Summary: This is post is a (relatively) short summary of a concept I have been working on, aimed to better explain why people behave the way they do - and how you can benefit from that knowledge.

Body:

Most social rules are behavioral patterns which have evolved organically and are reinforced randomly - therefore they are usually not rationally reflected upon. Most people are not even aware of their existence, they are subconscious.

There are explicit and implicit social rules and corresponding fabrics.

The adherence to explicit social rules is a key stone of most personal identities. Anything threatening the social rules is thereby a likely attack on someones identity. (Blue Pill thinking)

Implicit social rules are at odds with explicit social rules. They are more powerful, but they can not be openly talked about because they threaten the social fabric. (Think hypergamy, polygamy, AFBB)

Climbing the social ladder requires you to acutely maneuver implicit social rules whilst superficially adhering to explicit social rules.

Since everybody tries to climb the social ladder, The Invisible War (TIW) ensues.

What are the rules of TIW?
*You are always at war, with everyone.
*Alliances are possible, but they become fragile once your goals are at odds
*TIW is not talked about or mentioned.
*Any implicit move must be covered by an explicit rule (plausible deniability)
*TIW is waged subconsciously and intuitively. Most people are not aware of it, yet they take part.
*Showing understanding of or even overtly waging TIW will make you a target and lose social standing
*Not being (at least subconsciously) aware of TIW will result in bad social skills.
*Being aware of TIW will result in decisive moves that will help you climb the social ladder and gain social standing.
*Frame is passive defense against TIW-moves people try to pull on you. It allows you to pick your battles.
*Direct confrontation threatens to remove explicit covers and is therefore to be avoided.
*The person to first remove the explicit covers loses social standing.

How can you use this?
The next time you interact with some, ask yourself: "What is this person trying to gain?" Judge his or her position on the implicit hierarchy: Does he/she have access to sex/resources? Is he happy? What is he trying to avoid? What would make this person your direct enemy? What would make him your ally?

Since most peoples moves on the chessboard of TIW are instinctual, they are rather crude and easy to decifer.

An example:
Let's there is this guy in your LTRs social cirle who is clearly interested in her. Even if your LTR is loyal to you, his constant advances need to be checked at one point - namely, when he does it in your presence, because it undermines your status in front of your LTR. Since he has some intuitive understanding, his advances are not explicitly visible. But nontheless, they are there, visible to your keen eye.

Confronting him about it would be a stupid idea, since he has too much cover. Mate guarding in any way is equally stupid, because it raises the stakes and removes explicit cover for both of you - and you have more to loose than him.

The best solution would be drawing your girl back into your sphere without even adressing him. Chat up a hot babe and have your LTR come and mate guard you. If he still wants to pursue, he will have to follow your LTR around like a lapdog, entering an unwinnable situation. From that point on, you just need to keep frame, fondle your LTR a bit and give him rope to hang himself.