose. I think we need short term goals and need to identify the little things that make us happy.

For me short term goals are getting a good body, healthy diet. The small things that make me happy are spending time with my family and friends, driving car, video games. (I said about myself in the hope that it might show you a way.)

[–]kmf01 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

True, I was challenging myslef a lot. I got money, had more than all my friends for some time and found out it doesn't make me happier at all. Now that I lost most of it I'm in ever worse state.

Sometimes I wish I could live in different times. When there were wars etc., maybe that's stupid, but the idea of bonding together with other men, fighting for mutual purpose etc sounds fantastic for me.

[–]topmatrixgun0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your reply reminds me of a dialogue from the movie Fight Club. "Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our great war is a spiritual war... Our great depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars, but we won't. We're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off."

In my opinion, any form of exercise/sports/lifting will give you a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. And you will go to bed happier.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You are young and overstimate yourself in terms of thinking deeply. You are affected by your emotions and traumas. Your thinking is fogged right now. I also see a lot pedestalization of the pussy. Not only women, people in general are shit. Men, women. All of them. Everywhere in the world. Deal with it. It is called maturation. 90% of people here are dealt a worst hand. I'd also recommend visiting a shrink, sometimes it can help.

I personally motivate myself with philosophy. Not the modern shit written for the sake if profit, but things written by emperors and seekers of truth.

" Be like the jutting rock against which waves are constantly crashing, and all around it the frothing foam then settles back down. Say not “Oh, I am so unfortunate that this has happened to me.” But rather “How fortunate I am that, even though this has happened to me, I continue uninjured, neither terrified by the present nor in fear of the future. "

[–]kmf01 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

I'd also recommend visiting a shrink, sometimes it can help.

What is shrink? Also the quotation in the end is very smart and useful in my situation as I feel I'm getting tested all the time lately by life. Thank you for that, will remember it

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A psychiatrist.

It's from Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. He ruled the largest Empire the World has ever known, and still had a lot of struggle within himself. Read it.

[–]dontbeanasshole777 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Here's the solution which helped me.

Find a girl most suitable for this goal.

Tell her your in pain. Tell her you need caring and nurturing female energy. You want to forget about the world. You want to mend yours souls together. Have deep and slow sex. Split an ecstasy tab with her. Clean your schedule for 3 days and spend it with her only, somewhere away. You will carefully surrender your soul to her, she will fix and then you will take it back.

Do this for about 10 days and when you feel you're peaking go back to real life and use your fresh energy to get your shit sorted out.

Continue seeing your new therapist every 7 days.

You already know the truth so it's ok to play with fantasies. You lost your faith in life because life has lost its magic. Well, wrong. Life is and just is. You decide how to paint it. It can be a nihilistic nightmare od exciting journey, depending on your approach.

I base this on my personal experience.

[–]Qba1994 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Damn, don’t know what the fuck is this but I dig that. Living life to its full potential :D

[–]its_meKnightSwolaire0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Out of curiosity do you smoke weed

[–]kmf01 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

No, never did

[–]its_meKnightSwolaire0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok thanks.

[–]maljo240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's all in your head.

[–]BurnoutRS0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Happiness is a state of being. It is fleeting. Your goal should not be to be happy, rather happiness should be an inconsequential byproduct of the accheivement of your goals

[–]cafeitalia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you haven’t swallowed the pill at all. Are you sure it was red not blue? If you had more dedication about life before your switch now you are lazy well you switched to the wrong pill. This is not about having girls to fuck, the girls should be the least important factor of red pill.

[–]WiredT0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

acetyl carnitine

L theanine

L tyrosine

These are like vitamins or some shit that the brain uses to produce dopamine and serotonin

Herbs for mood:

Ashwaghanda Baocapa

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Hello



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