I already know that the less invested you are the more invested she will be, to an extent. We see each other twice a week and I feel like an idiot but I just realized a few days ago that for the last few months we’ve been just doing the same shit every time we hang out (usually just dinner, walk around somewhere like the mall, then go to her house and watch Netflix and fuck before I have to leave) and it’s become extremely routine and that’s why my relationship is starting to get stale as fuck and due to the lack of emotions and excitement her attraction to me is decreasing and vise versa, and that’s why we are only fucking once or twice a week and it’s really no longer fun to hang out with each other.
The past week I’ve been keeping my self busy as fuck, barely texting back simply due to me just forgetting and being busy, going out and just living life on my own terms and doing what I want and it’s been great.
Yesterday we hung out and I didn’t text her back the night before and she was being bitchy at first when I came over her house and I just ignored it and we fucked, then I told her to give me a massage afterwards and she started acting bitchy again and said “really I have to massage you now” and while she’s usually never bitchy like this, I also never usually call her out when she is and I just said “listen, cut the shit (name)”. So she gave me a massage and actually started crying a little bit for some reason. usually she always drives so I said get dressed we’re going to this hiking place near us, I’m driving.
I was feeling super confident the whole time, being indifferent, not giving much attention, acting spontaneously, leading her to cool places and waterfalls and just having fun for once. She was all over me the whole time, complimenting me like crazy, kept rubbing her ass on me and trying to grab my dick, she apologized and said she wants to fuck me again and give me a really good massage and said she’s sorry for the way she was acting. I had to go in like a half hour so we went back to her place and she went absolutely insane on me when we got into her bedroom, tore her and my clothes off and jumped on me, she was absolutely soaked and we had the most intense sex we’ve had in over a year and she must’ve said “I love you so fucking much your all mine” a million times during it.
I know dread game/ getting out of the routine trap works but holy shit I didn’t expect to see results like this so quick. Should I keep the dread going like I’ve been? I’m definitely avoiding the Netflix and dinner bullshit from now on and getting out of the house as much as possible with her. Routine/ comfort definitely kills passion in a relationship and this is a prime example of that.