TLDR- my wife flipped out, threatened divorce, I dgaf and next day bangs me like I have never experienced with anyone 3 times, 2 day after. She intiates and does all the extras.
Long version- People Me:36 5'6' 170lb, not fat, not cut, I work construction. My wife is 36 as well and we have 2 kids 3 and 1 1/2 years old, and my wife is 5 months pregnant now. We have been married 8 years now. She works full time. So needless to say we are busy as fuck.
Few days before I am fingering her and put my cock in front of her mouth. She gives me a bitchy, I am not doing that today. I get up calmly, give her a kiss on forehead and leave.
I tell her I am painting and she needs to get the kids from daycare. She wants to grocery shop and me to get kids. I don't and tell her no flat out. Later she accidentally feeds our son something that he is allergic to (mild allegeries, not life threatening). I say to take it away, she says no. I don't make a big deal about it. I tell her I am going to go get a beer and then I leave. I have never does this to her, just left with authority. She is pissed the rest of the night and one shit test after another. I keep it light and laugh it off. She gets mad enough she pushes me down when I was bent over. I grab her wrists and tell never to do it again. I don't hurt her but contain her and show power. Later on more shit tests. She says she wants to talk after she puts our son down. I fall asleep she wakes me up by bitching and turning lights on. I try to fall back asleep she slaps me in the face and I pick her up off of her feet pin her on bed, again not hurting but maintaining control. And another "don't do that". No anger from me, just sternness. I try to go back to sleep, she continues shit testing, crying, threatening me with cops, threatening divorce. Still I show no anger and don't engage.
Next day she is still pissed. Not as bad of shit test but still coming. Later on she lays down for nap I start fingering her and put my cock in her face. Shows hesitation then goes to town and tells me to lick her vagina. She has never been this forward. Later on sits me down blows me and fucks me with kids downstairs. Then we go again that night, same thing, all the bells and whistles. Then next day same crazy sex twice, one her waiting with lingerie. She is doing all the shit she said she doesn't like doing less than 3 days ago.
During the second night of this after romp session. She tells me that this is bc she was praying and about to leave me right before the initial sex event. Then she got really horny for me after praying.
Now it's today. We go back to work. I don't know what tonight will bring.
I held frame, loving but firm, made light of her negative emotions(sarcastic funny corrective jokes), and made it clear I want better from her through this whole thing, not by saying but doing. I even made up goals and guidelines for myself, workout and career shit.
Can the experienced guys tell me if I flipped her on switch? What do I do to keep it on? I just am looking for an explanation bc I am sooo damn new to red pill.