Summary: Neediness is unattractive. The opposite behaviors of neediness are attractive.


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"Be confident" and similar advice always seemed vague to me. Approaching made sense. Acting high value made sense. But I always thought it wasn't specific enough.

Post red pill, it's easier for me to think of this as "anything that is the opposite of needy is attractive."

From initial seduction, to maintining an LTR, everything that appears needy is unattractive, and the opposite is always attractive.

texting her more? Unattractive relying on her to support? Unattractive Saying "I love you" more? Unattractive Doing more shit for her than she would do for you? Unattractive

This is the reason that "nice guy" behaviors don't work. It's impossible for her to differentiate "nice" behaviors from someone who's doing it out of neediness vs someone who's doing it out of generosity.

Anytime you do behaviors that are the same as a "needy" person, she loses attraction. This is where she "shit tests" to make sure that you still don't need her. You're still not the needy person. Still willing to walk away.

This is why "asshole" game does work. The opposite of neediness is attractive.

Counter intuitively breaking up with her? Attractive not talking to her for days? Attractive *not listening to what she says and doing your own thing? Attractive

Flirting is really just this macro idea at a micro level. I like you, but I don't like you that much. I'm nice, but I'm not that nice ;)

I'm nice to you, but I still don't need you. Push...Pull...


Lession: This concious realization has helped me trim down my "nice guy" behaviors, with a better understanding of how that behavior is received. "Niceness" can be neediness in disguise. This is why it's an indulgence for you. While a temporary high for her too, it will also subconciously have her question whether you need her. It's a good way to ask for a shit test.