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It’s so rare to see unfiltered confident people

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April 23, 2019
183 upvotes

I always wished I could be a kid again when I was 6 and still growing up. I had no care in the world. Did I care what people think of me? No. Was I self conscious? No. Did I think I wasn’t enough or lacking something? No. Was I shy? No.

Did I say whatever I wanted? Yes. Did I have fun? Yes. Did I talk to people without feeling all awkward and shit? Yes. I was Iike the social god back then.

For a fact, girls called me disgusting and weird a lot of times. But I didn’t give a fuck. I was having fun. I was truly who I was. You don’t understand the freedom I felt.

Now it’s like my brain is rewired with all this bullshit. I can’t act myself freely anymore. Im a lot better the past few years, but only if there was a way to adopt the mindset I had when I was a child. That true inner core confidence. I just know if I had that now, life would be so. much. better. Unimaginable. If only there was a way..

I’ve read countless of books, amazing reddit posts, YouTube videos, but that shit DOESNT TRULY fix the problem within. I’m so tired of it all. I know what it felt like to be so free back then. And I crave that freedom today.


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Title It’s so rare to see unfiltered confident people
Author polarizingpotato
Upvotes 183
Comments 45
Date 23 April 2019 03:20 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/235873
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bghma1/its_so_rare_to_see_unfiltered_confident_people/
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[–]SimplyFishOil111 points112 points  (14 children) | Copy

It's important that you go through what you're going through right now. As a child you didn't care, but you also didn't care about social norms. If you still had the same mindset, you'd be a man child when you're 40.

Ultimately however, you need to decide if you're going to be a puppet for society, or if you're going to do what you think is right and not let others influence that for you

[–]CodingE2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Social norms are overrated, as long as you don’t literally act like a deviant idiot then more power to your decisions. Normal is boring and normal people aren’t typically the people that exceed in life. Take it from some of the wealthiest people who are seen as weird and definitely not socially normal: Steve Jobs, bill gates, Elon musk, Albert Einstein, and many more... they were seen as socially weird yet had the confidence to follow through without being man-children

[–]jairothevaca0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Those wealthy people are some of the most intelligent 0.1%. Their weirdness were accepted because of their intelligence. Most people don’t have that. It’s important to understand normal behavior, and to fit in a group. If you deviate too much from normal behavior, people will work to bring you down. It’s called Herd Morality and shit.

[–]JJ9OO8KK5II 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Social norms are what allow for morality and order to exist. Don't claim that it is overrated, human social psychology is bigger than being quirky and you'd be a lonely caveman if human brains didn't have psychological effects that cause social norms.

[–]CodingE2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Social norms are a construct of inferiority. Learn to think for yourself and stop trying to be like everyone ... knowledge is not a social norm. Knowledge is a result of study and experience which is passed down from generation to generation. Cavemen were a result of lack of education and experience, it took one caveman to think differently from what was the social norm at the time to discover fire and eventually lead up to the discovery of weapons and etc. if people remain within a social construct they are limited to discovery. Don’t give me that bullshit.

[–]resnine52 points53 points  (4 children) | Copy

This is part of a lot mindfulness and eastern thought. To rewire your brain to your mindless state of when you were a child. Ever noticed how free and fun loving spiritual monks are? They were able to rewire their brains back to the state of boundless curiosity like children while maintaining the wisdom of an adult.

BTW we've ALL gone through this. It's called becoming an adult.

[–]His-Dudeness974 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yessss monks are the highest being you can be

[–]ogkushinjapan0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Exactly, it’s the self actualization stage of Maslow’s hierarchy.

Shows how some western thought does align with the east.

[–]His-Dudeness970 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Considering monkhood. Feel like its the highest form of conciousness

[–]ogkushinjapan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

From a psych academic perspective it actually is.

[–]IWantAllYourMoney 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

It's a good thing that your actions are filtered now.

Because you're not a kid anymore.

When you're a kid, you can act however the fuck you want. Do all sorts of retarded, socially awkward, embarassing things and people will forgive you because you're still growing up and have room to grow.

OTOH if you're an adult and still act in a retarded, awkard or embarassing way, people will look down on you and treat you like a lesser being.

With age your actions have to be more sophisticated. To be sophisticated in your actions means your actions have to be meticulously and efficiently filtered.

Your "filter" has to be trained, so it'll serve you good for the rest of your adult life. Make your filter so that you appear to be more classy, more intelligent, more dominant, more cunning, more deceptive, whatever you want to be.

[–]mytime550 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

people will look down on you and treat you like a lesser being.

The point is you shouldn't care

[–]thrwy7547918 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

The more wealth and power you have, the more shit you can get away with.

[–]Hardwire60 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

tru dat

[–]His-Dudeness972 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Feel that feelojg in your heart and you can become it again.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Look into Taoism, it provides a lot of philosophy about that “pure” form being achievable as an adult

[–]valrykie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's actually a good thing you don't say anything that comes to mind because if you did everyone would look at you like your autistic. It's good to be spontaneous sometimes but it's better to have a calculated response.

[–]goblinboglin1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Brother, don't feel desperate

Phenibut comes to save you

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What's this Phenibut shit everyone keeps saying? Drugs aren't the answer, just a temporary escape.

[–]goblinboglin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you know what you're doing it can help you keep the behaviour it unlocks.

Just like CBT.

It's great.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah man I feel you on this, most people just feel like fake cunts nowadays.

[–]WiredT4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Its because society , parents and people pressured and applied us with these insecurities they call “social norms “. Rather than being yourself they tell us to act a certain way because the other way isn’t the “norm”. They make us believe our dreams, our hopes, and our interests are weird. They all fall into the same trap knowing they arent happy and wishing they could be themselves but yet they keep dousing the next person with gasoline to join them in the fear that we arent clean and will one day burn from a chemically toxic existence.

[–]His-Dudeness97-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yuppppppp this right here

[–]HotHead1211 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was just thinking about this a couple of days ago

[–]ReformSociety1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

This is why people like to alter their minds, mainly through alcohol.

But you can reach a better, clearer state of your true self through psychedelics (shrooms, LSD, 2CB).

[–]Project_Zero_Betas-5 points-4 points  (3 children) | Copy

2CB)

No one cares about your pharmacology mastery, just say MDMA or ecstasy.

[–]ReformSociety0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Oh yes, sir. I completely meant MDMA or ecstasy and not psychedelics.

What would I do without you?

[–]Project_Zero_Betas-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

A question a whole island keeps asking itself

[–]Azora0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

2cb is not MDMA.

[–]thetotalpackage71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You've READ a lot but have you taken action? Have you developed your body to it's full potential or any where even close? Have you found career or entrepreneurial success? Have you found hobbies and activities that make you feel good? Have you developed and nurtured friendships with fun/happy people? Are you nailing your daily habits? Are you taking the lead? Are you approaching women etc etc etc.

If not, no wonder your self-worth is so wrapped up in what other people think...you're Joe Nobody.

[–]Haki_User1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am sorry you haven't reached the inner peace even though you have tried, we are all working towards it and it's there.

I'd like to add however is that the thing with when we were kids is that we were, kids.

You could do a lot of stupid shit and not be held accountable for it, thus why the expression "He's just a kid" exists. Worse case scenario Moma and Popa ground you. Same Moma and Popa that are there to save the day if you do some shit that's too stupid.

But now you are your own man, people are their own men. You are held accountable for the actions you do, and you are to a great extent controlled by the "rules" of whatever society you live in.

Thus you have either the option of copying the herd and preventing yourself from doing what you want, or be dominant, confrontational and charismatic and skew your society to accept your ways.

[–]Uberfeedus[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Learn about yourself to find out who you are, then be yourself with a delicate balance of your own rules, and societal norms. Boom.

[–]Butt_Lord0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Seriously man, go do some shrooms to find out more about yourself and the way you interface with the world. It will do wonders for your confidence.

[–]polarizingpotato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You got any more info on shrooms? I’m really keen on trying them out. What’s the first step? Where can I find them and stuff? Cheers

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get someone to hypnotize you

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do a bit of street busking.

[–]maljo240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Confident and unfiltered - I see these people all the time. They are called “jerks”.



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