I work with this guy and girl. The girl is just fawned at all day. See some pathetic shit go down when guys try going after her, they literally follow her around talking to her while she looks like she doesn't give a fuck. But what surprised me was this other coworker who is significantly shorter and skinnier than most guys there just totally showed me how it's done. The dude truly did not give a fuck about her or what she thought. I observed his interactions with her. He lead her around, telling her what to do, wasn't seeking her approval, generally didn't give a shit, wasn't being the nice guy, and wasn't acting like the genders are equal but he was being funny. Fuckin blew my mind how this short skinny guy could do all that, and she just went along with it. There are dudes that I work with that are 200+ 6'5" that couldn't do what this guy did. They'd treat'em all nice and sweet and give so many fucks. Really made me re-think my whole approach. It aint all about looks/height, but really just the way you talk and carry yourself. The guy was brimming with confidence. I just don't get how he makes it seem so effortless while I could never say or do the things he did.
Why the hell are people so different like this? One can be short/skinny but be masculine, be leading while the other can be big/tall but be feminine, can't lead or look a girl in the eyes. Seems like it should be the opposite but some people just aren't social and it kills game.